Social Challenge: Week 1 One Small Win!

[AARPTeri]

Week 1:  What’s one small win you have had this week and one thing that’s been harder than expected?  Short answers welcome! Jump in even if you’re just getting started!

Want to join the challenge?  Here’s the URL:https://www.aarp.org/rewards/earn/socialchallenge/ 

[myndstate]

• One small win I have had this week is finding a bag of Hershey's kiss in the refrigerator!
• One thing that's been harder than expected is losing the feeling of alienation at the church I attend.

[SusanG75864]

I know what you mean about feeling alienation at your church.  I joined a new church when I moved.  People were friendly and welcoming and pastor was kindly and wise.  Then he retired and new pastor began.  One of his first sermons was about the sin of living a gay life.  I am not gay but the sudden non-inclucividity of his sermon totally turned me off.  I did not go back.  A disappointment. 

[CherylM0000]

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@SusanG75864 wrote:

I know what you mean about feeling alienation at your church.  I joined a new church when I moved.  People were friendly and welcoming and pastor was kindly and wise.  Then he retired and new pastor began.  One of his first sermons was about the sin of living a gay life.  I am not gay but the sudden non-inclucividity of his sermon totally turned me off.  I did not go back.  A disappointment. 

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I applaud your actions of not going back to a place/church that teaches discrimination and makes you feel uncomfortable. 

[rl713]

Totally hear you, I Know what you're talking about. Remember church is made of people, it can't be perfect. Try a different church, God is always PERFECT!!

[SereneSeagull]

Yep, @SusanG75864 I absolutely detest the obnoxiously pious who preach to love all and cast stones while they do it. 

[AlbertC608581]

I'm excited to spend time with dear friends on a Museum and Lunch outing later this week.

[TNTMOM]

It's always so nice to have something to look forward to --- enjoy!

[TNTMOM]

I learned in one of the videos about something called Social Anxiety Disorder... and how common it is that people have a "fear of rejection" - curious if anyone within this conversation experiences this and if you have tips to overcome it. ??

[MichaelB193199]

Yes I've heard about this too and wondering if that is why it seems I'm always the one to start getting plans moving.  I haven't called them as I'm waiting on them to call me ... I want to call but I don't want to overstep or seem pushy as it's always me to make the 1st move.  We have a good time but now I'm believing it's their turn.  Maybe we are just not a good fit for being their friends.

[SereneSeagull]

@TNTMOM  I’ve developed over time, an I-Don’t-Care-attitude about this.  

Everyone cannot be liked by all.  It’s just the way it is.  To try and attain that, in my opinion, is a waste of time.  If someone doesn’t like the way I am, thats on them, not me.  It’s not going to get me upset, because it’s ok.  Not everyone is everyone else’s bag.  

    Baskin Robins has a large amount of different flavors, right?  So too, with people.  One gravitates to whom they have common interests, etc…

I belong to a gym and attend various classes.  When I see a new person I try and make a point of going up to them and introducing myself.  I will also try and introduce them to the other people or those standing next to the new person.  I enjoy myself, and honestly don’t care what others think of how intense I am in my strength training workouts, or adding flare to my dance moves.  It’s the I-Don’t-Care-What-Others-Think attitude.  And those who enjoy being with you and accept you for you, are the keepers in life.  

[SusanG75864]

I think most of us experience this.  In the main, I have found it helpful to join a to just join in a weekly group activity and try to meet friends that way.  It is hard going sometimes, but if you keep at it, you might find a potential person who wants a friend too.

[SereneSeagull]

Exactly how I look at it, @SusanG75864 .  

[TNTMOM]

Excited about the challenge and it is coming at a good time... It has been difficult to maintain my friendships while caring for my 90 year old father and at the same time experiencing my only child (now high school graduate) leaving home.  

[EileenL912279]

Joined tai chi class. Connecting with classmates. Enjoying it

[SereneSeagull]

Hey cool!  Glad you liked it.  it’s a beautiful way to exercise.

We had it offered at our gym but not enough people attended to sustain it.  I think a good instructor was key to it succeeding, and don’t think we had a good one who clicked with us.

    I’m used to a more fast paced intense workout, so for me, I had a hard time slowing myself down, lol!  But I gave it a few tries.  Definitely a great way to connect with others who enjoy it.  Quite relaxing and peaceful movements.