AARP Online Community and Discussion Forums - Social Life

CarolynS674392 · ‎03-24-2023

I joined a widow/widowers group but most of them are 20 years older than I am. They have dances, but do they play 80s music? I was told probably not. I just don't fit in anywhere. I do have friends who are in their 70s and 80s, but for dating, I'd like them to be in their 50s or 60s. I do NOT want to meet anyone online here or anything, just looking for suggestions.

My sister warned me against online dating. She said just meet people naturally. I go to church, but the men are married or too old. Church is where I met my late husband 32 years ago. But he was truly special. Where do you go to meet people who are in their 50s?

JackieS351405 · ‎03-25-2023

Don't give up. You find what you need when you need it. I know, i found someone in an unlikely place and i was not looking. Hang in there.

AngelaB46832 · ‎03-25-2023

I understand my lady. I had to find myself and what I really enjoy and love besides my family. And started looking for the things I wanted to do and places I wanted to see. And one thing I really like is comedy shows and I love places were they play jazz music. And there be folks of all different ages and backgrounds that is how I started meeting people. Not trying to bore you just saying stay encouraged.

CarolynS674392 · ‎03-26-2023

Do you go alone?

CarolynS674392 · ‎03-26-2023

I like comedy shows too. I used to go with my husband often.

CarolynS674392 · ‎03-24-2023

Never mind. I guess I am just meant to be alone for another 30 years. I hate my life.

EricC28201 · ‎03-26-2023

Gotta say @CarolynS674392 ...Sounds like you just need to get out of your own head.

What was your best subject in elementary school...maybe a local school is looking for volunteers to help kids having a hard time.

Is there an animal shelter where you can volunteer? Sometimes it's as simple as just talking to and petting an animal that appreciates a little company.

Try some local churches...I've volunteered at churches I do and don't attend...sometimes it helps to just be part of Something.

...of course, none of these is a substitute for seeking professional help if you decide that would be best.

CarolynS674392 · ‎03-26-2023

You're right, of course. I take care of my elderly dog - I take very good care of him - lots of people tell me so. I was in the local senior spelling bee because I like words. I met a few people there. I've done volunteer work in the past at different times. But I guess there's something in me that just wants to have fun, be a little wild. It's a new thing for me. And going to the fish fry with my parents was a little depressing. But I'm glad we did because it really cheered up my mom and that's very important right now. Thank you, Eric.