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[DianeB887812]

I never had children. I worked at jobs that required my 24hr support. Payed well.  But I did not think it would be fair to try to raise a child when I would not have time to do the job properly. My first husband was a professional sailor. So I was on my own a lot during the first marriage. I’m probably going to get a chihuahua next year. I need a rest for now. If I get too lonely I can always go to see my older brother in Va. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Diane , you had me "giggling" when I read your post AGAIN after Walmart about what your doctor said. I MISSED the part about "have to be rich"/lol  😂🤣

Hey, Florida seems to be the area all the rich and famous seem to be moving to of late.

I had posted I wanted a Sugar Daddy in Florida LAST YEAR May 2023 when I was doing BOTH Virginia and Florida BEFORE reality hit me and Medicare Stress [change in doctors  😭😭😭].

GLAD I took my time now with my daughter being laid off 4/11 of this year 2024.

It was like LIFE had DELAYED me and now understand why.

On the subject of men, don't hate them, but donot need one to be happy or secure. Spent WAY TOO many years looking after and putting up with to return to that life.

Lol, you going for #3 hubbie???

WE got LOTS AND LOTS of potentials here in Virginia as you know from living here. But I know you HATE Winter. Maybe he will SPLIT his time between your apartment in Florida and his whatever here in Virginia.

Lol, YOUNGER than you too...

Thanks for the much needed chuckle!!!  😂🤣

Oh, I got a man  🐈  and he thinks he is paying rent here in my Studio Apt.  🙄🙄🙄

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

@DianeB887812  8pm

[DianeB887812]

Glad you got a chuckle and did the favor of giving one back. I found during my last grief recovery laughing was the best medicine. Even when I was crying. Thank You!

[iLuvAutumn]

(2 comments) Lol Diane @DianeB887812 , it is like LIFE saw I needed another CHATTERBOX here as I know I wear everyone out with my NOSEY SELF!!!  🤣😂

Thank you SO MUCH for stopping by each day.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Nicole you DO NOT wear us out.  We look forward to your updates.  You bring smiles and joy to our days.  There are days that you and now Diane are the only reason to smile.  I hope people recognize and appreciate the commitment you give to this site.  I would "redefine" NOSEY to CARING.  

[DianeB887812]

@iLuvAutumn ,just in case you’re holding your breath for the results from my cardiologist, I’m just fine. He recomends my next husband is a healthy YOUNG specimen that can take care of me and will not require so much effort on my part. I will add to that is he needs to be rich. LOL

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , my thoughts are with you dear friend that you find a SOLUTION for your migraines.

So sorry your present medication is SO EXPENSIVE!!!  😤😤😤

It is time for Medicare to COVER these meds so old folks can FUNCTION. Gosh, who can hire a maid to do what needs to be done on a DAILY BASIS???

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @iLuvAutumn . I think since we are "retired" it is up to us to speak up about our senior needs to those who make these decisions.

Marcy

[jonibee]

I am "weathering the heat" try to light chores in the a.m. before it heats up ..Follow the sun by closing shades/curtains/windows have indoor fans on as I am not an A/C fan as the p.m comes around and I have windsocks outside so I can see visibly that there is a breeze I begin to draw the curtains and open screened windows for the night so one can sleep ..Drink plenty of fluids through out the day and eat light cucumber and watermelon and tomatoes are good ..Don;t forget if you start to feel lightheaded cold cloths  and something with a little salt even soup which is usually salty will help besides gatorade ..Also at night a cold wet cloth helps keep the body temp down by moving around the body ...Time to enjoy that book you have wanted to read and take it easy...

[iLuvAutumn]

 (1 comment) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , any CHORUS UPDATES???

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @iLuvAutumn ,

I love this! Tonight is my regular rehearsal. I got in my tennis play and water aerobics this morning and I'll get my music fix tonight.

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

2 comments [Monday 7/15/24 6:14am ET]

How are YOU?  🤔

Good luck with your Eye Appointment TODAY Diane @DianeB887812 !!!  👍👍👍

My trip to Kroger TODAY to cash in my WINNING Scratch-Off Lottery Tickets.  💃💃💃

Everyone FIND YOUR PEACE,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Eyes are doing good. Pressure is managed with eye drops. And although the last couple of months my adrenaline levels caused higher blood glucose levels and higher blood pressures, no damage to my retinas has been done. So I just need to relax and keep up with my walking and diet. 

[DianeB887812]

Congrats on the lucky scratch off card. 
I’m getting ready to go so will check back in when I can read my screen. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Dear STRONG Jonibee @jonibee , not too much longer for your surgery. WE hope you will let us know how you are doing AFTER. As usual, NO PRESSURE to do this!!!  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JONIBEE wrote: My surgery is on Sept. 6th a 4 step plan..first a mapping of vein via ultrasound./surgery/followup week later then 2 weeks another follow up..So four viits to outpatient of medical bldg..Then the other leg about a month later same process..I wish it could be sooner but that's the way it is...Thank You for thinking of me.. ***]

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @iLuvAutumn ,

After reading a piece in the newspaper about a young woman who received significant relief from migraine headaches through auricular therapy administered by an acupuncturist, I decided to try it. Of course it is not covered by Medicare, but I still thought it was worth a shot. My latest medication prescribed by a neurologist is quite expensive even with prescription coverage and even at about 50% savaings in Canada it is still expensive. My next acupuncture follow-up is Tuesday.

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

(2 comments) Cadee  , I am sitting here TRYING to figure out the BEST solution to my ever INCREASING living accommodations from h.ll. 😭😭😭

Gosh, I still MARVEL at you picking up and leaving your h.ll in California.

NOW you are in Idaho, yes - dealing with getting your medical stuff set up BUT finally SAFE!!!  💃💃💃

Anyway, I will update you guys on my MOVING PROJECT. If Cadee did it, so can I!!!  👍👍👍

Luv you ALL,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

@Cadee2719 

[Cadee2719]

  Nicole, it is important to do the research.  I spent hours daily checking out places in Idaho (having never been there).  I went to visit my brother and spent almost three weeks driving with my son to several sections of Idaho.  I researched the "safest" cities, weather, cost of homes,  cost of living, medical care, etc.  My research became a full time job.   My career was in housing thousands of student at a University and one of the programs I had was educating students wishing to live off campus.  I emphasized the importance of visiting the area all times of the day and night, talking to neighbors, being familiar with the crime in the area, checking out the area to see how convenient it would be for them to shop, see doctors, commute to school,  etc.  Remember my number one priority was to be safe and I HAD to leave CA to accomplish this.  I  know you will be diligent about this process and do what is best for you.  Maybe you should consider a guest house or a duplex where you won't have to contend with a lot of neighbors.  Do your neighbors above you own the property or are they renting?   You are in my prayers and I am hoping that you will find a home that will give you Peace and Happiness.  You deserve it.

[DianeB887812]

Good afternoon. Got up early today then spent the morning working my daily puzzles. Took my walk and then checked my mail. HMPH! Nothing from AARP. Checked junk mail and there they were. All my lovely messages got sent to junk! So I sat and fixed them all. I did not tell my mail client to send AARP mail to spam so I have no idea how that happened. 

Anyway here I am checking to make sure my new friends are all ok. 
l will be busy tomorrow getting myself out the door for my eye appt. I’ll be using Uber because I always get dilated for a retina check. That will make it hard for me to read my mail until sometime in the afternoon, so do not panic if  I’m a bit late tomorrow. I will see you all tomorrow. Until then LUV TO ALl. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, hope you ENJOYED your walk THIS MORNING. Do you change routes? When I walk, I do to eliminate the boredom

It is nearly 7pm for us BOTH (you in Florida, me in Virginia) and AFTER a much needed ALL DAY NAP  🙄🙄🙄,  I am headed to get my soak ready.  👍👍👍

Was TOO TIRED before nap to do the soak = falling asleep.

The NAP was possible as UPSTAIRS neighbors from h.ll have been GONE since Friday.  💃💃💃

Need to check mailbox and take trash to dumpster way in the back TONIGHT. Hate this chore, but....

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

I also took a nap today. 

My 30 min morning walk is a lovely tree lined sidewalk. If I want a longer walk, I can continue and circle the extended block. That takes 90 min. 

And if I want to take a hike, I can walk to the near by park and take a forest trail. That can take 2-3 hours. 

Every one is used to seeing me walking and waves and says hi. Even the maintenance crew as they zip by in their golf carts. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(4 comments) Any other Nero Wolfe FANS out there? Fed Mr. at 6am and NOW back in bed LISTENING to this Audiobook. Overtired and you know how that is. Tired but not falling asleep. Anyway, audiobooks have saved me many times from myself. And what I mean is, we need REST to COPE with what life brings our way. Many nights audiobooks have been my SLEEP AID. So grateful  💃💃💃  So tell me about the BOOKS you like - the ones you read/listen to for PLEASURE.

[Cadee2719]

  Are you familiar with the Libby Library App.  You sign up at your local library and you are able to get books that you can read/listen to from a number of libraries.  If they do not have it they place you on a waiting list to receive it.  Check with your local library about it.

[DianeB887812]

I find it difficult to read but I have a movie library and a Streaming service. Last night I watched and fell asleep to “His Dark Materials” I also watch “Pride and Prejudice“ a lot. I had a year where I watched “Contact” over and over. Many of the Marvel movies are also favorites. My walking play list songs are therms from many of my favorite movies. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Diane @DianeB887812 , I use to be an AVID reader and LIBRARY patron.

As I type this post, I glanced over at the 3 books I am SUPPOSE to be reading.  🙄🙄🙄

Have you WALKED?

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

On my way out the door. Be back in 30 min. 

[iLuvAutumn]

1 comment [Saturday 7/13/24 2:28am ET - yes a restless night]

How are YOU doing?  🤔

Lol, one of my nights of restlessness but know this too shall pass!!!  👍👍👍

HAPPY DANCE, neighbors ABOVE me was NOT here LAST night.  💃💃💃

Their car was still here yesterday morning (Friday) and I had grit my teeth for a day of them NOT at work and on my LAST NERVE. But life RESCUED me and they left at lunch time. Am I getting a PEACEFUL WEEKEND???

Mr. No Name was VERY WEIRD yesterday. Was lounging on the SIDE of my porch TWICE instead of ON porch/steps or UNDER my car. Lol, about gave me my 1st heart attack as I was busy looking UNDER my car to see IF he needed to come in for water and food. Hmmm, interesting.

Then last night I was OUTSIDE about the time I turned on my Porch Light (9pm) talking to Rosa as we were BOTH concerned about a RANDOM CAR parked in front of our apt building. Lol, she is nosey like me (we the UNOFFICIAL NEIGHBORHOOD WATCH). WE will ask folks HANGING out in FRONT of OUR apts how they are and IF they waiting on someone = drug dealers and their customers NO LONGER hang out in FRONT of our apts.  👍👍👍

Anyway, 2 young guys was backed in BESIDE my car which is also backed in. And yes, smoking their LEGAL weed. I explained to the nice youngsters that this OLD lady has allergies and ONE window in her Studio Apt which she has had to CLOSE earlier than planned due to the weed scent in parking lot. Gosh, go smoke it in the woods of which we have LOTS on our hill. Anyway, they APOLOGIZED and hopefully this was a ONE TIMER.

So Mr. interrupts me and Rosa's chat as I had to go INSIDE to let him IN.  🙄🙄🙄

Another WEIRD change. After eating and drinking water, he goes UNDER MY BED. This is the 1st time. Okay, wants some ALONE TIME I see/lol. So I ignore him and watch Poirot on PBS and about ready to fall out my chair = sleepy.

Mr. is still UNDER MY BED.  🤔🤔🤔

He REFUSED to relocate out my door. Finally had to use my broom to GENTLY nudge him AWAKE and hopefully out my door. Lol, I even SHUT my door which would usually have him DASHING OUTSIDE. Nope - NO movement. Totally EXHAUSTED and NOT wanting to FALL ASLEEP while he is in my apt, I finally got him out. Lol, he was very angry and fought my broom. He sat on my porch LOOKING at my now CLOSED door like I donot believe she put me out look. Felt really bad, but needed to crawl into bed for the night.

Now to see IF he stops by AGAIN...

I HOPE so. He always came back in spite of Ms. Geraldine and her son using a broom to move him out of their way and PREVENT him from getting into the apt. Nope, he was NEVER allowed INSIDE and the whole complex would HEAR her YELLING at him EVERY MORNING. Lol, she would TRIP over him coming out her door IF she was NOT paying attention.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

Maybe that explains why he didn't want to sleep in the bed you provided.  He wants to sleep under YOUR bed in the house. 🤣  Sorry kid, you got yourself a cat that loves you.

[iLuvAutumn]

 (1 comment) Lol Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, I NEARLY skipped TODAY but knew you would be asking = so didnot skip. It is nearly 7:30pm for us BOTH and just finished my soak!!!  👍👍👍

Hmmm, skin actually looking NORMAL. The nails still I guess brownish purple.

Anyway, TOMORROW will be day #3 soak and 12 more days for bloodwork.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Good going! Keep up the good work. I’m proud of you!