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[CatherineS641676]

I so love this forum. I have had a couple of rough days-yesterday was my sissie's birthday and we always celebrated her day and earth day -that was our excuse to have 2 celebrations on the same day. We had so much fun with that. I always hope that she never felt that I let her down in any way, as she was such a champion at having everyone's back. I will always treasure our time together-she was so fun, and funny, and my best friend. I will always miss her. 

[mc6844]

Catherine, I'm so sorry for your loss. I looked on my sister as best friend too. She passed of ovarian cancer over 10 yrs ago. I remember feeling awful for such a long time. A sibling is someone who has known you since birth. The familiarity is so missed. I'm sure your sister holds much love and devotion in her heart for you always. Take care.

[MarcyW882921]

My takeaway from your post is that you and sissie had fun and celebrated on her special day and earth day. She celebrated with you and did not feel you let her down in any way. Your treasure of the time you had with your sissie keeps her alive and with you while you are still here on earth.

Marcy

[Anonymous]

1 comment (4/23/23) Dear Catherine @CatherineS641676 , she is looking down at you and smiling. Soon you will see her again my friend, Nicole 🤗🤎

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks, Nicole. It really does mean a lot to me that you spend so much time making sure we are all heard and cared about. Jewels in your crown, my friend.

[Cadee2719]

I have met so many wonderful people on this site and it has helped me a lot.  I read a chapter in Widow to Widow last night and it made me laugh.  She was saying how once her husband died, EVERYTHING in the house broke.  Well that is me.  My dryer, washer, oven and stove top and water heater ALL stopped working.  They were all old and time to be replaced, BUT did they all have to go out at the same time?  I will be very busy now calling repair men and buying new appliances.  Again, I want to thank all of the wonderful, caring people on this site that truly are helping me through this difficult time.

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee,

It's great that you related the book and what was happening in your own life and then laughed about it. Definitely not the way you want things to happen (going all at once), but it will be a distraction for a little while. 

Sorry about the circumstances, but good to hear from you!

[mc6844]

Cadee so sorry to hear. What an ordeal. You will be quite busy. How nice to get new appliances though! Some time ago I got a Home Protection warranty because I saw the way things were going. The monthly payment is reasonable. And helps give peace of mind. I've also figured out creative home repairs lol. Not for House Beautiful magazine but works for me. Take care.

[Anonymous]

One Step At A Time 🤗🤎

[mc6844]

This forum helps in ways that other places don't. I guess because the specific topic of coping with loss is addressed. The good news is also that it is a process. Every day is a new day. And each day is a little different than the previous day. One foot in front of the other. Take care everyone.

[CarolynS674392]

I'm here tonight.  I hope we hear from all the others.

[mc6844]

I appreciate this good place. And all your efforts Nicole staying in touch with folks. I'm busy with house things etc. that I wasn't able to attend to for years. Whether I get to it on a daily basis isn't important. It keeps me going for now. We have to remember to slow down too. I hope all on this site are well. And remember to stop in, like you said Nicole, and let everyone know how you are. Otherwise, people tend to worry. Also, seeking other sources of support is wise at times like this. Take care everyone.

[CatherineS641676]

Well said, our sister friend!  As my grandson taught me, STB (same thing back!)

[Anonymous]

3 comments (4/20/23) So GOOD to hear from you @mc6844 💃🥳

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks for all you do, our Nicole. You are our treasure

[mc6844]

I agree!

[CarolynS674392]

She sure is.

[Anonymous]

(1 comment) I just received 3 AARP emails telling me you gave me 3 kudos! Thank you for your "kudos" Catherine @CatherineS641676 = WE know you are alive and kicking!!! 💃🥳

[CatherineS641676]

Sorry to have been so absent of late-we are helping my 93 yr old mother in law with some projects. I honestly think the exhaustion of so much to do each day drowns out the time I spend in my own thoughts, which right now, is a good thing. Thank you for your caring thoughts to and for all of us in this forum. I appreciate this safe place, and you, so very much

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I don't always get to email. But I wanted to thank you for your kindness and thoughtful greetings. At such an awful time when you have your own concerns. I'm sure heaven will bless you for remembering the widows, widowers, and all grieving.

[Anonymous]

(1 comment) Dear @mc6844 , you guys are my ONLINE family. I donot know what I would do WITHOUT all of you!!!

Together, WE will all "survive" and figure out our Healing Journey in OUR TIME.

So good hearing from you my friend, Nicole 🤎🤗

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole and for all your caring help.

[Cadee2719]

Thank You for checking on me.  Easter was hard.  My son and I put flowers on the grave and had a quiet dinner  Then came the one year anniversary of my first born son's death and I continued to remember and grieve.  Then came my husband's birthday and it made me realize that I AM ALONE and now totally responsible for all things.  Being married for 61 years and losing my spouse left a HUGE void in my life.  I am trying to move forward but I feel that the loss of my son, husband and brother within a short period of time makes it impossible to do.  I know life goes on, but I have to discover how "I" fit into this plan.  The book Widow to Widow is helpful but I find that right now it is hard to concentrate on it.  I do appreciate hearing from you and knowing that there are people out there that know what I am going through.  Thank You for your kindness and remembering me.

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee, your multiple losses over a short time period are beyond overwhelming! You are now responsible for all things, but you are not all alone. You said you were with your son putting flowers on the grave so you have a son. You also have us here online. If you like being with people in person, maybe there are bereavement groups in your area where you could find some support.

Being married for 61 years is a long time and this kind of loss definitely leaves a huge void! You have been part of a couple all of that time and now there is a need to discover who you are as an individual. If you are finding it hard to concentrate on a whole book, you could try going to a smaller chunk of information. I like reading a daily affirmation. It's short and it gets my thought process started in a positive direction.

We are experiencing this grief and trying to find our way through and around it in whatever way(s) we can.

[mc6844]

Cadee, 61 yrs is a long time. For me it was almost 50 yrs. Married at 23. But we all managed to get through this crazy life, didn't we? That's hopeful in itself. Being together so long I'm sure your loved one is close. I recently met a friend at an event. We didn't get a chance to talk at length. I wondered who the man in back if her was.  Being very protective guiding her down the receiving line. I knew her husband had recently passed. So I asked a relative next to me, "who is that?" She said, "her husband." I said, "I thought he died?" She said, "he did."  My friend didn't seem aware of it. I always say there's a thin line between life and death. I find comfort and strength in that. While knowing I need to attend to the practical. Time takes time. Take care Cadee.

[Anonymous]

(1 comment)@MarcyW882921 🤗🤎

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks for thinking of me. It has been an incredibly rainy day today and it is challenging for me to be inside all day!

[Anonymous]

(2 comments) 🧲 LAW OF ATTRACTION WHILE GRIEVING: One day at a time. One thought at a time. Last year I lost both my parents within 4 months of each other. As I allowed my thoughts to get away from me, I could see all the negative come crashing around me. I was dropping things, breaking things, everything in my personal life started falling apart. I wound up stranded at an airport 200 miles away from where I needed to be (my father's funeral) but once I took notice and became aware, I stopped and said okay, I know what I need. I need to clear my energy, clear my negative vibes. What always works for me is the ocean. I knew I needed it to help me balance my thoughts and center myself. We cannot control what happens to others around us, but we can control our own thoughts and feelings. The ocean helped me to do that. It's always been my heaven. Of course it doesn't help me from not being sad that they are gone, but it does help me to bring better feeling thoughts which in turn brings better, more positive happy situations into my life. It's okay to feel happy even though you are sad at the situation. Anonymous

[mc6844]

Nicole, thank you for sharing that.

[MarcyW882921]

I think it was in one of Stephen Covey's books that I read about looking at the word responsible. He broke it down into a person being "response able" and it is what the anonymous person is describing. The human ability to look at and assess situations, thoughts, and feelings and choose how we respond to them.