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[Anonymous]

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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole for your kind words. Dealing with bouts of anxiety. Haven't had that in over 30 yrs. So that surprised me. It is a blessing to stop into a forum such as this. Don't have to walk on eggshells or people please. There are those who have no idea what it's like to lose a longtime partner. May they never have to find out. I try to reply and offer something to the people here. Though I just might get to a few each time I'm on. When you all say you've had a rough day or few days I know exactly what you mean. And how you feel. I hope things get better for everyone. That some happiness comes into your lives. Something good can always happen!

[Anonymous]

1 comment(3/11/23)

➡️Thank you for your kudo Kathy @BeatleloverKT ⬅️

Kathy@BeatleloverKT , how are you TODAY? 🤔

Nicole 🤎🤗

[BeatleloverKT]

I’m feeling better. Not 100% yet, but better.

Thanks for your message 💜

[CarolynS674392]

Thank you.  That is SO NICE to hear.  I am feeling lonely tonight.  My sister was supposed to call me back, but I haven't heard from her.  I am feeling very loved by you guys right now, especially Nicole.

[mc6844]

I was reading in a grief forum a suggestion for coping. It said to make a list of several people that are receptive to where you are in the grief process. Tell them how much it helps having them stay in touch. Most often they're only too happy to lend an ear, or a few minutes out of their day. This also helps me so that I know they are well, and that relieves the anxiety from the loss I'm going through.

[BeatleloverKT]

Excellent advice. I have, after 4+ years figured out those that will support me. As those that didn’t abruptly walked away. I always make sure to thank my support system. I need them and appreciate the love and support they give 💜

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks for sharing this information. It sounds like a good idea and benefits all.

[CatherineS641676]

I absolutely agree 100%. That's what friends are for. All of my friends beg me to call when I just need someone to listen. They also understand me still talking to my sissie-one even suggested putting in earbuds so others won't think I'm crazy as I walk down the street talking out loud♥️. And, yes, it keeps those friends close in such an important way. Thanks for sharing

[MarcyW882921]

I love the earbud Idea! I talk to myself a lot so I'm sure I can look a little crazy to other people. Now I have a way to look more normal. LOL

[CatherineS641676]

😁It was my grandson's idea. 

[LeeS4949]

I think this is a great community to find what you are referring too.. Support comes in all shapes and sizes..

[mc6844]

Carolyn, I've noticed slight shifts in relationships in this grieving process. I realize that family/friends are also grieving the loss. Time takes time. There is plenty of time. Take care.

[MarcyW882921]

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. It's great that you have a place to go where you can feel loved. 🙂

Marcy

[Anonymous]

2 comments(WEDNESDAY 3/8/23) Kathy @BeatleloverKT , I see you have been "posting" while I was at Walmart. Hope you are feeling better and thanks for the "kudo" - I luv getting those as you already know, Nicole 🤗🤎

[BeatleloverKT]

Switched up to Motrin and I’m feeling better.

Laying down is best so that’s what I’m doing.

Feel so old!! Thank u for ur kind thoughts 💜💜

[MarcyW882921]

I'm glad you found some things that are making you feel better! You will not feel so old when you are mended. 🙂

Take care.

Marcy

[Anonymous]

1 comment(TUESDAY 3/7/23)

🖐Hello Kathy @BeatleloverKT , Lee @LeeS4949 , @jonibee and Marcy @MarcyW882921 !

Nicole 🤎🤔

[MarcyW882921]

Hi Nicole! Thanks for thinking of me today! The day has been much busier than I had anticipated.

Marcy

[Anonymous]

1 comment(TUESDAY 3/7/23)

 @mc6844 , I am "thinking" of you!!! Nicole 🤗🤎

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. Your kindness and caring is in my thoughts too. I discovered Sweet Tea this past year. Very soothing for those under stress. Puts me back to sleep though. It's good to get some sleep. bl (back later) Take care.

[Anonymous]

1 comment(TUESDAY 3/7/23) Another HAPPY dance 🥳💃 !!! So good to hear from you Allen @Therapist4u .Luv, Nicole 🤗🤎

[Therapist4u]

HAPPY dance

[Therapist4u]

Hi Nicole! 😸😊

Thanks for all your help!

You are also thought of! 🐈

Take care   ☮️  ~Allen  🌈

[Anonymous]

1 comment(MONDAY 3/6/23) Another HAPPY Dance 💃🥳 = so GLAD you stopped by Catherine @CatherineS641676 !!! Luv you, Nicole 🤗🤎

[CatherineS641676]

As my Grandson taught me, STB. (Same Thing Back-of course I had to ask what it meant). Anyway, I truly agree we are an awesome group and as we all know too well, it takes a village. I am so grateful for our village!. Thanks again for your thoughts.

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks for your kind words. I am doing okay, hope everyone else is also. I still talk to my sissie everyday and it helps me keep her close. I will never stop being grateful for every moment we shared as sisters and friends. 

[ChristinaC71503]

I am okay. Thanks for asking. Been very busy with AncestryDNA, and am making great progress. A recent account linkage proved to be very productive. Built off it more today, incorporating more extended family. My paternal great grandfather was adopted (never knew this) and I found his sibling group! I solved for another sibling of this same group, but in general terms. I am not sure I will ever figure out the adoptive names to match individual members of this biological group born roughly 1880 to 1910 in Clinton County, New York.

I think the loss of my mother  would have bothered me longer had I taken her cat because they truly were one. My otherwise disloyal brother took the cat, and it sounded like she was loved, though I disliked she was being kept in a bedroom, and no attempt was being made to get her and their two rescue cats acquainted, so she could have run of the house, and the screened-in smoking porch, if so inclined. One of the rescues LOVES that porch, would huddle close to the floor hear the crickets beneath, wagging his tail. Whenever that door opened for someone to go out to smoke, their male rescue would beat it to the door to go out too.

Last summer, just when a scab started to form, it was ripped off by TekCollect, a collection company. Contacted me first by email then snail mail, this despite my sending "Not my debt" letters, with the instruction to they must include my statement about it not being my debt. Well, Genesis was undeterred and sent me a bill, and due to the high quality image, an otherwise benign-looking piece of mail capture by USPS Informed Delivery, which is free, presented a clue as to whom it was from, with a recognizable phone number and either "statement" or "bill" visible. It gave me time to review where to write "Refused" on a piece of mail, have a clip and pen ready, and I marked and attached to my mailbox, unopened. Never got anymore mail. TekCollect was nipped in the bud  with my complaint to the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau in August.

Yes, even if your parent is 99% of the poverty line, Genesis Healthcare will pester and pester the checkwriter, which was me. It seems "refused" worked. Wish I had known it sooner. 

[Anonymous]

1 comment(SATURDAY 3/4/23) Dear @mc6844 , I luv ALL of your sharing with us and you are a WONDERFUL addition to our AARP Grief & Loss Forum FAMILY!!! Nicole 🤗🤎

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I see you are very active here. That is so important to many people. I'm sure your presence is valued and appreciated. I find all of the topics and sharing very helpful and life-giving. I'm sorry for 

everyone's loss. Life is fluid. There is goodness and hope along all the curves.

[Anonymous]

1 comment(FRIDAY 2/3/23) Oh yes Jonibee @jonibee , one step at a time and thank you. Thank you Lee @LeeS4949 , I hope Buster - Olivia - Penny are well. 🐈🐈🐈 Please tell them I said hey. 🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 Lol, got to include our furbabies too... Nicole