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[Cadee2719]

Yesterday, 11/25 would have been the 62 year anniversary of my marriage.  Funny, in my mind I am still married to my husband and will remain so until the day I die.  I went to the graves and put beautiful flowers on both my husband and son's graves.  It was a sunny, beautiful day.  My son's home closes 11/30 and he and a friend will take a truck up to unload some things.  (Hopefully all the "stuff" he has in my house and garage.)  🤣  Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.  My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.  I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole:  "One Step at a Time".

[SueS788527]

Hi, Cadee, my heart goes out to you.  I agree that if you are married for a long time, like I am too, I will still feel my late husband's presence and miss him every day.  I am glad you had a sunny day to put down your flowers and remember your husband and son.  Two losses are extra hard.  Good luck on your cataract surgery.  Take care of yourself and as we all are experiencing take it slow.  My prayers are with you.  If you can, please try to take some time to be with the rest of your family during this holiday season.  Many churches offer Blue Christmas services on December 21, the longest night of the year, so I have found those services very comforting.  Just a thought.  Love, Sue 💕

[Cadee2719]

Thank you for your kind words.  

[SpringIsHereVA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereVA , 

I have designated reading and prayer time each evening. It helps me to relax and get my mind set on a positive track. I find this routine to be beneficial for me to sleep.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

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[mc6844]

When a family member/friend dies it affects more people than you think. Parents if they're still alive, same for siblings. Spouses, adult or younger kids, neighbors. The postman. The maintenance man, and on it goes. It's like a ripple in a pond. The one you lost had a part in all these people's lives. And it helps to remember the good ways your loved one touched lives, even if it was a brief moment or two. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

3 comments (Saturday 11/25/23 6:34pm ET)

Just saw Mr. No Name 🐈🐱 (cat left behind when HIS humans moved, refuses to be an Inside Cat, luvs "belly rubs") on my way to dumpster and mailbox 💙💙💙

[Therapist4u]

Oh hi Nicole!

Cats B Cats!

LOL!!

 LOL!!

Anyway... Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈 🍂🍁🍂

[SpringIsHereVA]

(1 comment) Lol Allen @Therapist4u , that is EXACTLY what he does!!! 😂🤣

[Therapist4u]

Hi again Nicole

Thanks....it took me a while to find the right pic... 😸LOL!!

[SpringIsHereVA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[KimberlyM389662]

Everything is a challenge for me right now. I have fallen 7 times in 7 days. I fell twice on 2 days and I am pretty sure that I have done something else to my back. I have multiple bruises, ripped the skin off my left leg. It almost looks like a rug burn but I don't have carpet. Thanksgiving was 10 months since my husband died. I know that my adult daughter has her own life and a lot on her plate but, sometimes Mom's need help but with her it's either too busy or something else. She dropped off something to me yesterday and immediately said she couldn't stay because she had to clean up from Thanksgiving which she hosted for the families. I had to pick it up and then drag it to the other room where it's still sitting because I can't carry it upstairs. I couldn't even get up the stairs to use the bathroom. I had to use a bucket. I feel like my life is spiralling out of control and I don't know what to do to stop it. Here's our beautiful boy. 

[LaurieP163256]

Falling frequently, of course, is not great.  Really, you should be checked out by a health professional.  Falling can cause hidden injuries, like some whiplash from the force of the fall.

Mayo Clinic on Fall Prevention

https://www.mayoclinic.org/about-mayo-clinic/quality/quality-measures/falls-prevention

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from the University of Rochester Medical Center…

For Elderly, Even Short Falls can be Deadly

https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/news/story/for-elderly-even-short-falls-can-be-deadly

[KimberlyM389662]

I see a pain management doctor and have reported this many times to them. I don't want something to affect my hardware because I am not having another back surgery. I am calling the surgeon tomorrow morning if I don't end up in the emergency room. I have discs pressing on my nerve root on both sides of my lower back and I don't want them to herniate. My daughter is a teacher and my mom is having memory loss so, I have limited resources to help my handicap son. I don't know which way to get the help I need and I am not sure what is coming next. I feel totally helpless. I can't even stand up long enough to even shower. 

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[mc6844]

That sounds so painful Kimberly. Back pain is awful. I'm sorry you're going through so much. Maybe the people on this site can lend wisdom and hope.

[SpringIsHereVA]

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[mc6844]

November has seemed like a long month. I'm sorry you had a rough day Nicole. I have some days like that too. And always grateful when those days are over. Today is a new day!

[SpringIsHereVA]

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[mc6844]

The sunshine helps me to to sleep at night. Hope it shows up today!

[SpringIsHereVA]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[mc6844]

I'm not up for the holidays either but I am better off doing other things. Hope everyone is ok, after all, it's really just another day.

[SpringIsHereVA]

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[Therapist4u]

Nicole😃

HUMOR is therapeutic... Humor helps reduce the negative effects of feeling unhealthy, out of control, afraid, or helpless....If you don’t consider yourself a funny person, then its suggested to consider being a humor curator. Collect and share things that make you laugh😊

Happy Thanksgiving!

 Thanks My 4evah friend!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈🍂🍁🍂

[mc6844]

What do you get when you cross a turkey with a ghost? Ans: A poultrygheist

[Therapist4u]

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[SpringIsHereVA]

(1 comment) So did you and Denise have Turkey today Allen @Therapist4u 🙄

[Therapist4u]

Denise cooked.....and Katie was there.....

Denise cooked.....and Katie was there.....but she was not impressed.... and Katie left with her cell phone!

 but she was not impressed.... and Katie left with her cell phone! LOL!

[SpringIsHereVA]

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[mc6844]

I wish you all a peaceful Thanksgiving. It's inspiring to see you all making your way, your efforts and progress. Two steps forward, one back, that's how it goes. Thank you for all your sharing, the ups and downs. We just keep going...