💡 Just For TODAY!

[Anonymous]

👤   Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.

(A) Email/text/call (B) Visit (C) Invite to do something fun (D) Babysit/help around their house.

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Hope you are finding the care that you need to eliminate the pain.  Thank You for caring and concern.  Sometimes simply acknowledging someone is a gift.

[mc6844]

Thank you Allen for your thoughtfulness. Take care!

[SpringIsHereVA]

Just for today I will smile at a stranger. I know those random smiles I receive from folks at Walmart each week does my "insides" some GOOD. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Just for today...I have straightened my living space, took care of financial responsibilities, attended two online classes, will spend time outside with a friend, and sing during a rehearsal tonight! Peace, stimulation, socialization, emotional well-being, gratefulness, and joy.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  I would love to her you sing.  I bet you have a beautiful voice.

[Cadee2719]

meant "hear"

[SpringIsHereVA]

Just for today I will let the folks who show me kindness know how much this means to me. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Based on my circle of friends, I have an expanded perception of a grieving person. One who has lost a home in a storm, one who has lost the ability to engage in activities due to a physical ailment, and one who is aware that their brain is not functioning as it once did. Even though they are not grieving the death of a loved one, they are grieving a loss. If you have someone like this in your circle, reach out to them too. 🙂

Marcy

[LeeS4949]

 Beautifully said.

[SpringIsHereVA]

Just for today I will try to remember my loved ones in a positive way. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

I think that is very wise. Remembering the good times, and qualities of the loved ones that we appreciated. I think it makes it a little easier to move on from the grief while cherishing perhaps a specific memory. And I think the loved ones know  from where they are.

[SpringIsHereVA]

I agree MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: I think that is very wise. Remembering the good times, and qualities of the loved ones that we appreciated. I think it makes it a little easier to move on from the grief while cherishing perhaps a specific memory. And I think the loved ones know  from where they are. ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

I had a good day yesterday - volunteering, visiting an elderly neighbor, and having dinner with a fellow widow's club member. I hope everyone else found some ways to make the holiday a little bit brighter.

Marcy 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Just for today. Say no to what drains you further, say yes to what might offer even the smallest respite or support.

[MarcyW882921]

Amen to this @SpringIsHereVA !

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Just for today. Make an appointment for a massage.

*** My daughter gets them all the time. Me, never had one. What about YOU? 🤔 ***

[mc6844]

I got one. Before my sister's wedding. All the bridesmaids. I wasn't impressed. But then my generation of women didn't get massages, pedicures etc. I've never gotten a pedicure. I don't like the idea of some poor girl bending over my feet. If I can pay for a pedicure it should be me helping her up from her feet. 

[MarcyW882921]

Getting a pedicure may well be helping that person to get up on their feet. It is how they make their living. That being said, I haven't had that many in my lifetime and I got my first one as a gift for my wedding in 2000. They are quite relaxing and there is a benefit to having human touch.

Marcy

[jonibee]

i came across a book of poems and one on grief was very meaningful..Because it was so long I didn't copy it but the name of the book is "History Will Remember When The World Stopped" (during the pandemic)by Donna Ashworth...One line that resonated is ..."Remember grief is the price you pay for Love devine; The stronger the Love the deeper the grief but Love, Love will always win in the end! 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Spend time with a pet.

[MarcyW882921]

I was invited earlier in the week by another griever to join a group of us at a location on the intracoastal. It is later today and I am hoping it will be a nice diversion and social outing for all of us.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Think of something you want that is available; then make a plan to get it.

[mc6844]

My idea of socializing has changed to what I feel up to at the time. I feel I'm social every day in some way or other. Cooking can be tiring now. I make up a batch of pasta and keep in fridge. It can be eaten cold or heated. Ready made salads are good options. Baked potato, veg, frozen fish or tenderloin is easy and nutritious. Not eating can lead to depression. I know its not easy to keep going. But you need your strength. The Grief site needs you! We all struggle with these types of things. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Celebrate small accomplishments like eating breakfast. (So many of us have lost our appetites 😥)

[mc6844]

Good suggestion Nicole. 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereVA , I like this idea of a way to offer support. Grave site visits are times when people who are grieving often become very emotional. If the person is open to having someone with them, it could allow them to experience the emotion without being concerned about their ability to drive safely.

[SpringIsHereVA]

Plan a surprise for someone.

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @SpringIsHereVA . I did just that. We aren't sure whether we will do something tomorrow or Sunday. It depends how rainy it is tomorrow.☔️

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Make a list of things you feel guilty about. Consider where you can make amends.

[MarcyW882921]

When you are grieving, there are times you are so distraught that it can be difficult to even know what you need. You can try throwing out some offers of things you can do for the grieving person and maybe they will hear an idea that would really help them.