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[Winter2025VA]

1 comment (Monday 10/16/23)

Thank you SO MUCH Amy @agoyer !!! 💃💃💃

It was SO GOOD hearing from you,

Luv you Nicole 🤗

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✏@agoyer wrote:

@Winter2025VA Hello! Jane shared a link to one of my columns about grief and loss over the holidays, and a state-based webinar coming up. I will also be doing a webinar about caregiving during the holidays on Nov. 16th - stay tuned for information about that! 

My column on life after caregiving and dealing with grief might be helpful too: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/life-balance/info-2020/finding-purpose-after-caregiving-ends.html 

Take care,

Amy Goyer, AARP Family & Caregiving Expert

Author, Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving

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[agoyer]

@Winter2025VA Good to hear from you too!!!! ❤️

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-16-23)

⚠️QUESTION OF THE DAY/NIGHT!

Did you do something (or plan to) that brought you peace TODAY/TONIGHT? 🤔

Me: Not yet, BUT getting a Good Morning from Kimberly @KimberlyM389662 , Beasley 🐕, Munchkin 🐈 and Blu 🐈 made me SMILE! 💃💃💃

*** (1) I need to go READ the material OUR dear Jane @JaneCares (2) and OUR dear Amy  @agoyer for us. ***

Their information will HELP to get me "mentally and emotionally" READY for NEXT month - Thanksgiving.👍 ***

Nicole 🤗

[KimberlyM389662]

I know what you mean Nicole. I don't celebrate Valentine's Day because that was my Dad's birthday but, St. Patrick's Day was our 32nd anniversary of meeting and then Mother's and Father's Day, what would have been our 31st wedding anniversary. We also had birthdays in September. Now we are approaching Thanksgiving, my daughter's birthday Christmas and New years alone. And then most of all, our daughter's wedding next year. I feel so alone and angry because he left me to do all this on my own. 

[Winter2025VA]

3 comments (Monday 10/16/23)

Hi Amy @agoyer , Jane @JaneCares and Sandy @sandy - I hope you guys are well!

🦃  With THANKSGIVING approaching, any TIPS on getting through this HOLIDAY?

Thank you SO MUCH for setting up this AARP Grief & Loss Forum.

Luv your Welcome Post Sandy!

Luv your articles Amy!

Luv your helpful and compassionate help Jane!

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗

[agoyer]

@Winter2025VA Hello! Jane shared a link to one of my columns about grief and loss over the holidays, and a state-based webinar coming up. I will also be doing a webinar about caregiving during the holidays on Nov. 16th - stay tuned for information about that! 

My column on life after caregiving and dealing with grief might be helpful too: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/life-balance/info-2020/finding-purpose-after-caregiving-ends.html 

Take care,

Amy Goyer, AARP Family & Caregiving Expert

Author, Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving

[JaneCares]

And here is a relevant article: https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2020/grief-loss-during-holidays.html

[JaneCares]

There's going to be a webinar on this topic in mid November:

https://local.aarp.org/aarp-event/virtual-aarp-tx-grief-and-the-holidays-austin-tx-11152023-nsnrpchp...

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-16-23) 

How are you TODAY/TONIGHT? 🤔

[mc6844]

Good here Nicole, how are you?

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-15-23) 

What has HELPED you the most on YOUR Healing Journey so far? 🤔

Me: My daughter, this AARP Grief & Loss Forum, reading, chatting with "random" folks at Walmart 😎 and praying.

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗

[mc6844]

I agree. And I think prayer is the key. 

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-14-23) 

OCTOBER 2023 ANNIVERSARY DATES 😥

(1) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I have ADDED your 10/22 Anniversary Date to my Wall Calendar. This way I will remember you in prayer 🙏 and post EXTRA luv 💙.

(2) Cadee @Cadee2719 , IF you let me know YOUR date for THIS MONTH - I will do the same for you. 👍

(3) Anyone else, please feel free to let me know about YOUR dates for THIS MONTH - if you have any. I will also ADD you to my Wall Calendar. 👍

*** We will be doing this for EACH month ***

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗

[Cadee2719]

My husband died on October 30, 2022.   It seems like yesterday to me.  Thank You Nicole for your kindness.

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry Cadee.

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @Winter2025VA! I made it through his first anniversary this week and now have the second one on the 22nd.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment (10/13/23)

Marcy @MarcyW882921 🤗

When I think of you, I can't help but smile. My world would be a lot less colorful without your antics. (lovetoknow.com)

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2025VA,

🙂🤗 I'm so glad!

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-13-23)

The healing light of the world is hugging you right now.  (lovetoknow.com) Cadee @Cadee2719 🤗

[Cadee2719]

Good Morning Nicole.  Thank You for your thoughts and hugs.  ❤️   Yesterday I received the results of one of the many tests, ultrasounds, and X-rays.   The results were good.  Still waiting on the others.  Still a lot of pain in both legs making it difficult to walk.  Blood tests shows that I need to make an appointment with an Immunologist??  Working with my insurance company to do that.  Other than all the doctor appointments I am staying home and resting.  My heart breaks each day as I listen to the news.  I pray that the wars will end soon.   Nicole, THANK YOU for being the person that you are; loving, caring and sincere.  I appreciate your reaching out to me.  It means a lot to me to know that someone cares.  Soon it will be the one year date of my husband's death and this, too, has me overwhelmed.   During difficult times, I withdraw and try to take ONE DAY AT A TIME.  Luv you ♥️

[Winter2025VA]

2 comments (Monday 10/23/23)

Goodness Cadee!!!! 😱

Hang in there like you have been 👍 and luv how you are figuring out what do NEXT!!! 💃💃💃

Yes, it is CATCH UP time and YOUR GRANDSON will have Granny around for several more years dear friend.... 💙💙💙

Thanks for the update and luv you,

Nicole 🤗

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✏Cadee wrote:

Just returned from my eye exam.  (I think I am going to rent a room in the medical building with all the appointments I have had this month!!!).  Have to have surgery on my other eye for cataract/glaucoma surgery.  They will have to put stents in this eye as they did in my other eye.  I told them I will have to wait until 2024 as I am in the process of seeing the Rheumotologist soon and have to resolve that issue.  Nicole I AM FALLING APART.  😫   I am greatful that I have taken the time to finally go to the doctors and am working on taking care of my health.  This is a new concept for a caregiver, but one that is necessary.✏

[JuliaB831263]

Thank you for those virtual hugs I needed today after I lost my 18 year old Alexis from a cancerous brain tumor known as "Glioblastoma"

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your loss Julia. I'm glad you found this site. The kind and good people here can help you. 

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-11-23)

Oh goodness Marcy @MarcyW882921 😥

Yes, you will get through it!!!

My thoughts are with you dear friend, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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✏@MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @Winter2025VA, 

Yes I have many activities, but your dinner reservation is still valid! I'm getting very close to being done with my renovations!

This past week I have however, experienced the steps backward that most of us seem to take at some point. I am coming up on the one year anniversary of my hubby's passing and he has two of them. The first started tonight and the next one is October 22nd. When I heard his name read last Friday it hit me like a ton of brick!

I was not as confident last Friday as I am today, that I will get through this somehow.

Marcy✏ 

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you Nicole @Winter2025VA! 🤗❤️

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-11-23)

Lol, Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I am going to call you Bionic Marcy!!! 🤣😂

Why? 🤔

Girl, YOU ARE my Inspiration to get busy! 👍

Between your Chorus, Tennis, Kitchen Renovation (I hope my Dinner Reservation is still valid 🙄) and so on = YOU ARE moving ahead in your life....

You Go Girl!!! 💃💃💃

Nicole 🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2025VA, 

Yes I have many activities, but your dinner reservation is still valid! I'm getting very close to being done with my renovations!

This past week I have however, experienced the steps backward that most of us seem to take at some point. I am coming up on the one year anniversary of my hubby's passing and he has two of them. The first started tonight and the next one is October 22nd. When I heard his name read last Friday it hit me like a ton of brick!

I was not as confident last Friday as I am today, that I will get through this somehow.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-11-23) 

MC @mc6844 , when I gave up last month, you believed in me. As you can see I am back to my Old Self again. Thank you SO MUCH, Nicole 🤗

“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.” — Bernard Meltzer

[mc6844]

Lol Nicole! Aren't we all a little cracked at times. Hopefully not at the same time. But that happens too. You're certainly in the right place Nicole. Your unique talents and personality are so needed here. You are and will be truly blessed for your kindness, and all the love you give. This site is so unique because of the focus on grief and loss. It gives one a feeling of leaving the heaviness on site, and having a brighter day. Thank you Nicole!

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment/10-11-23)

Hmmmm, Marcy @MarcyW882921 , isn't the NEXT Time Change the one where at some point 5pm looks like 8pm = DARK? 🤔

I luv it in the mornings when the School Kids are SAFE as it is NOT dark. Is that the NEXT Time Change? 🤔

Lol, what I need is - 7am Sunrise and 8pm Sunset ALL YEAR. You think Mother Nature will give it to me...../lol 🤣😂

Now to REMEMBER to change the Other Old Lady's (2006 Hyundai Elantra) CLOCK. 🙄

And what a pain.

I know folks (old) who NEVER change it. With my luck I would FORGET and either arrive at my destination late or early. Nope, I need to CHANGE mine.

Nicole 🤗

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✏@MarcyW882921 wrote:

I don't know about you Nicole @Winter2025VA, but I am ready for my hour back!

Marcy✏

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