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I joined a widow/widowers group but most of them are 20 years older than I am.  They have dances, but do they play 80s music?  I was told probably not.  I just don't fit in anywhere.  I do have friends who are in their 70s and 80s, but for dating, I'd like them to be in their 50s or 60s.  I do NOT want to meet anyone online here or anything, just looking for suggestions.

 

My sister warned me against online dating.  She said just meet people naturally.  I go to church, but the men are married or too old.  Church is where I met my late husband 32 years ago.  But he was truly special.  Where do you go to meet people who are in their 50s?

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Don't give up.   You find what you need when you need it.   I know,  i found someone in an unlikely place and i was not looking.   Hang in there. 

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I understand my lady. I had to find myself and what I really enjoy and love besides my family. And started looking for the things I wanted to do and places I wanted to see. And one thing I really like is comedy shows and I love places were they play jazz music. And there be folks of all different ages and backgrounds that is how I started meeting people. Not trying to bore you just saying stay encouraged.

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Do you go alone?

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I like comedy shows too.  I used to go with my husband often.

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Never mind.  I guess I am just meant to be alone for another 30 years. I hate my life.

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Gotta say @CarolynS674392 ...Sounds like you just need to get out of your own head.

What was your best subject in elementary school...maybe a local school is looking for volunteers to help kids having a hard time.

Is there an animal shelter where you can volunteer?  Sometimes it's as simple as just talking to and petting an animal that appreciates a little company.

Try some local churches...I've volunteered at churches I do and don't attend...sometimes it helps to just be part of Something.

 

...of course, none of these is a substitute for seeking professional help if you decide that would be best.

 

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You're right, of course.  I take care of my elderly dog - I take very good care of him - lots of people tell me so.  I was in the local senior spelling bee because I like words. I met a few people there.  I've done volunteer work in the past at different times.  But I guess there's something in me that just wants to have fun, be a little wild.  It's a new thing for me.  And going to the fish fry with my parents was a little depressing.  But I'm glad we did because it really cheered up my mom and that's very important right now.  Thank you, Eric.

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Don't give up Carolyn, good things usually happen when you least expect them too. 

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I was having a bad day.  Also, I need to laugh more.  My husband always made me laugh.  Thanks EricFalk for the kind words.

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