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[Winter2025VA]

@DianeE1958 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE @DianeE1958 wrote:

 My husband passed away on 2/22/24 and I am having a hard time emotionally.  I don't know what to do. It's like I am in a "brain fog". I need direction and I need help. Should I seek out a psychiatrist? I don't have any friends to talk to and I don't belong to any groups. I live in a tiny rural town. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thank you! ***]

[mc6844]

Diane, I'm sorry for your loss. A big loss, indeed. If you don't feel up to in person, an online counselor can be very helpful at this time. There are websites that offer free counseling. Building up a few resources can give you a sense of control and stability. Just do what you feel up to each day. Short walks, sunshine helps too. Please take care. 

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your loss. The good people on this site have lots of wisdom and hope and will help you.

[MarcyW882921]

Alisa @AlisaH435648 ,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet husband. Yes it probably is a challenge to be you right now because you may very well not know who you are. Your loss is so new and it takes time to figure that out. Your life changes drastically when you are no longer your husband's wife. Identify things you have control of and things that you don't. Take control of the things that you can... one step at a time... when you are ready.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

2 comments (Tuesday 11/28/23)

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR? 🤔

(Me) Just got an email from my Online Social Security Account telling me my 2024 NEW/increased Retirement Social Security AMOUNT was available. Yipee, SO GRATEFUL!!! 💃💃💃

[mc6844]

Congratulations!

[Therapist4u]

Yipee

Yipee

 Nicole's 2024 NEW Retirement Social Security AMOUNT increased....LOL!!🙂

[Winter2025VA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. Hope all of you are doing well. I'm a little slow with things lately. But try to stop in to see how you all are. Stay well, and keep on keeping on.

[Cadee2719]

Good Morning Nicole!  I read something last night saying that the November moon was a "Beaver" moon; named for the time of year when beavers retire to their dens and winter will soon be here.  I have always been fascinated by the moon, stars, sunset, sunrise and rainbows, all the the beautiful things the world has to offer us.  When my children and grandsons were little, I would buy them telescopes and we would search the sky. In my research I found that the moon is a feminine symbol, representing the rhythm of time.  The phases of the moon symbolize immortality and eternity, enlightenment or the dark side of Nature herself.  I am glad that you find the moon relaxing.  Luv you!  ❤️

[mc6844]

That is lovely, Cadee! A poet's heart. I tend to avoid places like Walmart on full moons lol

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719,

You continue to amaze us!

Marcy

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. How are you doing? 

[Winter2025VA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[mc6844]

That is good advice Nicole. The people who care will never complain about being reached. They genuinely love and care about us. And want to have that time with us too.

[KimberlyM389662]

I was just thinking about that exact thing about my husband. I was in labor for 3 days with both my kids. My daughter's birthday is tomorrow. I remember that her Dad stayed with me the entire time and he was a huge support for me. I also remember the joy on his face when she was born and how proud he was. I am trying to keep that as my best memory other than our wedding day. 

[mc6844]

That's very nice, Kimberly! What lovely memories. Take care!

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment (Tuesday 11/28/23)

Hi Kim @KimberlyM389662 , yes, those SPECIAL MEMORIES pop up to REMIND AND ENCOURAGE us!!!! 💙💙💙

[KimberlyM389662]

She was our 1st born and the only girl. Her and her Dad had a special bond. They loved going to haunted places and houses but me, no way. To this day I still won't go to or in a haunted house. We did love scary movies and watched a lot. Most of my movie collection is horror. Love you my friend. 

[Winter2025VA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[KimberlyM389662]

Tomorrow is our daughter's 28th birthday. I was sitting here watching the Irwins (Crocodile Hunters family) and just crying through the entire episode because it was the episode where Bindi had her baby. It showed a lot of episodes where Steve became a Dad but, they were talking about how he would be such a great grandfather and how he is with them in spirit and it really hit me that my husband is not going to be here and that's what happened to me. Between me constantly falling, trying to raise my son and fighting social security I am exhausted and can't find the strength to get my other things that I need to get done in my house. I am just tired of trying and not getting it done. 

[mc6844]

The Irwins is a good show. Slowing down to watch a TV show is a good idea. Moments like that can help to lighten our mood and make burdens seem lighter. The losses can hit hard at times. It's good to remember that your husband may be there in spirit like the Irwin grandfather. There's so much we don't know about the other realms. Please take care!

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

YOU GO GIRL!!!! 💃💃💃

CADEE @Cadee2719 SAID.

(1) Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.

(2) My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.

(3) I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole: "One Step at a Time".

[Therapist4u]

YA.....YOU GO GIRL!

Anyway... Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈🍂🍁🍂

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

CHECKUP TIME! 😎

Hey Marcy @MarcyW882921 , now that your kitchen renovations are FINISHED, what is NEXT on your list? 🤔

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2025VA,

Roof replacement. You have to appease the insurance companies here or they will drop the hammer on you. My roof is pushing their limits and getting some grant money makes the time right to do it.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[Cadee2719]

Yesterday, 11/25 would have been the 62 year anniversary of my marriage.  Funny, in my mind I am still married to my husband and will remain so until the day I die.  I went to the graves and put beautiful flowers on both my husband and son's graves.  It was a sunny, beautiful day.  My son's home closes 11/30 and he and a friend will take a truck up to unload some things.  (Hopefully all the "stuff" he has in my house and garage.)  🤣  Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.  My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.  I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole:  "One Step at a Time".

[SueS788527]

Hi, Cadee, my heart goes out to you.  I agree that if you are married for a long time, like I am too, I will still feel my late husband's presence and miss him every day.  I am glad you had a sunny day to put down your flowers and remember your husband and son.  Two losses are extra hard.  Good luck on your cataract surgery.  Take care of yourself and as we all are experiencing take it slow.  My prayers are with you.  If you can, please try to take some time to be with the rest of your family during this holiday season.  Many churches offer Blue Christmas services on December 21, the longest night of the year, so I have found those services very comforting.  Just a thought.  Love, Sue 💕

[Cadee2719]

Thank you for your kind words.