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[iLuvAutumn]

📸  Attachment  📸  (3 comments) Hi Cadee, Doctors Diane aka Dr. Walker and Dr. Nicole aka Dr. Nosey CHECKING UP on you.  🤗🤗🤗

[1] Any luck with an appointment with your NEW Diabetes Doctor? 🤔  I did go back to read your OLD POSTS, but may have missed this appointment. Apologies IF I did.

[2] Glad you have an appointment in NOVEMBER with your Rheumatologist!!!  💃💃💃

[3] Again apologies IF I missed this appointment - Good Luck with getting an appointment SOON with your NEW Cardiologist.

*** Please UPDATE us when and IF you want to. WE nosey but do CARE about YOU/lol  ***

@Cadee2719 @DianeB887812 

[Cadee2719]

  My cardiologist in CA sent the "referral".  Hopefully, I should hear from the new cardiologist soon.  I got the new refill prescription for my rheumatoid arthritis yesterday.  The material that came with it is scary.  It says it "may cause cancer" and that it is used to treat cancer!!!!  Now I have to figure out should I take a medication for my arthritis that can cause cancer?  Can I tolerate the pain until I see the new rheumatologist and avoid the medication I fought so hard to refill?  Is the cure worse than the illness?  I am so confused.  I am thinking I should maybe get the family doctor next and that they could do the referrals to the other doctors that I need.  

[DianeB887812]

Cadre,

There are many medications with that warning. I have been taking one for my diabetes for the last 30 years. You have to weigh the risks. If you or members of your family have a tendency towards cancer, you might not want to risk it. But if not getting help with the pain might be worth the risk. My Dr checks me for cancer every 6 months. If it does start up catching it early will keep the damage to a minimum. You do need to have a discussion with your doctor and weigh the risks vs the rewards. In the end it is your decision to make. 

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You for your response.  I have a lot to think about.  For now, I am not going to increase it to 8 pills as the doctor suggested.  I may eliminate one pill and see what affect that will have.  The medication I am taking is also used as a chemo treatment for cancer???  I called the new rheumatologist's office and asked for them to call me if they had a cancellation.  I would feel better seeing the new doctor and getting his advice.  I am really shocked by how long it is taking me to get appointments with new doctors here.  Again, I appreciate your responding to me.

[iLuvAutumn]

 (1 comment) Any WEEKEND PLANS???

Me, TRY to stay out of jail for str.ngling my neighbors ABOVE me/lol. 👍👍👍

And work on OPTIONS to move to while I blast my RADIO on my FAVORITE FM STATION to tune them out ALL WEEKEND.  💃💃💃

Hmmm, I bet OUR Cadee @Cadee2719 will be cooking for her neighbors = that is WHY I need to move next door to her.

And Bionic Marcy @MarcyW882921 probably on another Road Trip.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  My neighbors all love to cook and bake as well.  Brittany makes all kinds of bread and Briana cooks.  My table at the Block Party was a hit.  I had watermelon (the firemen loved it because they said it hydrated them), a bowl of candy (kids loved it), chips, pretzels and I baked a Pecan Praline cake which the new mothers loved.   The one neighbor said his kids were mad at him because he ate half of the lasagne himself!  😁  It is fun cooking and baking for people that enjoy it.  I have already scheduled  the two little girls next door to come and bake Christmas cookies with me.  My poor son; his air conditioner went out in his car!  106 and no air.  I let him take my car.  He took it in; they said they fixed it and when he arrived home, it went out again.  He thinks it is a short in the system.  I didn't know that it got so hot here but I am not complaining.   It was 123 where my friend in CA lives!!!!!!!!    Hope your feet get better soon and I hope that Allen is ok.  Glad to see that Dr. Diane is taking care of herself.  Sorry that my thoughts are all over the place today.

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by  💃💃💃

Toes looking BETTER since I did my Foot Soak yesterday, will do one today. Thanks for asking!!!  👍👍👍

Lol, oh YES - I now keep my purse, car keys in a small plastic container from Dollar Tree and had ordered a SPARE set of Car Keys. Spent WAY TOO MANY mornings crying - piss.d - stressed when the keys seem to disappear.  😱😱😱

When are those Medical Appointments????

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Eyes Monday

Heart Tuesday 

I’ll report after each. Not expecting any big news. 

[iLuvAutumn]

1 comment [Friday 7/12/24 5:44am ET]

How are YOU?  🤔

Quiet day for me = NO errands. Lol, was suppose to make that LONG DELAYED trip to the Laundry Mart YESTERDAY. Yes, the one I usually do EVERY SPRING = wash Winter Stuff (including comforter) to store for NEXT Winter. Between the extended Winter this time and storms, yours truly has NOT been this year. Will try week after next.  🙄🙄🙄

Need the space in my Studio Apt for SUMMER stuff until FALL arrives.

SO GRATEFUL Summer is only 3 months (well, suppose to be).  💃💃💃

LUV SPRING AND FALL.  👍👍👍

Well let me go empty the container in my Utility Room before it overflows./lol  🤣😂

Overnights when I do sleep cuts it close. Sleepless nights I can keep an eye on it.

Mr. is also outside asleep on my porch. I guess he came home after midnight last night as he was not there when I checked.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

I’m feeling kinda normal this morning. My biggest problem is I keep losing things. My all time favorite scissors were MIA and after two days of inspecting every inch of my one bedroom apartment, I gave up and ordered a new one. I’m now double checking the location of important things like my keys and phone. I may buy some Air tags to put on important things until this part of the grief recovers. I am very dependent on the driving instructions my phone provides. I know this will pass, but it is darned annoying. 

Meanwhile, I also have two Dr appointments next week. Time to check my eye pressures and the cardiologist wants me in for my 4 month checkup. I’m glad my blood pressure has come back to normal. Those last couple of weeks with my husband were very stressful and all my numbers were very out of wack. 

How are those toes doing? 

[iLuvAutumn]

  (1 comment) Hello Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, this is your patient Nicole letting you know I just did my Vinegar & Hot Water (ends up being warm water when vinegar added) Foot Soak!!!  👍👍👍

Lol, now that I have you keeping an eye on my toes, I will be doing this daily.

So HARD to just sit, but made myself work on my LOGIC PUZZLE BOOK. Helps to pass the time and give my OLD BRAIN a workout.  🙃

Thank you for CARING my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Good for you!  I have lots of puzzles. They keep my mind from constantly worrying. I religiously do the Times puzzles every morning with my coffee. 

[iLuvAutumn]

@Therapist4u  🤗🤗🤗  @mc6844  🤗🤗🤗

(7 comments) WE ARE THINKING OF YOU!!!

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I've been clearing closets etc. It was too much to do. It's somewhat better.  But too tiring for me. Hope everyone on the forum is ok. And I hope your feet feel better.  Take care!

[MarcyW882921]

I second that thought!

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

(4 comments) Marcy, I am use to OUR MC being MIA/lol and know she will POP UP usually when I am asleep and does Bionic Kudo Session.  👍👍👍

But Allen is usually on the site each day especially in the Front Porch Forum. His pal Frozen @Frozenoem  posted TODAY so I am hoping he responds so I know he is okay.

Such a caring fellow going thru MAJOR medical stuff.  😭😭😭

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[*** MARCY wrote: I second that thought! Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

You are a good soul Nicole @iLuvAutumn ! I hope Allen will show up soon to say hello. We are sending positive vibes his way for some healing and peace.

Marcy

[Therapist4u]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921

Hope you are doing well!🙂

Anyway...

Stay safe....&...Take care!

Please have a wonderful week/end too!

☮️  🚤  🌄🍦  ~Allen 🌈 ⛵  🎨 🛶

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Allen @Therapist4u just gave his pal Frozen @Frozenoem in the Front Porch Forum a kudo = so he is okay!!!  👍👍👍

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[*** MARCY wrote: You are a good soul Nicole @iLuvAutumn ! I hope Allen will show up soon to say hello. We are sending positive vibes his way for some healing and peace. Marcy ***]

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[Therapist4u]

Yes....Allen is OK 👍....

well....

MOST of the time  🙄😄...LOL!

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by  💃💃💃

Are they FERAL or belong to someone?

My boy likes the sidewalks and under cars. Lol, use to be Ms. Geraldine's car and sidewalk [still is when she randomly stops by to see her son since moving out]. Now mine since I now feed him. SMART cat!!!  👍👍👍

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

They are owned. Or should I say they own two of my neighbors. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(2 comments) ANYONE VOLUNTEERING OR WOULD LIKE TO?  🤔

[1] I know Marcy @MarcyW882921 does, she had posted. Are you still volunteering? How do you find volunteer gigs?

[2] ME - suppose to sit down and Google Virginia for military volunteer setups to see what's out there all the time. Not just for Memorial or Veteran's day. Will post on this more.  👍👍👍

[3] Anyone else???

[DianeB887812]

My local YMCA has a lot of opertunities for volunteers. Once I feel I have my feet back under me, I may give it a try. 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @iLuvAutumn ,

Yes I do still volunteer. Initially, I found volunteer opportunities through a religious institution and I continue to be involved with their projects. They are very active with the community and send out opportunities monthly. I also volunteer to help out friends and neighbors both within and outside my own development. Then, I noticed a posting about a year ago from our county elections office that they needed volunteers to work at polling locations so I have signed on with them too.

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) It was the BRAND he didnot like Cadee @Cadee2719 . Found out by OPENING another pack and he literally GOBBLED it down. Gosh, I felt so bad for thinking I was his option/lol.

I tried to find packet in trash, will look again so as NOT to buy again.

It was one from Walmart.

I got a system so I DO NOT run out and have a VARIETY for him.

Hmmm, will be interesting to see IF he likes the $1.25 Dollar Tree packs.  🙄🙄🙄

Anyway, he certainly WORKED VERY HARD this morning, poor darling = following me all over my Studio Apt, luving on me, talking to me and leaving & returning several times. I guess he had gone to go see if Ms. Geraldine's son left some food on their porch.

After eating, he has been KNOCKED OUT UNDER MY CAR all day from this morning.

Opened my door at lunch time, looked at me and went back to sleep. Hey, got to get rested for TONIGHT's prowling.

Does anyone have any dogs and/or cats in your NEW neighborhood?  🤔

Spotted any FERAL cats?  🤔

He seems to be the ONLY one on my level. There are 3 levels of apts on the hill. I am on 2nd, office on 1st where they flood when it rains.  😱😱😱

3rd level has some EXPENSIVE townhouses and old folks. Mainly retired military. Nice folks.

Nicole  🐈🐱

[DianeB887812]

YAWNNN! Guess it is time to get up. 

Actually I did sleep in, but did get up around 9 am. Went shopping for a few items I had run out of. I spotted some Cornish game hens. I haven’t had those since my mom made them. So I got a pair and they are in the oven right now. I like picking meat off bones so this is going to be a treat. Otherwise things are going smoothly here. 
We have two cats in my apt building. A long hair pure black called Midnight and a tri colored named Morris. Midnight likes to sleep on the roof of my convertable. Midnight likes the sidewalks. Neither likes to be petted. But I talk to them. 

[jonibee]

I came across a book titled "Healing After Loss' by Martha W. Hickman ,,It's a daily meditaion for working through grief..Here is an exerpt from Jan. 7th "Regret is an appalling waste of energy. You can't build on it. It is only for wallowing in  Katherine Mansfiedl

Of course there are things we regret.  Things we wish we'd done differently.  Even where there has been time to say all the appropriate things images will flash in our minds that we'd give a lot to be able to change. Surely our loved one has forgiven us, can we forgive ourselves?

"I;m sorry.  Please know that I loved you.  I know that  you loved me..

I find this book very uplifting to read on a day to day basis...Im my own life I have had both mental pain of losing  my husband and the dealing with physical body pain ..both will take time to heal....fpr tjere os always "HOPE"...

[MarcyW882921]

Joni @jonibee ,

Beautiful! Thanks for sharing!

Marcy

[jonibee]

For there is always HOPE..my fingers got away from me...