🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Spring2025]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Cadee2719]

  I promise I am taking care of myself.  I have begun the search for the vascular doctor.  The information from Jonibee has been so helpful.  Rheumatologist in November, Family doctor in December.  My brother has someone coming in to do the heavy work.  I will give him his medication, prepare his meals and spend time with him.  Once the surgery on his eye is scheduled, he will come to my home and I will care for him there.  Thank You for caring.  Luv you ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

This all sounds good Cadee @Cadee2719 ! Keep planning and moving forward.

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

This is your special day so celebrate you! Treat yourself well because you deserve it. Happy birthday dear friend and may you have many more. 🎂🍨🎶🎉💐💃🏻

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

❤️❤️❤️

Marcy

[Spring2025]

[9/25/24] SO GOOD to hear from you Jonibee @jonibee !!! Happy Dance Time.  💃💃💃

Would a HEATING PAD help?

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JONIBEE wrote: appts coming up are Lawyer dealing with trusts and Cardiologist just a check up to see if all is okayi..I have a 3 mos checkup wit primary in Dec. I am trying to curtail any more tests as it's wearing me out. I have another leg surgery scheduled after a month or so .Not going to the Endocrinologist because he didn't do anything and the Primary can do the same for less $$..Plus his office didn't fill out the Medicare form correct so it was denied so they have to resubmit it with the right wording..Aggravating..I find that this damp chilliy weather aggravates the cysts behind the knee...Using pain creme and Ibeprofin but careful not to take too many as it can cause bleeding problems...Walk using a canie as sitting doesn't help the cause..Otherwise I'm fine for the shape that I'm in... ***]

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[jonibee]

I haven't had to resort to a htg. pad the creme/ibuprofen when needed helps and positining the legs either on a raised pillow or laying on one side with legs bent seems to help and of course walking to keep things going avoiding salts or salty foods and going easy of red meat..So here I am needing to watch the carbs also pretty soon what will I eat?

[Spring2025]

👋  How are YOU?

Any plans for TODAY?

NO errands for me, Flu Shot TOMORROW at 8:30am and my 66th birthday.

Anyone got the Flu Shot or planning to?

NOT sure about LATEST COVID vaccine, waiting to see WHEN it is "available" at my CVS. They notify me of stuff via text and email. Grateful!!!

Had a very SAD dream last night = will be a day of Self Care in some form. Not sure WHICH form but NOT in the "mood" for Mr.'s In & Out TODAY. Crawled back into my bed AFTER feeding and watering him. Then put him out again. As usual, when I want him OUTSIDE he wants INSIDE. Not today buddy. We will see how I FEEL as the day surfaces.

DREARY rainy day and disappointed AGAIN of NOT being able to finish Car Spa. Oh well, per my Android Weather app - NEXT THURSDAY sun should be back.

Sick of Storm/whatever Helene. Is she affecting YOUR area?

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

         🎶 HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, 🎶 HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ,🎶  HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR NICOLE, 🎶  HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU  ❤️🎂   HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY  

[Cadee2719]

  I think the rain and not being able to get outside is affecting you.  I am praying that Helene does not harm my friends in Florida.  Is your daughter in a safe place?  I don't think I could live there as I would be terrified of all the hurricanes.   I am glad that you are taking care of yourself.  I am planning on getting the flu shot, not sure about the COVID.   Today Safelite is suppose to call me and tell me if they found the regulator for my car window.  I am keeping my fingers crossed.  Thank You for forwarding the message for me.  Be safe ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

I'm glad you are keeping up with your vaccines. I got the new COVID vac before my trip and plan to get my flu vac in October.

Sorry about your sad dream and hope that you follow through with some comforting self-care to get you through the day.🤗❤️

Marcy

[Spring2025]

👍  [9/24/24] REMEMBER - on those days/nights when YOU wonder WHY you are still here??? YOU are still here for the folks who CARE ABOUT YOU!!! So get out of bed EVERY DAY, hug them, tell them you CARE. This way when YOU ARE GONE, mixed in with THEIR GRIEVING will be GOOD MEMORIES. Parents (I am one) OUR KIDS (even adults) need their ONE PARENT - you.  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

It’s sad to say but my adult children and grandchildren are so busy in their lives I’m not sure they would miss me.  I think I have a couple of sisters and a friend or two that would miss me terribly.  Most of all would be that silly dog!  Days will go by and I won’t hear a word from my sons.  I try not to let it hurt but it does.  They are busy with their stuff and I’m not part of it!!

[Cadee2719]

  LOVE this picture. From what I am hearing on this site,  I am beginning to think that it is normal for our kids and grandchildren to be so busy with their lives that we are forgotten.  It is hard and sad for those of us that devoted our lives to them and made them an integral part of our lives.  I honestly think they have no idea how much we miss them.   We still think and worry about them and will do so until we are gone.  I work hard at staying in touch with them, yet not interfering in their daily lives.  It is just so difficult to understand why they are not able to understand that we love them and miss them.  I guess the fact that we are healing from the loss of one we loved so dearly adds to the emptiness that we feel.  

[Spring2025]

📸  [9/23/24] Attachment for Jonibee @jonibee - I am expecting pictures SOON (when you are back to gardening my friend)  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

appts coming up are Lawyer dealing with trusts and Cardiologist just a check up to see if all is okayi..I have a 3 mos checkup wit primary in Dec. I am trying to curtail any more tests as it's wearing me out. I have another leg surgery scheduled after a month or so .Not going to the Endocrinologist because he didn't do anything and the Primary can do the same for less $$..Plus his office didn't fill out the Medicare form correct so it was denied so they have to resubmit it with the right wording..Aggravating..I find that this damp chilliy weather aggravates the cysts behind the knee...Using pain creme and Ibeprofin but careful not to take too many as it can cause bleeding problems...Walk using a canie as sitting doesn't help the cause..Otherwise I'm fine for the shape that I'm in...

[jonibee]

I no longer have a regular garden onliy flower plants in a whiskey barrel and tend to perennial flowers such as Irises,Tiger lilies, Jonquils/Daffodils as I have flowering Golden Chain Tree and Bridal Wreath Bush to look after...I usually buy Mums for the front yard and I have Morning Glory that grows in pot where outside light is..

[jonibee]

Golden Chain treeLilac bushBearded Iris smells like grapesMarigolds and another perrenial flowerTiger Lilies..

[JulieT507376]

Your flowers are beautiful.  Lilacs are one of my favorites!  

[jonibee]

Only one picture I had four more but this gives you an idea anyway...

[Spring2025]

[9/23/24] Cadee @Cadee2719 , I know you are going through ALOT with the situation with your brother.  😭😭😭

I am here IF you need me dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You Nicole   Before they do surgery on his eye and nose they need to control his heart issue.  That means stopping his heart to regulate the rhythm.  It is so sad.  He is losing his sight in both eyes due to macular degeneraton and now he will lose the one eye that provided him with some sight.  I will be there for him as long as he needs and wants me to be  He called me EVERY DAY after I lost my loved ones and I am here, safe because of him.  Please keep him in your prayers.  ❤️

[Spring2025]

🗣  Group Discussion: The experts say having a daily ROUTINE helps with OUR HEALING. Any comments?

[jonibee]

Doing daily things such as getting up , fixing yourself breakfast and getting ready for the day helps. Doing daily chores such as bed making, general pickup and listening to the news to keep abreast of what is happening around you keeps you in the present. Also learning something new or keeping up with family or acquaintances is good for the mind and body..Having a hobby be it stamp collecting, puzzles, word search or playing on line games keeps the brain going..Get out for some fresh air if only to walk around the yard be in tune with Nature and the changing seasons..

[Spring2025]

I know for a fact with me "inheriting" Mr.  🐈,  in between the "stress" of ADDED responsibility and expense - I do have to get up to feed him BREAKFAST. Before, I spent WAY TOO MUCH time in bed feeling sorry for myself.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Spring2025]

[9/22/24] Julie @JulieT507376 , do you and Sadie  🐕  go for WALKS?

I miss Jeremiah  🐕,  we would be out walking EVERY morning and evening. He was a TINY "mixed" breed. MISS him after years, but like with losing "humans" - I DO NOT well with losing "furbabies"...

Lol, people do WALK their cats. Hmmm, maybe I need to train Mr.  🐈. Nope, Mr. Rebel ain't buying that.  🤣😂

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

I live on an acreage where Sadie runs free and hunts for whatever she decides to pounce on!  I think she had a gopher treat in that picture 😬 We walk to the mailbox together and play fetch and frisbee.  Her true love is herding cattle.  That was her job duty for her daddy.  Me…just a lot of cute tricks and cuddles in bed.  Her life has truly changed after her daddy passed away.  Many people assumed I would sale this big place and all the land.  No way!  Sadie needs this place!  As long as I have her I’m staying!

[Spring2025]

Lol, I don't know whose MOOD SWINGS are worst - the cat, my daughter or me. Could NOT get any ALONE time ALL OF LAST WEEK. Even could NOT get my DAILY OLD LADY NAP. So TODAY, his a.ss is "outside" napping/grooming and TOTALLY IGNORING me!!!/lol  🤣😂

[Cadee2719]

  Is this a picture of you or your daughter?  BEAUTIFUL

[Spring2025]

🗣  Group Discussion: Have you RELOCATED or "thinking" about it? Or STAYING WHERE YOU ARE. Or STAYING in the SAME city, but selling/moving in with family/downsize? Any TIPS to share? Pros & Cons of YOUR MOVE? They say NOT to make any MAJOR decisions immediately.

[Spring2025]

At the moment we have Marcy @MarcyW882921 who stayed and renovated. Cadee @Cadee2719 who relocated to be nearer to family. Jonibee @jonibee who I "think" stayed (correct me IF needed Jonibee). Julie @JulieT507376 is NEW to our group and at the moment is staying. But I do worry about her being "way out" during the ice and snow she mentioned. Lol, then me - TRYING to "wait" it out where I am until my "only" child figures out her life after being laid of ff. Anyway, I would luv to hear from OUR GROUP and OTHER GRIEVERS. Why are you staying or moving? Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗