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๐ Encouragement!
Sometimes WE ALL need an encouraging word to remind us that WE WILL BE OKAY on those days/nights we are NOT FEELING OKAY!!!
Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
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@ec73392645 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** ESTELLE @ec73392645 wrote:So sorry for your loss. I lost my life partner of 21 years 8/27 so I needed help reached out and I joined GriefShare. If you go to their website griefshare.org and type in your zip code a list of groups will appear that are near where you live. So far I have found it quite helpful and I also go for one on one counseling with a certified counselor.
Don't be afraid to reach out. There is a great deal of support out there. You just have to search for it. Best of luck!
Estelle Coffino ***]
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@EricaS968839 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** ERICA @EricaS968839 wrote:Thank you. My mom passed away. 10/31/22 was when she passed, unexpectedly. My dad is in the final stages of Dementia. He is in assisted living, amd has 24/7 hospice care. I have alot of support, but as the anniversary of my mom's passing approaches, my grief is getting worse. I'm trying to plan ahead for the day, which, is also Halloween. My mom loved Halloween, so, my thought was to try to put together candy for the kiddos. She also loved children. Any ideas for getting through that day would be greatly appreciated. ***]
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@ShannonW14183 , โI hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐คโ
[*** SHANNON @ShannonW14183 wrote:Hi Ms. Nicole I just found this forum....1st I'd like to say thank you for having this for some of us have no one to talk to about our grief/loss & challenges associated with it !! I'm struggling so very much right now for My mom passed Dec 08th & my birthday was the 6th! We knew she was sick but it was only a matter of week's from being told she's very sick to get family here ASAP if they want to say goodbye! MOM was in Texas & I Maryland I was also having my own medical problem when called & told to get there asap..this is 1 of my hardest challenges/struggles I was unable to get to my mom in Texas to hold her hand & tell her "your baby is here" (for I am -of 7!), to say how grateful I was to of been blessed by her being MY MOMMY!, & to have told her I LOVED HER for the last time..EVER!! The guilt is trying to consume me! I just want her to know how much I love her-ALWAYS, & I hope she can forgive me for not being able to be by her side for her final day's..I was able to talk to her on phone & tell her these things but she was to sick to reply though I think I heard her make a moanish noise in reply?! I'm very grateful other member's of the family was able to go! My other struggle is ..I don't mean to sound like a "bad person"..but I feel I lost my MOM & MY BIRTHDAY! It is no longer my special day all I can think of is it's 2 day's before losing the greatest woman in my life ! I had no idea that I'd also be mourning the loss of "my 1 day a year" that makes me "special" so to speak! I'm blown away by this bothering me I truly didn't even consider it or think it would!! Has anyone out there reading this dealing with this particular situation? How do you "handle" your birthday now? Or em I being over dramatic or over sedative due to loss of mom?! Any helpful advice on either struggle would be BEYOND APPRECIATED! Thank you again for this forum and for LISTENING! I'm truly humbled.. ***]
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@RachelW425687 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** RACHEL @RachelW425687 wrote:Don't be afraid to stop and pause when a memory a moment in time when our love one was by our side. Remember,and if you close your eyes for just a minute, they will feel like they are right there. I shed a tear, but I feel the strength and i can smile now it is almost a warmth of hug around me, for I am Alone now, and never thought that would be. .And keep telling the stories,those important moments, over and over, as we need to. The right people in your life will always listen. Even if you cry each time it's ok,cause one day you will laugh at the silly moments in time that we were so fortunate to have. Blessed it Be. ***]
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Sometimes WE ALL need an encouraging word to remind us that WE WILL BE OKAY on those days/nights we are NOT FEELING OKAY!!!
[1] "Grief & Loss" Book Suggestions. There is a LIST.
[2] Free AARP "Grief & Loss" Online Events EVERY MONTH for members and non-members. I post the dates and times.
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[3] If you are GRIEVING "right now" - stop by to CHAT whenever you "feel" up to it!!! I am ALWAYS here for you.
[4] DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE, NOT JUST ABOUT GRIEF!!! ๐
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Thank you..I am in a very bad frame of mind right now..I need to eat , I am a diabetic , and go out..and I cannot pull myself together...I saw something that went into my heart concerning my ex husband and children's father whom I loved and he loved me back for 55 years..we lost a daugher and the day he passed I lost my last part of her...everytime I see something that reminds me of our 4 year dating years it tears my heart to pieces...it's been almost a year and I cannot get through it...I did remarry but we never lost contact...after my second husband [assed 13 years ago , we rebuilt our relationship, friendship, never moved back in together but the bond and closeness was there...I took care of him the best he would allow me at the end of his life...he was a very I'll Nam vet...
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(Thursday 5/16/24)
Hi @OldMarriedMan , you have been SUCESSFUL with starting your own Chat Thread in the AARP Introduce Yourself Forum.
โถ๏ธ*** VIRTUAL PENPALS (this is your spot to chat, 3 people have been kind and responded to you here).
โถ๏ธ*** LINK TO YOUR CHAT IS BELOW:
https://community.aarp.org/t5/Introduce-Yourself/Virtual-Pen-Pals/m-p/2556463#M11543
[1] Lee @LeeS4949 and @wilful had RESPONDED to you. A new member also responded to you.
[2] Suggestion and NO PRESSURE to listen to me:
Why not POST a THANK YOU to them for responding to your post. Lee ALWAYS welcomes NEW folks, a very nice guy and open to PMs from folks on site. Wilful has told you he/she is INTERESTED and shared his/her info with you. Jumping all over the site and posting the same request, in my opinion is not the way to go. The NEW person is open to supporting you.
*** When OTHER people SEE you thanking these 3 people and chatting with them = MORE PEOPLE will stop by to CHAT with you!!! ***
Good luck,
Nicole ๐ต
[*** @OldMarriedMan wrote 5/16/24:Hello Nicole,
Thanks for your post. We can all use some words of encouragement from time to time. ๐
Is this a chat somewhere else?
DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE
I want to start a virtual pen pals group and I'm looking for a forum to call home... ***]
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Hello Nicole,
Thanks for your post. We can all use some words of encouragement from time to time. ๐
Is this a chat somewhere else?
DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE
I want to start a virtual pen pals group and I'm looking for a forum to call home...
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(Friday 5/17/24) Hi @OldMarriedMan , if you look underneath your USERNAME for this site you will see YOUR TITLE of Regular Contributor. New People are Newbie. As you guys POST on this site, these titles will keep CHANGING. Personally, I could NOT careless but I guess it ENCOURAGES folks to post = promotions I guess. ๐
Nicole ๐ต
[*** MILT @OldMarriedMan wrote 5/17/24:Hello Nicole, thanks for your advice. I had responded to @wilful via PM and had not heard back yet. I have some questions about the site. Like how did you get the tag line "Esteemed Social Butterfly"? I like it.
Warm regards,
Milt ***]
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@VenaE974710 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** VENA @VenaE974710 wrote:I lost my wonderful husband last October. We were only married 6 years! We knew each for 15 years, but being married really made a difference in the way in how we cared for each other. We were long distance the first two years so really we just had 4 years together. Add a brain tumor diagnosis and we just had 2 "normal " years together.
It is hard living alone; mostly not being able to share daily life with him anymore. We made our dreams come true and then whammo, they came tumbling down. It breaks my heart to have lost him and for him to deteriorate over the 18 months.:{ ***]
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Vena, I'm sorry for your loss of your husband. They say your loved ones are with you always. There's a topic on the forum about signs from your loved ones. There's so much we don't know about life beyond. But it's not your time to go there yet. Or else you'd be there. Look for signs of familiarity and hope. While staying grounded in daily activities. The people on this forum are lovely and kind. They will help you through their own experiences. Take care!
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@CarolD435501 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** CAROL @CarolD435501 wrote:It is so hard,,,,,lost my husband of 32 years April 15th 2023....some days I seem to go forward,,,and then I fall back more days then I gained.....How long do I have to feel this,,,,no one knows,,,,but talking the others may help.../. ***]
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@AlisaH435648 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** ALISA @AlisaH435648 wrote:My sweet husband died after a difficult surgery November 6th. I don't know how to live in this big house alone, it's so quiet. The upkeep is alot. Every room has a memory and story and shared items. I feel so heavy, my arms and legs. So **bleep** sad. I worry about money, still waiting for an attorney to do thier part (filing with courts) so I can fulfil my duty set forth in his living will. I'm just damned frightened and so so sad. I suppose this isn't one challenge. It's a challenge to just be me right now... ***]
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Alisa, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is frightening at times to be on your own. I saved errands for those times that I found difficult. All of it is challenging. But things settle in time. I've found counseling helpful during difficult times in life. Please take care!
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@JuliaB831263 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** JULIA @JuliaB831263 wrote:Thank you for those virtual hugs I needed today after I lost my 18 year old Alexis from a cancerous brain tumor known as "Glioblastoma" ***]
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Julia. The good people on the forum can help you cope. While going through grieving there is still the need to try and keep up with everyday life. Some days are just a standstill. Two steps forward, one step back. You are doing well, reaching out. Short walks, sunshine helps. Just do what you can. Take care.
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Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU are in my thoughts TODAY! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
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Hi Nicole. Still unpacking ๐คช Met a neighbor, so friendly. She invited me to the 4th of July block party. This was the right decision for me. How is your daughter doing? How are YOU doing? I don't have my computer hooked up yet so I apologize as I am using my phone and it is harder to use.
@SummerIsTooHOT wrote:(4/24/24) Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU are in my thoughts TODAY! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
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Nicole, I am trying to have faith but, I am having a really hard time. My disability has been denied for a second time. I contacted another lawyer because, mine point blank s**ks. The only contact is initiated by me and I am tired of it. It's been 3 years and nothing. I told my BFF that I am either ready for the looney bin or death, whichever comes first. I am just struggling very badly. I don't know what else to do. I can't take care of my house, myself and feel like I am a crappy Mom for my son.I have no money, bank account is in the red and have no way to pay for anything. On top of all that, my Mom was diagnosed with mild dementia and I am all she has because my brother is being a douchebag and is looking for homes in Florida. He is not speaking to us because I finally after years told his wife off and how I feel about her. Also he is trying to say that I am committing elder abuse because Mom has been helping me pay bills. Then my daughter said that she would have to testify against me and then I would lose my son to the state because she couldn't "take him right now. Maybe in a few years." This is her BROTHER and she doesn't want him. Like I really need this right now. I also had eye surgery on Friday to have benign tumors removed I just don't know what to do.