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With the soon advent of technologies I truly believe everyone should always plan on living to over 100...my two grandmothers 96 and 101...I am 69 shooting for 100...

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I don't know that there is any way to prepare for death other than how we prepare to live.  Being aware and conscious and kind and loving to ourselves and our life, and all our dear ones, while we are alive now is probably the only way to be "prepared" for one's own death.  Life certainly offers enough practice in facing difficult things as well as the lovely things.  Just practice, is all I can think. With love and blessings.

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I'm 77 now, and as far as I know, the oldest in our clan of the past several decades.  I do feel mentally alert . I am a writer.  I think writing is the thing that keeps me alert actually, and I'd like to feel that I will have at least another couple of decades to keep at it. I've kept journals for years, but have now moved on to full-scale memoirs which give me an enormous sense of having something worthwhile to do.  I think that's important for any person, whatever your age, but especially as you move up into the "senior" years.  Make sure you have something you absolutely love to do, and then share that with your family and trusted friends.  It's definitely something to live for!

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Both of my parents died in their 80's: 86 and 87.  In both cases, their last couple of years were marked with a sharp decline in health.  In fact, both died the night before they would of moved from assisted living to the nursing home section of the retirement community where they lived.  I would not be happy, i don't think, living unable to dress myself, being incontinent, needing ehlp with many ADL's.  I'm 69 now and still very active and trying new activites.  So, do I want to live to 90?  Yes, if I can still do most activities of daily living on my own and participate in community, learning activites,  But not if I'm in a nursing home having everything done for me,

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Hi 108? WOW... What would be your plan at 108? Or should I say "What plan does your son have in mine"? If 108 "Rings" for you.. then let it "Ring"...
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I definitely agree.  At present am 83, have a new hip and minimal other issues.  I think 108 as a minimum.  However, if my mind disintegrates then that is another matter but I feel as though it is still working well.  I appreciate every day I am here and pray I am  a positive example to all whom I touch.

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I intend to live to 108.  Thought it had a nice ring to it.  Told my son that I was going to live to 108 and he said, "That's the plan!"

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I wouldn’t mind reaching the 100 mark, providing I was healthy enough to enjoy it. I really love this world God created, it’s beauty and mystery, it’s people, but, to at last see the face of God, well, that’s something too.

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My mother died at 94. She lived in pain for several years and had difficulty getting around, but she was as smart and sharp as ever. I was with her as she went through the process. She'd told me a few years before she died that she was ready. However, when she went to hospice, she cried.  And then she concentrated on what she loved, her children. I was with her while she passed, talking to her and holding her hand.  I think she left us feeling content. 

My job, at 74, is to live fully.  I'm not rushing around trying to accomplish a bucket list of events.  Instead I do what I want as conditions and money allow.  I enjoy sitting on my back porch in New Orleans, watching storms come through, or drinking my morning coffee while to birds and butterflies sing and dance across the trees and flowers.  Friends and family mean a lot.  Currently I'm back up north visiting my friends who have become part of my family and watching the leaves turn.

While I was raised a Christian, I don't worry about the afterlife.  We live through heaven and hell on earth, so when the choice is mine, I pick heaven.  

As for the process of dying, I have no desire to live through the prolonged pain of disease or dementia.  But if the process is peaceful, I'll take it as I do everything else. 

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I'm 74. I plan to live to 94, then re-evaluate.  20 more years doesn't sound like a lot, especially now (The last 20 zoomed by.) But it may be a lot if my health deteriates.


@AARPTeri wrote:

Do you have a number in mind? Do you want to live to be 80, 90 or 100? How about 115 or 120?

Do you think it matters what your expectations are? I do. I think if you expect to live a long healthy life, your chances of doing so are greater.


 

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