👍 Encouragement!!!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

Stop by when you can to encourage others [respond to THEIR POST  💛]  or ASK FOR SOME.

WE ALL have days/nights when we need this!!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Guess what?  ‌‌‌‌‌‌🤔‌‌‌‌‌‌

WE made it through ANOTHER day/night!!!

And yes, maybe a little bruised but WE DID IT.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌👍‌‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

I read somewhere that we are all living in an answered prayer. This reminds me of all the prayers that have been answered. I hope you all have an easy day! Take care 💖

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Need some ENCOURAGEMENT?  🤔

Stop by to see us.

WE ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER as needed.

We will do the same for YOU!!!  ‌‌💛‌‌

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

I felt today was going to be the day, and sure enough, a pale partial rainbow appeared after the rain! What a beautiful sight that brings hope and light.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  SOME OF US have found "comfort" in living our NEW LIVES in "memory" of the luv ones we lost.

This will be DIFFERENT for everyone.

I HONOR my Maternal Grandmother by living my life with PASSION. She died at age 104, still living in the home she and my Grandfather moved into when married.

So figure out what WORKS FOR YOU dear friend.  ‌‌💛‌‌

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

I admired my husband. He loved people, cared about others, and maintained regular contact with family and friends. By contacting people, making personal visits, and volunteering in ways that make the world a better place, I am honoring his life and lessons.

Marcy

[LinwanL714916]

Your praise and respect for your husband are touching. His love and dedication not only warm the people around him, but also shine in your words. Your mutual achievement is the most beautiful scenery

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you @LinwanL714916 ! Your response truly warms my heart.❤️

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Get MOVING on those mornings when YOU are feeling HEAVY with "sadness" = get out of bed and BELIEVE you will feel better.

Alot of OUR HEALING is in our minds and while we cannot change things, we can LIGHTEN our burdens mentally.

And ask for help IF you cannot shake that sadness. That is normal and nothing to be ashamed about. Talk, hug, cry, get angry and so on. ALL a part of our healing.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Had a rough migraine week, but I'm feeling grateful that I got out to play some tennis this morning! May we all have some movement today that lifts our spirits.

Marcy

[mc6844]

I hope you're feeling better Marcy. That is no fun. You're right about physical activity. It does help a lot. Maintaining our health the best we can makes for better days and hopefully less days of not feeling so good. Take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  I am thinking about YOU & hope you will stop by AGAIN.  💛

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

You are all in my thoughts too and I admire your willingness to go forward each day. Changing the spaces we live in each day helps a lot. Maybe clearing a desk or getting a new plant. A few new dishes in place of the ones of your loved ones may make your day brighter. If you were the caregiver now is the time to attend to your own health. Please take care, there is always someone who needs you and wants you to be well 

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I hope all are well here too. It's a comfort to stop by here where there is only acceptance and where people, know.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  MC @mc6844 it is ALWAYS so nice when you stop by to see us my friend.  ‌💛‌

And YOUR words of comfort over the years are APPRECIATED by all.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌  (Grief Forum)

‌➡️‌[*** MC wrote:
Thank you Nicole. I hope all are well here too. It's a comfort to stop by here where there is only acceptance and where people, know. ***]

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I feel the same about all of you. 2 1/2 yrs. Doing only what's necessary is good to remember during tough days. We miss those who are gone of course. Even familiar places are not the same. Except God never changes and faith in one's own spiritual beliefs is always at hand. The faith of one's childhood makes the day simple and clear. 

[mc6844]

When you get discouraged remember when your prayers were answered. Ask for a sign that your prayers have been heard and being worked on. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  You are welcome @MkK700720 and I am okay.  ‌💛‌

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌  (Grief Forum)

[*** @MkK700720 wrote:
Nicole it's good to see you! How are you? I remember all the love and support I was given by you and others on this forum. Thank you ! It's a comfortable place with good and kind people. I hope you are all well as can be in your grieving process. Love you! ***]

[LinwanL714916]

Your words warm my heart. Your love and support make this place special, and it feels like real kindness and strength. May we all find comfort in caring for each other.

[MkK700720]

Nicole it's good to see you! How are you? I remember all the love and support I was given by you and others on this forum. Thank you ! It's a comfortable place with good and kind people. I hope you are all well as can be in your grieving process. Love you!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Dear sweet Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU ARE A SURVIVOR!!! One that has INSPIRED me. Today has been rough for you dear friend. I hope you feel better SOON. You took care of hubbie and now your heart doctor needs to see you. Yes, we as caregivers DO NOT take of ourselves only to fall apart when our luv one is gone. You REMAIN in my thoughts, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

 Update:  AGAIN called to see if Referral Letter received.  It was NOT even though my doctor faxed it on July 12!!   Asked to speak to a Supervisor.  She called me this morning and said she does not understand why it is taking me so long to get an appointment and why the "run around".  She mentioned that their FAX machine is a "hit or miss" (just what one would want at a medical facility right?).  She gave me her FAX number and I forwarded it on to my cardiologist who has been so kind and helpful to me.  Keep your fingers crossed........hopefully this FAX will work and I will get the appointment soon.  I feel bad for the elderly that do not have the time, patience and means to remain diligent in attempting to get the medical care that they need and deserve.  Looking back on my career, I now think I would have loved to have served as an advocate for the elderly.  

[mc6844]

Cadee, I hope it all works out with what you're dealing with. I wonder if these days all the technology makes appointments, messages etc all the more time consuming and confusing. I hope being in your new environment helps somewhat and relieves the stress. You're taking care of your health and that's important. 

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719  I am really hoping that the supervisor's FAX number works so your FAX can be received! After you have experienced all of these healthcare frustrations, it does cause you to look at things differently. I'm sure you would have been a terrific advocate for the elderly! Ahhhh hindsight!

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Cadee @Cadee2719 , you still can do this!!! You are NEVER TOO OLD to help others my friend.

I AM SO SORRY you are going through this.  😤😤😤

I am VERY CONCERNED about your heart and pain.  😭😭😭

Yes, as we AGE it is like we have been put out to pasture.

Shame on America.

Other cultures (NOT all) take care of their old.

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** CADEE wrote: Update:  AGAIN called to see if Referral Letter received.  It was NOT even though my doctor faxed it on July 12!!   Asked to speak to a Supervisor.  She called me this morning and said she does not understand why it is taking me so long to get an appointment and why the "run around".  She mentioned that their FAX machine is a "hit or miss" (just what one would want at a medical facility right?).  She gave me her FAX number and I forwarded it on to my cardiologist who has been so kind and helpful to me.  Keep your fingers crossed........hopefully this FAX will work and I will get the appointment soon.  I feel bad for the elderly that do not have the time, patience and means to remain diligent in attempting to get the medical care that they need and deserve.  Looking back on my career, I now think I would have loved to have served as an advocate for the elderly.  ***]

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[mc6844]

I agree, Nicole. 

[Cadee2719]

 Good Morning All:  Nicole thank you so much for your words of support.  Today, I will AGAIN begin the phone calls to get a "referral" to St. Luke's for medical care.  While I am Thankful for the appointment I received with the rheumatologist in November, I am still struggling to get an appointment with the cardiologist.  I dread the fact that I also need to get appointments with a family doctor and diabetes doctor.  I am hoping (but know better) that this won't take me months to accomplish as I am running out of medications.   Spoke to my brother and in order to lift my spirits, he suggested reading  Imagine the God in Heaven,  Author John Burke   As I said previously; losing our loved ones is difficult but dealing with all the issues thereafter is frustrating.  Diane, I have eliminated those in the family that cause me grief.  I decided that I am near the end of my life and I don't have to nor will I communicate with people that only wish to argue and cause me harm.   " I " am in control of my life and I will make choices that will eliminate stress, negative people and unhappiness in my life".    My husband will be gone two years this October, my son will be gone 2 1/2  years, and it has taken me this long to become stronger and  able to cope with the realities of daily life.  I wish for you the same.  YOU will become stronger and more confident as you heal.  Marcy I hope that you will get the migraine issue resolved.  I smile each time I read about your activities and want you to be able to continue to enjoy doing all of them.  What I love about all of you is that while going through a very difficult time in your lives, you all are out there caring about others.........including me.  ❤️

[EricC28201]

Reading these two posts about shedding toxic relationships was quite a refreshing affirmation. Thank you both @Cadee2719  & @MarcyW882921 .
The process and the resulting new perspective on human relations has been a real and transformative experience. Hopefully our understandings of 'toxic' are analogous.
Also, best wishes for constructive efforts leading to a more consistent and healthy daily routine.

[MarcyW882921]

So good to hear from you Cadee @Cadee2719 . I don't like hearing that this securing of doctors is causing you so much grief on top of the grief you already were bearing. I hope that you will find the right medical team soon so you can get the necessary treatment you need.

I so agree with your philosophy about toxic family and I extend that even further to friends and acquaintances. At this stage of life, there seems to be no reason to have negativity and toxicity in our lives that we can eliminate or avoid. Kudos to those of us who have reached success in that endeavor and encouragement to others who are developing the strength to make those decisions as they are building their new post grief life.

Hugs for all.

Marcy