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[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Cadee @Cadee2719 I TOTALLY LUV my CUTE Studio Apt looking out at the mountains from my hill.

Wish I could MOVE it to a hill of my own.

Being on MEDICARE and NO family in Virginia, I am somewhat concerned. My 1st Medicare doctor is leaving October 18th BEFORE my NEXT appt (#3) in JANUARY 2025.

Yes  made it and as of now showing with her NP who I have NEVER met. They are searching for her REPLACEMENT.

Then my daughter in Florida still unemployed from being laid off 4/11 of this year wanting me CLOSER.

Way TOO MUCH going on/lol.

I MAY try to find a BARTER set up while I WAIT to see WHERE she ends up. She wants to stay in Florida, but....

By bartering I mean maybe trade off housesitting for a TEMPORARY place to stay in PARADISE. Alot of people here RUN to Florida AFTER Thanksgiving, return AFTER Easter. Yes, have TWO homes.

Maybe I can keep an eye on one HERE in the MOUNTAINS during the WINTER.  💃💃💃

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I can tell you are doing your homework.  😁  You are one SMART lady and I am certain you will come up with a solution that will work for you.  

[DianeB887812]

Options are:

1. go back to the dog park

2. go see a movie

3. go to the mall

4. take a boat ride to scatter ashes

I retired 10 years ago. But while I was caring for Stephen I was very busy taking him to lots of doctors, doing the shopping or on the phone resolving some problem with medications or appointments   Now I’m back to Everyday is a weekend day. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Diane @DianeB887812 , what type of MOVIES do you like?  🤔

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE wrote: Options are:

1. go back to the dog park

2. go see a movie

3. go to the mall

4. take a boat ride to scatter ashes

I retired 10 years ago. But while I was caring for Stephen I was very busy taking him to lots of doctors, doing the shopping or on the phone resolving some problem with medications or appointments   Now I’m back to Everyday is a weekend day. ***]

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[DianeB887812]

Fantasy like Lord of the Rings

Period pieces like movies about the English monarchy 

Action/Adventure Like Anything from the Avenger’s universe 

Who done it like Citizen X

Complex mysteries (surprise ending) like Knives Out 

Not into:

Horror

People  doing stupid stuff

people being mean to other people

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) WHAT'S YOUR WEATHER LIKE?  🤔

Here in Cave Spring, Virginia  ⛈  getting ready to STORM again.  😭😭😭

Time to dig out my PIG brand water absorbent mats for in front of my front door INSIDE.

Not sure what Mr.  🐈  will be doing, but I WILL be TRYING the huge plastic container for his food on my porch. I would put it UNDER my car during storm but the parking lot has guess what - NO DRAINAGE, so it floods.

Anyway, storms for several days and this OLD lady and the OTHER old lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra) is staying home and INSIDE. Lol, no need to go FLOATING down my hill or cannot come up hill.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

I got a little wet this morning at the dog park but the rest of the day was dry. I’m used to hot and humid and I’m getting plenty of that. But mornings are pretty nice. There is an ocean breeze that cools things in the morning and evenings. So it’s just nice typical Florida weather. August is when the real fun starts with the tropical storms. It is supposed to be a busy hurricane season this year. We will see. 

[iLuvAutumn]

🐕  (1 comment) Diane @DianeB887812 I am totally looking forward to when you get another dog. Do you want male or female or does NOT matter. Puppy, teen or adult?

🐕  Jeremiah (Jack Russell) was my Walking Buddy and Best Pal. Still miss my boy.

I found this on Google, lol - you luv those feisty little dogs. They are SO CUTE and when the time comes, let me know IF you need me to post how to post pictures of him/her.

The Chihuahua is a small dog breed that originated in Mexico. They are known for being intelligent, loyal, and loving. They are also considered to be good companions and lap dogs.

Chihuahuas have a domed skull, large ears, and short muzzles. Their eyes are round and large, and they have a long tail that they carry over their back. Their coats can come in almost any color and pattern.

Chihuahuas can range in temperament from feisty and outgoing to shy and timid.

[DianeB887812]

I had two white chihuahuas up to December of last year. They loved going for walks with me. Everyone that met us along the way were very surprised at how well behaved they were. I got them from a breeder as babies. I had three previous dogs that were mixed breeds and came from the pound. Those dogs all had issues due to their poor experiences in their early lives. I have always loved all my dogs no matter what issues they had, but those two chihuahuas were special to Stephen and I. They were our babies. 
I will probably get a fur baby next year. I need to get myself in a good mind set so that I can raise my new puppy without any social issues. Dogs are very sensitive to their owners mental state and can be affected by an unbalanced owner. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(5 comments) Marcy @MarcyW882921 you know I am DYING to know about your acupuncture  🤔🤔🤔

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @iLuvAutumn ,

I had my third appointment with the acupuncturist on Tuesday. This morning I was awakened at 3:45 with pain that is typically indicative of a whopper migraine to come. I used the acupressure seeds that she placed on my ear, put my heatpack on my head and was able to grab a couple more hours of sleep before it happened again. Here is the great news...I got up, did the seeds again, had breakfast, hung out on the couch for about an hour AND the whopping headache did not materialize!! I am hopeful that this treatment might be working.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 So happy to hear that you may have found a solution to the migraines.  Take care.  ❤️

[DianeB887812]

That is wonderful news @MarcyW882921 !!!!!

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) I HOPE so dear Marcy @MarcyW882921  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Me too Nicole @iLuvAutumn .❤️

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

(4 comments) OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by  💃💃💃

Hmmm, a 3:53am ET post = you must have been like me, up when we should be sleeping.  🤔

I luv the dog park idea and SOON we will be hearing about your NEXT furbaby.  👍👍👍

Good luck with releasing his ashes and I seem to remember you mentioning some at the dog park too. Or am I having a Senior Moment?  🙄

Yes, you have to drive for yourself and the OTHER drivers. And I tell my daughter to LET them do their thing even IF she has the RIGHT OF WAY = not worth being shot at.  😱😱😱

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Burial at sea will be this next Tuesday July 23 at Sunset. I wanted him with me longer but he insisted that I perform this task as soon as I was able. He wanted me to move on. What a sweetheart he was. 

[iLuvAutumn]

(1 comment) Dear Diane @DianeB887812 , will you have family and/or friends there with you?  🤔

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE wrote: Burial at sea will be this next Tuesday July 23 at Sunset. I wanted him with me longer but he insisted that I perform this task as soon as I was able. He wanted me to move on. What a sweetheart he was. ***]

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[DianeB887812]

Stephen did not want a memorial service. So I’m going on my own. I will use Uber to get there and back. He was a very private person. 

[DianeB887812]

My bladder does not let me sleep in sometimes. Once I’m up it’s for the whole day. BIG sigh. 

The good news is I got to the dog park. The bad news is it then started raining. So I’ll just have to try again this weekend. The one person I talked with let me know that a lot of familiar faces both two legged and four are waiting at the rainbow bridge. BIG sigh. 

In Florida you have to watch out for the Q-tips driving as if no one else is on the road. I think I may have joined their ranks. As time goes by my concentration will get better. Till then I’ll try to be on my best behavior.

And yes a dash of Stephen will go to the park. The grass can always use a bit of fertilizer. 😉

[iLuvAutumn]

1 comment [Thursday 7/18/24 12:44am ET]

How are YOU?  🤔

Lol, I have been up all night!!! 😂🤣

And bet when my 2 alarms (yes, two  🙄) go off at 6am to FEED you know who is when I will be asleep.

It stormed last night and I hope he was under someone's vehicle.

It passed for now and maybe he will surface to sleep as usual on my porch.

Plan for TODAY, last of 4 Dollar Trees hoping this one will have my hair oil or it will be Sally's I guess.

Everyone FIND YOUR PEACE.

Luv you guys,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Good morning speedy. I have now got my car paperwork in my name. That allows me to get a parking sticker for the dog park. Guess where I plan to go today. I just want to say hi to folks that knew Stephen and I and let them know he is gone. I’ll get to pet lots of dogs too. 

Next on my list is to take a boat ride off shore and release his ashes into the ocean

That is where Phil went and that is where I want to go. We will all be together. And no matter where friends or family live, they can find their way to a beach and visit us.

On the subject of poor driving habits, while I was driving back and forth to dyalisis treatments and then the hospital and finally the hospice, I ran stop signs and turned when I was not supposed to I can not tell you how many times. And I have never in my life ever been in an accident or gotten a ticket. I just did not have my mind on my driving. Dangerous. I still have to keep watch on myself. My mind wanders and sometimes I look around and have no idea where I am. So I’m staying home as much as possible. 

when I was grieving my first husband I had to go back to working after two weeks. I got totally lost on my way to work one morning   

So please everyone be carful driving. Sometimes you just have to, but try to concentrate on the driving extra hard. Or better yet get somone else to do the driving for now. 

STAY SAFE!!!!

[iLuvAutumn]

(2 comments) Okay, take a seat - chatterbox Nicole is now ready to share her INTERESTING day so far. Lol, had to watch some Garfield then Downtown Abbey to ERASE my RUN THE RED LIGHT moment!!!  😱😱😱

NEVER done this in my 66 years on this planet = NO speeding tickets or accidents. All it took was to be pulled over at age 18 (was speeding, given a warning) in St. Louis, Missouri in my BRAND NEW Honda Civic Hatchback (I bought myself, well car payments through my Credit Union). My 1st real job there was an Outside Hostess at the Steak 'n Shake down the road. I was 16 and walking. Talk about FREEZING my a.s off during the winter. Some serious snow.  😱😱😱  But the TIPS were AWESOME. Yes, we put those metal trays on car windows. In between cars, my b.tt was INSIDE thawing. Lol, how was that for someone who lived on an island for 16 years. NOT FUN. But Ron, my boss was really AWESOME.

Okay, back to my RED LIGHT incident today.

Now keep in mind I KNOW this intersection, been using it since 2018.

SO GRATEFUL I didnot get hit.

I was in the LEFT TURN lane heading to CVS and usually that lane's green ARROW comes on AFTER the other lanes' green does.

Yours truly hits the gas and makes my left turn, NOT even giving it a 2nd thought - while the arrow is still RED.

The only thing that saved me was that the folks moved SLOWLY forward.

Lol, now to see IF there was a CAMERA in that intersection.  🤔🤔🤔

I was so RATTLED after I swore I was STAYING home tomorrow (Thursday) and got gas TODAY. Had planned for tomorrow. I like to keep a FULL tank for those detours through the mountains for accidents and what seems to be chronic roadwork. Fun on 2-lane roads. Yes, those stop, go, slow flag men/women. Hmmm, it is Summer and folks got ice cream trying to get home from Walmart.

Anyway, NO luck at #3 Dollar Tree TODAY, so #4 tomorrow. Yes, going back out. Kind of paranoid now = will I do the same thing again.

🐈  Mr. was a TRIP yesterday!!! Insisting on TRYING to get in bed with me. He had left that alone way back. Lol, interesting what he has planned for today. Yes, Max's vehicle is here and he is nowhere to be found since eating everything in his dish at 6am this morning. Well let's say, took a few trips in and out (had to go see IF Max was home/lol). I finally shut my door to get ready for CVS. I need a Remote Door Opener for his SPOILT self. Geez...

Marcy, oh Marcy @MarcyW882921  👋👋👋

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Oh my Nicole @iLuvAutumn ! How scary!! 

I hope watching your shows helped you to regain your composure. Personally I have always found Downton Abbey to be a great escape!

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  I loved that show, NEVER missed an episode.  Marcy I hope you solve the migraine mystery soon.  

[iLuvAutumn]

1 comment  ⚠️  DAY 2 [Wednesday 7/17/24 6:57am ET] GLITCH!!!

NO AARP Post Notification Emails TODAY  ☹

Hey Team, once in awhile this site has a GLITCH where you will NOT get a COPY of the Grief Forum POSTS.

Hopefully you figured this out (NO post emails in your Email IN BOX).

Lol, I know some of us READ these emails rather than stop by like I do daily.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Aha! It’s a plot to slow my recovery. But they can’t stop me! How is everyone this lovely morning. I had my walk this morning. It is very pleasant in the early morning. Three cute ducklings ran up to me expecting a handout. Someone has been feeding them. That may be a problem when they grow up , but for now they are cute. I’m doing nothing today. I still have a few things left on my to do list but two days of going to Dr appointments whiled me out. Shades of the panic I felt around the many appointments I had to take my husband to. I do not have anymore appointments for two weeks. So I will try to relax and recover. Luv to all especially @summersTooHOT 

[iLuvAutumn]

1 comment  ⚠️   Day 1 [Tuesday 7/16/24 8:20pm ET] GLITCH!!!

NO AARP Post Notification Emails TODAY  ☹

Hey Team, once in awhile this site has a GLITCH where you will NOT get a COPY of the Grief Forum POSTS.

Hopefully you figured this out (NO post emails in your Email IN BOX).

Lol, I know some of us READ these emails rather than stop by like I do daily.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @iLuvAutumn .

Marcy

[iLuvAutumn]

(3 comments) OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by  💃💃💃

Lol, and that is WHY one marriage was enough for me. 😂🤣

Time to ENJOY what time I got left with my only child, a daughter and TAKE CARE OF MYSELF so she does not end up as my caregiver.  👍👍👍

Did you walk?

I just got out of shower and DREADING the heat outside.

🐈  Mr. is UNDER my car. Lol, he will NOT be happy when I WAKE him up to move car without running over him.

Thanks for update and GLAD you are okay.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 🙂