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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 , 

I hope your daughter will one day find a way to let go of her anger and find peace. Anger can be so destructive and consuming, and our time on earth is precious. 

Marcy

[SuzanneS949035]

I hope your daughter can release her anger, with her forgiveness will come a worthwhile release of that pain.   As you know, it won't change what happened but will allow her to live a happier life unburdened from the anger.

I decided to take some money from retirement to allow me time to decide what I need/want to do.

For now, I am staying at the house, working on getting a part time job that I hope will allow me to continue to stay in my home.

Thank you for all of your support, I will pop in again.  I do appreciate you!

Hugs~

❣️

Suzanne

SuzanneS949035

[MarcyW882921]

Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 ,

It's great that you are actively exploring and finding ways to stay in your home while you think through your decisions! Being in a comfortable environment helps to facilitate clearer thinking and reduces at least one stress factor.

Marcy

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

 📎  I am thinking of you & hope you are okay @jimbohretired @MarcyW882921 @KarlaH578935 @MkK700720 @SuzanneS949035 @mr6784  💛

[MarcyW882921]

Yes, I am on my way to our competition weekend! Thanks.🎶

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  I may be wrong, but I believe grief is a LIFETIME JOURNEY.

WE try to pick up the pieces the best we can.

REMEMBER: Our luv ones are watching over us ALL THE TIME.  ‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[jimbohretired]

 YUP- Grief is indeed a lifelong journey. The love of my live went to heaven just before Christmas in 2021 so will be four years this christmas. I am actually now functioning  very well

and living life normally (whatever that is). But every once in a while I notice something that reminds me of Jan - maybe shed a few tears but not many. The solace I have is the way I was able to take care of her since Dec. 2014. It was at that point her kidneys failed and she began the downward  journey.  She ended up with a kidney transplant in 2015, two strokes one in 2016 one about 88 days after the first stroke, two broken shoulders from falls and a hip replacement. She did over 100 Dr. visits, had  the two surgeries, and recoveries, and the disabling strokes. The sad part was she recovered 100% from the first stroke but the Dr. told us to wait 90 days before we know that all is ok as  a second stroke is common within the first 90 days. She had her second and  much more disabling stroke on the 88th day. Through this all she was positive and had a great attitude.

The end came in Dec. 21 of 2021. She had contacted covid in October and the first thing the Dr. told me was that she had virtually no chance of recovering from it as she had no immune system due to the anti-rejection drugs she was on for her kidney.

And life goes on. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎@jimbohretired , SO GOOD to hear from you!!! I think it was LAST year 2024 you had mentioned a cruise with friends. Did you go?  🤔

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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[*** @jimbohretired wrote 4/3/25:

 YUP- Grief is indeed a lifelong journey. The love of my live went to heaven just before Christmas in 2021 so will be four years this christmas. I am actually now functioning  very well

and living life normally (whatever that is). But every once in a while I notice something that reminds me of Jan - maybe shed a few tears but not many. The solace I have is the way I was able to take care of her since Dec. 2014. It was at that point her kidneys failed and she began the downward  journey.  She ended up with a kidney transplant in 2015, two strokes one in 2016 one about 88 days after the first stroke, two broken shoulders from falls and a hip replacement. She did over 100 Dr. visits, had  the two surgeries, and recoveries, and the disabling strokes. The sad part was she recovered 100% from the first stroke but the Dr. told us to wait 90 days before we know that all is ok as  a second stroke is common within the first 90 days. She had her second and  much more disabling stroke on the 88th day. Through this all she was positive and had a great attitude.

The end came in Dec. 21 of 2021. She had contacted covid in October and the first thing the Dr. told me was that she had virtually no chance of recovering from it as she had no immune system due to the anti-rejection drugs she was on for her kidney.

And life goes on. ***]

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[jimbohretired]

And Yes I did do a cruise with friends (next door neighbors) and was a very good getaway. Enjoyed myself - 

Jim

[SummerOnTheWay1]

Keep stepping to feel BETTER!!!  👣

[MarcyW882921]

Back at you Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 !

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Try to WELCOME EACH DAY for what it is.

I feel we will ALWAYS have days/nights of darkness BUT as the saying goes = we will survive and be stronger.

Luv,

Nicole ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌ (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Yes, and the dawn will come.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , you are in my thoughts "busy" lady!!!

I am here if you need me.

Luv,

Nicole ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌ (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ! I'm stopping by to say hi. I was busy with chorus activities the last few days. I have had visits in my dreams lately, and more angel numbers appearing. It is all good.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 Karla @KarlaH578935 , how are you doing?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[KarlaH578935]

 I am doing okay right now.  Never quite sure what kind of day it is going to be.  Yesterday I felt drained and just wanted to sleep, but today I have more energy and I'm actually digging into the Psalms a little.  I had bible study and lunch with friends of Wednesday and felt good after.  Starting to notice  a bit of a pattern, in that, days after I have seen friends always seem to be a little harder.  I guess I need to find a balance between activity and quiet. 

Karla

[KarlaH578935]

I lost my husband Jim on Feb. 2, 2024 after a three year battle with lung cancer.  I was offered help through grief therapy groups but I was not ready to talk to others about it.  I think I was worried about hearing so many sad stories .  I am thankful there is this forum for me because unfortunately the program I was offered after his death had a one year expiration date on it.  I don't understand that.  Everyone grieves differently and there shouldn't be a time line for when you need to be ready to seek out others.  I miss him and nights are still the hardest for me.  I have wonderful kids and grandkids that are there for me and a wonderful support system in friends and my church, but there are still times I feel so alone.

Karla

[MkK700720]

Haven't stopped by in a while. But I do think of all of you. I was very grateful to find this forum at the time of loss. And wish to share my condolences for others suffering loss. Please stop by and let everyone know how you are.  Peace and love!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

1 step at a time! 👣

[mr6784]

Glad to discover this forum as I am almost only 3rd month since my oldest brother Bob 88,died September 15. I was numb for 2 months which surprised me as usually cried a lot in grief. As a priest I felt blessed to lead the celebration of his life at the funeral home. Grateful to his pastor for liturgy.And I did the service at the cemetery, with family we sang in holy circle send him off and again no tears. 
   I feel somewhat misplaced with my grief the funeral was 3 hrs from where I live and only one friend present. My brother was mentor, supportive and strong encourager . He too was a priest 38 yrs.

[mc6844]

It's a good time of year not to take anything on, or lose ourselves in what could become exhausting. Being older prevents me from that lol. And of course it does nothing to alleviate the pain of loss. So what activities help everyone on the forum refresh our minds and keep our spirits calm? Watching movies is good. No heavy topics. I like Westerns. Why? The scenery is beautiful and calming. Comedies are good. Paul Blatt Mall Cop 2 has some very funny scenes. There are many interesting series too. Of course it takes time to be able to sit still. That is ok too. I hope everyone finds something to help them refresh minds and spirits. 

[Cadee2719]

 Morning Nicole.  Yes, I got my ultrasounds scheduled for 11/26.  Being that it is taking place in the center of town, my son is taking me.  Downtown is filled with one way streets and quite busy so I AVOID it at all costs.   Finding someone to refill my diabetes medication has been a challenge.  The doctor in California has retired and the doctor I saw here cannot do it.  They are suggesting I go to the ER and have them fill it????  Moving to a new area and arranging for new doctors has taken 6 months to do and has been a CHALLENGE.  I am hoping that the family doctor I have an appointment with in December can help me resolve all these problems.    The holidays are coming and it is hard.  This will be my first Thanksgiving and Christmas in my new home; a big adjustment for me.  I miss my husband, son and brother more than ever.  November 25 my husband  & I would have celebrated our 63 wedding anniversary.  I moved to a state that my son was planning on moving to and now I am here without him.   Funny how LIFE has a different plan for me.  

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee,

I hope your ultrasound appointment goes well tomorrow and I'm glad your son is taking you. I'm so sorry that finding continuity for your medical care has been so challenging! I admire your perseverance and hope that it will yield some positive results for you very soon.

I know moving can be stressful even without having to deal with doctors. I remember feeling pretty alone when we moved south. I don't know if you are interested, but Grief Works does webinars periodically and they are doing one on December 2nd about navigating The holiday season. You can find it at illume apps.com in the Community Live tab. Maybe it would be helpful as you are trying to get through the holidays in your new home.

Sending hugs,

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎@mc6844 @MarcyW882921 @Cadee2719 @jonibee check your AARP PMs. I just sent you guys a "heads up". Been a peaceful 6 months here in the Grief Forum since the last drama this year's Mother's Day 2024. I am hoping with the visit today, we donot have a repeat performance. Missing poor and dear Allen @Therapist4u . Hope he is okay and will stop by again. Sad when certain folks feel a need to drive folks away. Lol, same person had driven me away last year Father's Day 2023. Luv you ALL, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Cadee2719]

 Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives.  I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey.  We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience.  We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics.  This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand.  Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us.   ❤️

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Cadee @Cadee2719 , thank you SO MUCH for "supporting" the grievers who stop by. This Grief Forum is suppose to be a place EVERYONE can be themselves. WE have lost so many people due to the drama and jealously. Allen @Therapist4u is the latest. I miss his HUMOR in spite of the HELL he is going through. AARP owns this Grief Forum!!!  👍👍👍

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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[*** CADEE wrote: Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives.  I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey.  We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience.  We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics.  This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand.  Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us.   ❤️  ***]

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[mc6844]

I hope Allen is ok too! 🙏 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 Good Morning Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !!!

How are you TODAY?

I am here IF and when you need me!!!

I hope you slept last night.

I am thinking of YOU.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

 Hello Nicole,

I'm hanging in there one day at a time.   His adult kids came this past weekend to get some of his things I thought they should have of his.

I'm still dragging my tail not moving forward with any routine, just trying to cover all bases and figure out if I can afford to keep my house.

I'm ok until someone asks about him, then it comes rushing back like it just happened.

HOping the woulduve, coulduve, shoulduve stuff moves on so I can stop tormenting myself and second guessing what I could have done different to help him.

I'm trying.....

I hope you're doing well.

Suzanne