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[MarcyW882921]

Very nice Allen @SummerIsTooHOT ...thanks!

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Lol, Allen @Therapist4u - I "think" Marcy @MarcyW882921 inserted my name instead of yours!!!  🙄🙄🙄

I luv your posts Allen  💃💃💃

Luv you BOTH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Very nice Allen @SummerIsTooHOT ...thanks!

Marcy ***]

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[Therapist4u]

ITS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS!!👍

LOL!!!

THANKS TO BOTH OF YOU

NICOLE @MarcyW882921

AND MARCY  @SummerIsTooHOT

HAHAHA😃🙄🙃

[SummerIsTooHOT]

😴  (1 comment) Dreams are the window to the soul; may yours be filled with love and happiness.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Therapist4u]

may yours be filled with love and happiness too!😊

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1comment) CADEE HERE IS A COPY OF WHAT ALLEN WROTE TO YOU IN ANOTHER MEMBER'S DISCUSSION IN CASE YOU WANT TO REPLY TO HIM IN THIS DISCUSSION. NO PRESSURE AS USUAL TO REPLY. NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

[*** ALLEN @Therapist4u wrote:

Hi @Cadee2719

You’re very welcome!

While my time on this AARP site is very limited, I wanted to let you know I appreciate much of what you have written over time.

In particular, when you said about: “I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear” That has also happened to where I’ve lived in my present home...the 1st one I bought, decades ago.

All the good friends I’ve had have either moved... or passed on! The condos changed from mostly owner-occupied who were actively engaged in fixing issues & improving it, ... to mostly renters who don’t care about anything ...not to be helpful, or trying to be friendly, or civil or respectful!

But also the part where you mentioned that:

“I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home,  am able to go any where I want and not be afraid”....

is encouraging ....& I’ve been on a slow path (takes so much time...especially finding the right contractors...& BEAUCOUPS of money.... as you know...LOL) to remodeling ....in order to sell,... & move to a similar situation as you have! 🙂

IMHO: you definitely earned that... by your hard work.... & persistence!

Take care ~Allen ***]

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[Cadee2719]

 Thank You Allen.  I think AARP should address this issue.  People being pushed out of their homes because of the crime, robberies and killings.  What do they do?  Where do they go?  My 80 year old neighbor was killed.  The homes in my neighborhood (a community that was safe for the 46 years that I lived there) are being robbed in the DAYLIGHT with people in them!!!  The

community I lived in was safe for all the years I  lived there,  yet the homeless and the criminals control the area.  The politicians focus on the homeless and do nothing for the taxpayers.  Laws protect the criminals and it was unsafe to go grocery shopping or leave the house.  Yet, all you ever hear about are the homeless.  I am certain that I am not the only elderly person that had to deal with this and yet we hear nothing from AARP.  Yes, to pick up my life at the age of 80 and move to another state to FEEL SAFE was the hardest thing I have ever done.  My son was kind enough to do the same and for that I am appreciative.  The impetus was the deaths of my son and husband.  I promised my husband I would move and I did.  Each day I feel as if I died and went to heaven.  Life is good here.  I am safe, go anywhere I want to go, have neighbors that are kind and helpful and am able to sleep at night.  I can't tell anyone what they should do, but I can say to explore the possibilities and do what is necessary to make you happy and safe.  It is sad that this is an issue in today's society, but let's not "pretend", put our heads in the sand and ignore the realities.  

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) How are you guys doing?  🤔

Drive or ride SAFELY today Marcy @MarcyW882921 and Good Luck with your Chorus Competition!!!  💃💃💃

Jonibee @jonibee , you are in my thoughts today.  👍

Ms. Idaho @Cadee2719 , lol - got that OTHER side of your garage unpacked? Some folks NEVER park their cars in theirs = Storage Facility. When I had one, ALWAYS used it. Nothing like dodging the rain while climbing in and out of my car.  👍

And EVERYONE ELSE, enjoy today and be the best you can be.

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

 Good Morning    Still working on the house.  No the garage is STILL filled.  I am able to pull my car in so that is a good thing.  The problem is my son originally thought he would want a bedroom set, table and chairs, etc. and has now changed his mind.  He also brought EVERY tool of his fathers and guess where they are!  He is in the process of being cleared for a fantastic job opportunity so he has no time to even think about all the stuff he has here in my garage.  😂  I will continue to unpack my boxes and try to push the other stuff further to the wall.  Evidently, "I" will have to make the decision to call a charity to bring a truck and cart all the stuff away.  Slowly the house is getting done.  I am settling in.  I LOVE IDAHO; it is like I died and went to heaven.  I discovered a women's group that gets together and does activities together.  Sounds like fun.  My neighbors in California stay in touch and I am expecting a visit from a young woman that worked for me at the University.  She has relatives here and discovered I am just 15 minutes away from them!   I have also located a Food Bank nearby that I can volunteer for.  I AM HAPPY.  I am praying that your daughter will find a job she loves and that you find happiness and contentment.  Luv you ❤️  Our Marcy continues to be a "busy bee" and I am happy for her.  All of this does not mean that we have forgotten our loved ones.  I am certain that we all think of them each day and keep them in our heart and minds.  They will NEVER be forgotten.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , any Road Trips/Other Travel planned?

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT , I am in the process of packing my bags. I leave tomorrow for my chorus competition weekend. I hope I sleep tonight because I am need of some quality rest before the fun begins! 🎶🎶

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

2 comments (Monday 5/13/24 5:53pm ET)

@MarcyW882921 , @Cadee2719 and @Therapist4u please when you can, check your PMs.

I know the AARP Emails "notifying" you of mail in your AARP Mailboxes has NOT been arriving.

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Hey my friend Allen @Therapist4u , I went ahead and removed my comments and kudos from another member's discussion here in the Grief & Loss Forum. You have done nothing wrong at all and your very kind comments touched my insides. You are ALWAYS WELCOME to join any of my discussions. I am heading offline for a bit and see you are online. Didnot want to think I am ignoring you.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Therapist4u]

OK THANKS NICOLE....

TTYL

YOUR 4EVAH FRIEND

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(4 comments) Today is another  🥀  Mother's Day and YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS Cadee @Cadee2719 .

Enjoy your Special Day with your Son here on earth and you already know your other Son is with you ALWAYS.

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Happy Mother's Day to all! 💐 I hope you are having a beautiful day celebrating the difficult job you have done so well.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I have learn't to be careful with wishing folks Happy Mother's Day when I am NOT sure IF they are one. Now IF my VERY OLD BRAIN "remembers"  🙄🙄🙄  I seem to remember you mentioning Stepkids. So HATS OFF TO YOU MOM and hope you were able to spend some time with them.

Luv you Ms. Zumba, Ms. Chorus & Ms. Tennis.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Happy Mother's Day to all! 💐 I hope you are having a beautiful day celebrating the difficult job you have done so well.

Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

You did great remembering Nicole @SpringIsSoHappy ! I did not get to spend time with either of them, but I did my housecleaning, went to a park to enjoy walking and nature, and ordered takeout to enjoy a quiet dinner at home.😊

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You.  ♥️  Wishing you a Happy Mothers Day.  Luv you.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) How are you guys doing?  🤔

So Our Ms. Idaho @Cadee2719 is all settled in and stopped by TODAY!!!  💃💃💃

And my Property Manager called me TODAY and I can move whenever I want to = NO 60-day notice!!!  💃💃💃

My daughter as far as I know is still Job Hunting since her 4/11/24 Surprise Same Day Mass Layoff at Harris L3 in Florida. I TRY  🙄🙄🙄  not to ASK if she has found anything = wait on her to tell me IF she has.  👍👍👍

Everyone, FIND YOUR PEACE TODAY.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Good morning, Nicole.  Sorry to hear about the problems with your place.  Funny, my son has applied for a new job here and tells me very little.  What is it with these guys?  I, too, try not to ask too many questions, yet he wants to know everything about what I am doing??????  Crazy  I am focusing on unpacking and accomplishing all that needs to be done.  Got my drivers license here, now I have to go and get a new license plate for my car.  Met the previous owner of my home this morning, very sweet.  She brought by some things she took by mistake.  Once I  unpack the other half of my garage, I should be settled.  😂  It keeps me busy.  I have been working so hard and so long that I decided I AM DOING NOTHING TODAY!!!!!!  It is just one of those days.  I keep your daughter in my nightly prayers and KNOW she will get a job that she will love soon.  I also hope that you find a place to live that you will fee "at home" in.  Hang in there.  ❤️  It seems as if we are always dealing with something doesn't it?

[SummerIsTooHOT]

😴  (1 comment) The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Therapist4u]

Hi Nicole!

It has been said that this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt... suggests that those who "have a clear idea of what they want to achieve and a strong belief in their ability to make it happen are the ones who will be most successful in creating the future they desire....& it encapsulates the essence of hope, determination, and the transformative power of dreams.”

Anyway...as always... Take care

☮️  🌄  ~Allen 🌈  🎨

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Thank you SO MUCH Marcy @MarcyW882921 for stopping by.

Luv that you are staying busy and well!!!  👍👍👍

Lol, I am having one of my feel sorry for myself and worry about my laid off daughter in Florida DAYS.

But it has been a PEACEFUL DAY here in Cave Spring-Virginia, about to change as folks head back from work.

👣👣👣  As we say all the time - 1 Step At A Time, I "is" Stepping to get out of bed for that Morning Coffee I didnot have. It is about 3pm ET.  🙄🙄🙄

ENJOY the rest of your VERY BUSY DAY my dear, you are ALWAYS stopping by when you can.

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Monday Monday. I played tennis a half hour earlier today because of scheduling and initially I wasn't quite awake. I also made it to water aerobics so I could catch up with a friend I hadn't seen for awhile. The outside temperature was great, but the pool was cool! 🥶 Tonight is my chorus' Friends & Family night so I have to get myself together for that performance. I'm grateful for a beautiful day of life and activity.

Wishing you a peaceful and satisfying day!

Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT ,

I think you had better grab that cup of coffee before people start returning home from work. You might need that little jolt of preparation!

Here's something to think about in response to your worry...

“If the problem can be solved why worry? If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.”
― Shantideva

Think of ways to use your energy to benefit yourself and others. You've got this!

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(2 comments) How are you guys doing?  🤔

Well, an up-all-night - lol, so grateful I get to stay home = no need to be driving with no sleep.

Won $1 on one of my $1 Scratch Off Tickets and $3 on the other one. Yes, my $2 splurge every Tuesday when I head to Walmart for groceries.

I had NOT seen my friend (Walmart employee) for the LAST two visits. But learning to APPRECIATE the "random" things in my life. Well TODAY she was behind me and we hugged. A dear lady who is a Cancer Survivor. IF I had not decided to CHANGE to the OTHER Self-Checkout, I probably would NOT have ran into her.

Lol, was in one of my moods YESTERDAY [TUESDAY] MORNING and didnot want to deal with the staff at my usual Self-Checkout location.

My daughter in Florida finally finished working on her resume. Yes, after 5 years, her resume needed updating. Now to hope she finds something soon before her 5 weeks Layoff Severance runs out.

Everyone, FIND YOUR PEACE TODAY...

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Monday Monday. I played tennis a half hour earlier today because of scheduling and initially I wasn't quite awake. I also made it to water aerobics so I could catch up with a friend I hadn't seen for awhile. The outside temperature was great, but the pool was cool! 🥶 Tonight is my chorus' Friends & Family night so I have to get myself together for that performance. I'm grateful for a beautiful day of life and activity.

Wishing you a peaceful and satisfying day!

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT , It sounds like you had a pretty good day. A little profit on the lottery tickets, a chance meeting with your friendly Walmart employee, and a hug! 

I did a Zumba class online and took a very good line dancing class through AARP. It's hard not to be happy when you are dancing!

A cancelled class for this evening allows me to have dinner with a friend so all is well.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(3 comments) SO GOOD to hear from you TODAY MC @mc6844 .

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. Good to hear from you too, and also to read everyone's shares. I was trying to start a new topic. What Not To Do When Grieving. I found a good article but can't find it again. I've done a lot of what Not to do when grieving. Lol Does everyone have suggestions of what not to do?  Thank you.