Help and signs from loved one

[CarolynS674392]

I know my husband helps me often from Heaven.  I was very dependent on him, but I know he is helping me because I am doing all the things I need to do and handling it all well.  My family and friends are in awe of how well I am managing the day to day things you have to do.

As for signs, I was once going to put on a Rod Stewart CD but then remembered it had a scratch on it.  My husband was with me when I bought it years ago - my first CD ever.  But I realized it was damaged, so I put the radio on and on it was playing a Rod Stewart song.  I firmly believe it was a sign.  

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

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[jonibee]

So do I,..As I have also seen different signs which would have been shared by both of us..It could be a coincidnence but I choose to believe it isn't which keeps us close though were apart physically...

[GailL1]

@jonibee 

This is baffling to me - cause I hear others talk about this -

Is it because that I am not listening or did not listen that I don’t get this or ever have and believe me, I tried during the early years.

We were not only husband and wife for almost 40 years - we actually worked together for over 30 of those years.  So for much of the time we were together 24/7 - then I was his only caregiver for the last year - 

We did have that last year to talk over the up and coming changes because we knew the end result - I was depressed to think about it - but he was almost excited to learn about what was on the other side.  That was just him - He did promise me some answers but I never received any.  

He is always with me cause he is a part of me.  He died in 2006. 

[jonibee]

A book to read to answer some of your questions is "The Love Never Ends" (Messages from the other side ) by Sunny Dawn Johnson ..We were married 63 years . Signs are left that we all talk of dimes, feathers, red cardinals etc. things disappearing and reappeariing, silent phone calls rings but no one is on other end, songs that were favorites playing at a time you need them,,,a feeling of presence in the room and sometimes the room feels chilled ..Whether or not these are what they seem it's important to me to Believe just as we believe in a higher authority but don't see him...Happy memories along with not so happy memories but I choose the meaningful ones..I try to believe his guicance helps me make the right decisions in everyday life like what would Tom do..I hope this has been helpful to you and believing that we will meet again in the hereafter sustains me...

[GailL1]

@jonibee 

After 18 years since his death- nothing / nada - but maybe that’s because after a while I perhaps stopped looking and listening - 

I am surrounded by the little bit of his work that is remaining in our home but have changed my living environment only slightly.  He did leave me a list of “Things To Do” and I completed them years ago.

Perhapa it was that in the beginning I not only had to deal with the unbearable grief of his death - I also had to figure out how to support myself.  I had to find and create an income stream from his work, of which there was no more to come, and our investments..  

I was also busy taking care of a very physically & mentally ill mother - finding a place for her to live was no easy task.  

With his death, our social network also left - no more married couples stayed in the realm of friendship after a while.  The travels all left with him too - I was not interested in putting myself out there for new travels, making other friends or a new mate - 

I am content to be an introvert -

So I guess, LIFE got in the way of listening or experiencing a link to him.  

I envy you and your forward looking life.

Thank You

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

@GailL1 , thanks for sharing and I am also very content with being an Introvert  🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Jonibee @jonibee , well said!!!  🤗

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[*** @jonibee wrote:

A book to read to answer some of your questions is "The Love Never Ends" (Messages from the other side ) by Sunny Dawn Johnson ..We were married 63 years . Signs are left that we all talk of dimes, feathers, red cardinals etc. things disappearing and reappeariing, silent phone calls rings but no one is on other end, songs that were favorites playing at a time you need them,,,a feeling of presence in the room and sometimes the room feels chilled ..Whether or not these are what they seem it's important to me to Believe just as we believe in a higher authority but don't see him...Happy memories along with not so happy memories but I choose the meaningful ones..I try to believe his guicance helps me make the right decisions in everyday life like what would Tom do..I hope this has been helpful to you and believing that we will meet again in the hereafter sustains me...  ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

@GailL1  , I feel that when we are not looking for the signs, they happen. And sometimes we may miss them if we are maybe busy, stressed, angry, crying and so on.  👵

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

I agree Jonibee @jonibee  🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(2 comments) I use to get really SAD whenever SPRING arrived with all the BLOSSOMS. But THIS SPRING, I take it as a REMINDER from my Grandma who luved her garden [I grew up watering it during my Summer Holidays with them] THAT SHE SEES ME/BESIDE ME  🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy , It's great that you have found a different way to view spring this year and in the process have rediscovered some beautiful memories. 🌹🪻❤️

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921   🤗

[mc6844]

Carolyn, how are you doing? Hope you are ok. Take care.....

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Thursday 10/19/23)

Okay, I was being "lazy" about posting this Marcy @MarcyW882921 , but I must say the WIND has been VISITING the huge tree outside my window THIS WEEK.

Hmmm, just realized (this moment) I AM FINALLY CALM today. Aha, IF I had been "paying attention" THIS WEEK = my rough days would not have happened. 🙄

As I had shared, it reminds me of a HAPPY childhood memory - sitting in my tree (yes, mine/lol 🤣😂) and reading and napping.

On WINDY DAYS, never fell out. 💃💃💃

So thank you whomever (someone who luvs me and knows the week I have had). 💙

Lesson learn't - pay attention to my surroundings. Loved ones will be trying to soothe us..... 👍

Nicole 🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy, 

I'm so glad you posted this. If we are mindful, grateful, and in the moment it can have profound effects on our emotional and physical being. Someone was speaking with you this week, taking you back to those happy times, and bringing you a sense of calm. That is so great!

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

4 comments (Wednesday 10/11/23)

Oh YES Marcy @MarcyW882921 , that was HIM!!!

Nicole 🤗

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✏@MarcyW882921 wrote:

So...The day of my Mom's celebration of life there was a rainbow. It seemed that any significant event that happened relating to my Mom that year was on a day that had a rainbow. I would get this feeling when there was a rain and I would run out and there it would be! 

This is the second part of the story. My husband was the only one I could ever remember who told me I was beautiful.

So today was one of my husband's first anniversaries of his passing. On the way back home from my bereavement group meeting that was a bit emotional for me, I stopped at a charity to drop off some donations. As the guy was writing my receipt, he said "I hope you don't mind me being so bold, but you are a beautiful woman." This evening I was returning from my husband's service and it was raining. A beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky and I have not seen one this whole past year that my husband has been gone!

I do believe both of these things were signs from him on a day that he knew would be particularly difficult for me.✏ 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy,

This morning I saw a big white feather sticking up in the grass on my way to play tennis. I was beautiful!

Marcy

[Therapist4u]

 For Nicole,

Marcy @MarcyW882921,

Sue @SueS788527,

Carolyn @CarolynS674392, @mc6844  @bk11902161 & all members here!

Take care!

🍁🍂☮️🍁🍂~Allen 🍁🍂🌈🍁🍂

[mc6844]

Thank you for the kind thoughts!

[mc6844]

Lovely rainbows!

[BeatleloverKT]

When we traveled, I always wondered why he

would get gas at only a half a tank. Wednesday

I found out why. A huge car crash in Ky derailed

traffic for nearly two hours. Although I didn’t run

out of gas, I finally figured out why he did that.

So he would never have to worry about it. First

thing I did after we started moving was to get gas.

And I followed his mantra the rest of the way home.

I love that I’m still learning from him even after his

death 💜

[MarcyW882921]

So...The day of my Mom's celebration of life there was a rainbow. It seemed that any significant event that happened relating to my Mom that year was on a day that had a rainbow. I would get this feeling when there was a rain and I would run out and there it would be! 

This is the second part of the story. My husband was the only one I could ever remember who told me I was beautiful.

So today was one of my husband's first anniversaries of his passing. On the way back home from my bereavement group meeting that was a bit emotional for me, I stopped at a charity to drop off some donations. As the guy was writing my receipt, he said "I hope you don't mind me being so bold, but you are a beautiful woman." This evening I was returning from my husband's service and it was raining. A beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky and I have not seen one this whole past year that my husband has been gone!

I do believe both of these things were signs from him on a day that he knew would be particularly difficult for me.

[SueS788527]

Marcy, what a wonderful experience.  I'm glad that you had so much positive reinforcement.  The rainbow is reminding all of us that we are part of a longer natural world that we love and in turn nature loves us, sometimes at specific moments like yours.  I am always smiling when I see the Bluebird couple feeding their young on my deck rail or seeing the ground hog lounging around in my backyard.  These sightings make you realize that we are part of a greater good.  On the compliment, I am thrilled that happened to you.  Too often when we are grieving, we show the scars of the caregiver, griever, etc.  I know.  As I posted a while back, I took a selfie and was surprised how I aged.  At first, I was depressed, but then I realized I will smile, be outgoing and not worry about the lines, etc.  Also, a long-distance shot helps in my case.  All kidding aside, I am sure you are a beautiful woman inside and out.  I'm glad someone reminded you of that.  Unfortunately, we live in a world of superficial beauty and youth.  We just have to be happy with ourselves and try to make the most of each day.  My condolences on your first anniversary.  I just had my 2-year anniversary.  I can say I feel better in the second year.  Not sure why, but probably because I have become more self-confident and made a new network of friends.  I wish you all the best.  You deserve it.  Your friend, Sue

[BeatleloverKT]

I commented in March about the ladybug signs for

John. Well here I am in Ky and there is a ladybug 

on the kitchen wall. He is truly with me in Ky 💜

[bk11902161]

Many years ago my late husband and I were walking on the beach and a woman picked up a  penny that was on the sand, as she did so she looked up and said "Thank you Frank" we asked her why she said that.  Her reply was every time I pick up a penny I know Frank sent it from Heaven.  I recently lost the love of my life, my dear husband and since then I've found a few pennies myself in some unlikely places.  As much as I miss him with all my heart I know he's at peace having suffered from cancer for 8 long years.  I miss him with every fiber of my being and I'm trying to go on without him.  The loss sometimes take my breath away.  Thank you for your stories they have helped to read what others have gone and still going through.

[mc6844]

I'm sorry for your loss and missing your husband. The topic of signs from loved ones is heartening. Everyone is someplace. Perhaps closer than we realize. Hope you are ok and doing well. Take care!

[mc6844]

I am truly sorry for your loss BK. The good people on this site can help you. Take care!

[MarcyW882921]

@bk11902161 Your post brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's suffering and passing. It seems you were meant to be with your husband to share the penny moment because now the pennies you find have a special meaning. Remember your walk on the beach with the love of your life and thank him for sending a sign and watching over you.