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[mc6844]

I think everyone has a "window" when they can get to sleep. Around the same time each night. Keeping busy all day, exercise and keeping blood sugar even. Occasionally none of this helps. Then I play a sleep meditation or healing tape. I've read that older people sleep an average of 4 to 5 hours a night. The good news is that morning arises. I know it isn't easy. 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

[2 comments] MC @mc6844 , I am okay the NEXT morning with NO sleep IF I donot have to drive. That is NO fun at all!!! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[mc6844]

Agree! I had a night, the other night. But I was looking into the past that evening. Didn't do me any good at all. But we all have rocky nights now and then, no matter what. Part of being human I guess. 

[mc6844]

Nicole I'm sorry you're suffering with sleep issues. Having a cup of hot soup at night might help. Soup has minerals your body needs for many things. Plus it's easy to digest. During the day try eating food that contributes to good sleep like oatmeal, sweet potatoes, salads etc. Building up our systems with nutrients helps sleep. Short walks or a form of exercise gets kinks out of the muscles. Could be your body and mind are going through adjustment to life changes. Not easy, any way you look at it. Except it will more than likely get better with time. Take care, you do such wonderful work on the forum.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

[1 comment] WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.

Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD.

*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion  🤗🤗🤗

[1] We have Cadee @Cadee2719 who has SOLD HER HOUSE  💃💃💃 and moving to Idaho!

[2] Our "Social Butterfly" Marcy @MarcyW882921 has taken SOLO ROAD TRIPS AND SOCIALIZING!

[3] MC @mc6844 ?

[4] Jonibee @jonibee is TAKING CARE OF HER HEALTH! Anything to add Jonibee?

[5] And me, really need to "socialize"  🙄  but I am getting things SET UP to lay my old head somewhere in Florida.

[mc6844]

The way I can move myself forward now is how I approach things. I'm not convinced we all get healed on this earthly plane  I don't know what the afterlife will be like. I suppose it depends on the level of spirituality at the time of departure. An ongoing process. But I'm sure Nicole is referring to our healing time on earth.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

MC @mc6844 , whatever way is fine with me!!!  👍

We all have "different" ways of looking at our loss.

Some of us may be suffering mentally, spiritually, emotionally or physically - maybe all.

Bottom line - whatever "healing" you are needing RIGHT NOW is what I am referring to.

As far as the Afterlife, we will join our love ones.  💃💃💃

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

I am still in the appt stage of two more specialist to see because in todays world things are not as fast as we would like them to be..I am happy that Spring is almost upon us so planning for outside garden is on my to do list..I continue to read as knitting is out due to carpal tunnel in one hand and that's a bummer..I think that when I was the caretaker my husband needs took priority over my health needs and now I am facing the music so to speak..I will continue to remain positive in any outcome health wise and attend to that..Hoping all is fine with you all ...One day at a time...

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🤗  (1 comment) See "attached" picture!

[MarcyW882921]

Back at you Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy !

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

[1 comment] Jonibee @jonibee , those books sound awesome!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

I came across two paperback books that would be helpful in dealing with grief..One is called Zen Gardening by Veronica Ray (A down to faith philosophy) meditation along with starting anew in gardening whether it be small/large. The other one is "Healing After Loss" by Martha W. Hickman a daily meditation for working through grief..Todays messaage "I will read in the times I can be happy-which is what my loved one would want for me"also an excerpt which reads..."Whereas previously our moods seemed simply sad with occssional patches of light, now we may  find an unsetiling variety in our feelings, as happy times seem engrossing and satisfying and then we are plunged into sadness again. Perhaps we can learn to accept these mood swings, recognizing the ability of each, know light gives way to darkness and darkness to light. I believe these two would be helpful to those dealing with grief..I found them at the Salvation Army thrift store with in ones fiancial level...

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

3 comments (Tuesday 2/27/24)

  @CatherineS641676 📸  See Attachment = answers your question IF you still need an answer  📸

[CatherineS641676]

Thank you, my dear friend-I will give it a go, and again-please keep in touch. I care very much about you

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment [3/6/24]  ➡️*** @CatherineS641676 SEE CORRECTION BELOW**⬅️ (1) Go to the "Grief Forum". (2) Click on "WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)". (3) Look at top of window that opens to find "Topic Options". ➡️***Click on "Topic Options"***⬅️ (4) A drop down menu will show. Click on "Unsubscribe" - this will stop all AARP emails for this topic.  💙💙💙

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks, my friend-I'll give it a try in the morning when I am smarter♥️

[RonM32520]

So I have recently lost my older brother to cancer. He fought the hard battle with some victories but ultimately succumbing to the disease. It was hard to watch this process and I supported him in many ways. Now I find myself alone as the sole survivor of my immediate family. I was very close with my family and miss them all dearly. I find accepting the grief seems easier than accepting the loneliness of my sole survivorship. Anyone else have this revelation?

[MarcyW882921]

Ron @RonM32520 , I can't say that I've found accepting my grief easier than accepting loneliness of survivorship, but loneliness is definitely a common topic among survivors. I'm quite comfortable being alone, but have read several articles that indicate too much alone time is not healthy for our intellectual and emotional health. Even though social settings have not been an area of strength for me, I am truly trying to step out of my comfort zone and sign up for activities where I will be among other people.

Marcy

[mc6844]

It helps me to think of life as ever in motion. We are all moving forward every day. It's very hard to lose a sibling we were with from the beginning of life. There's a thin line  between life and death. So much we don't know. Stopping in at the forum can help to lighten your grief. I'm sorry for your loss.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Monday 2/19/24)

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921   💙💙💙

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

GriefWorks is based in the UK and offers a package for a fee. They do however have free monthly webinars, they send out tips for coping with grief via Email, and they have an online group where people post their thoughts. Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

GriefWorks is based in the UK and offers a package for a fee. They do however have free monthly webinars, they send out tips for coping with grief via Email, and they have an online group where people post their thoughts.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

‌👣‌‌👣‌‌👣‌  You will see your loved ones AGAIN!  ‌💙‌‌💙‌‌💙‌

“Only time and tears take away grief; that is what they are for.”

~Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

[MarcyW882921]

It's very rainy here today and not my kind of day. I did plant a couple of things outside yesterday so maybe it will be good for them.🤞🪻

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Tuesday 2/13/24)

Look at you = INSERTING a "link" = getting better at using the site  💃💃💃

Thanks for article - will READ after Walmart TODAY when I get there  🙄🙄🙄

Yes, "dragging" my feet/lol  😂🤣

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , this is a TOPIC my family NEVER "allowed" = emotions and sadness. I brought up my only child (a daughter) to feel COMFORTABLE with how she is feeling.

I stayed DEPRESSED and ashamed.

Nope, NO MORE!!!

YOU are a "blessing"  💙💙💙

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

In a discussion with a social worker, the topic of traumatic grief came up. I was horrified at the sound of the words. Coming from a family that had your "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy, the thought that someone would be so immobilized by grief was unheard of and unacceptable. 

Reading information from different sources helped me to learn about the subject and broaden my thought process. Here is one article that is pretty straightforward and my be helpful.

traumatic-grief

Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

In a discussion with a social worker, the topic of traumatic grief came up. I was horrified at the sound of the words. Coming from a family that had your "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy, the thought that someone would be so immobilized by grief was unheard of and unacceptable. 

Reading information from different sources helped me to learn about the subject and broaden my thought process. Here is one article that is pretty straightforward and my be helpful.

traumatic-grief

Marcy

[SueS788527]

I'm not sure I received a current posting about Beatlelover KT who stepped away from this site last year.  I think there were a number of encouraging words to KT and I hope is she doing ok.  While most folks posting comments are well-intentioned, there may be a few that have issues.  I am happy to say that I don't remember seeing any myself.  On the other hand, I have been very self-reflective over the last 2 years, so I may have missed a nuance or two.  In my view, unless someone is really out of line, I would give grace to anyone posting and understand that they are probably in pain and could be lashing out in what they perceive to be a safe zone.  I don't know and hope those individuals seek grief support to help them work through their issues.  This site is effective for open comments but does not take the place of professional grief support.  That is why I joined several grief groups, most of which were helpful in some way.  Sue

[CatherineS641676]

Same goes for me-I haven't visited this site in for quite some time-not sure why I was tagged on this. Thanks for letting me know I'm not special for some unknown reason.😁

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Nicole439658 , I saw a post from 9-15 in an Email but don't see it here. I'm glad that you got some good news from your Medicare prescription coverage. Perhaps things are starting to settle in with your new coverage. I had my fingers crossed that it would happen for you soon!

Marcy

[BeatleloverKT]

Two days ago I posted under the “How are you doing” thread, which has gotten buried under the other threads. It was to let everyone know that I wasn’t doing well and would be stepping away temporarily to focus on my mental health. It has been brought to my attention that it could upset some people and I was made to feel that I was not wanted on this site anymore. That person knows who she is. I have always thought I gave good advice and my presence helped people but apparently I was mistaken. I appreciate all the help I’ve received along the way on this forum. If I’m mistaken in these feelings, that person could answer my PM and see how I feel. But not the case so I will be stepping away permanently. There is no worse feeling in the world to feel that you and your contributions are not welcomed. God bless you all 😥

[MarcyW882921]

Beatle @BeatleloverKT ,

I appreciate that you let us know what is going on with you and I'm very sorry to see the rest of your post. I respect your self-assessment and effort to care for your needs by taking some time away. Just to let you know, I have always found you to be very caring and supportive. I wish you all the best and you will be missed.

Marcy