is there a good life after loss?

[Snoopy1987]

I lost my husband August 1 of this year (2025). We were married 37 years almost 38 when he had a massive stroke and passed away about 42 hours later. It’s hard to understand how a person can be so healthy and full of life one day and gone the next with no sign, no warning.  It’s just unfathomable.  he just had his 64th birthday, and was laughing making everybody else giggle at his comment, next year I get to go file for Social Security. A week later he was gone. I don’t know what doing. I’m tired of putting on a brave face. I feel like I’m masquerading in somebody else’s body, wondering when I’m going to return to normal, if there is such a thing. This year has been tough, I’ve lost the love of my life, and three jobs which filled some voids where he is missing. I’m just wondering if there’s anybody else out there that’s like me who has some words of wisdom that they can share?

[SereneSeagull]

I’ve seen my father lose his childhood sweetheart.  It was very hard.  I know for him he had a bit of time where he didn’t want to socialize with anyone for a while.  Just did chores around the house and yardwork.  A neighbor stopped by his house when he was outside and said what helped her going through it was to be with others again.  He knew he would, but in his own time.  That pain, that deep pain is there, but being with his friends in his civic organization helped.  

Im thinking a lot today in particular of those I lost, but also know that others feel pain today as well, and it comforts me to know I’m not alone. Take care.

[Winter2025VA]

Dear @Snoopy1987 , I am so sorry for your loss dear friend!!!

I feel we will ALWAYS miss the luv ones we lost, but as we move FORWARD - there will be "less" sadness.

Individual Counseling was my "go to" and while she could NOT bring him back - she did help me to find some balance.

At nights, the hardest part of my journey - I ACCEPT the nights I CANNOT sleep & am GRATEFUL for when I do sleep.

Also my only child, although she lives in another state - has been there for me.

Then add my cat "Mister" - BOTH will NOT let me curl up into a ball & give up.

The ANGER of losing him was the hardest challenge. While I still have my moments of anger, I find I am NOT as angry as I use to.

Losing the luv of your life is totally UNFAIR & my heart goes out to you.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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@Snoopy1987 wrote:

I lost my husband August 1 of this year (2025). We were married 37 years almost 38 when he had a massive stroke and passed away about 42 hours later. It’s hard to understand how a person can be so healthy and full of life one day and gone the next with no sign, no warning.  It’s just unfathomable.  he just had his 64th birthday, and was laughing making everybody else giggle at his comment, next year I get to go file for Social Security. A week later he was gone. I don’t know what doing. I’m tired of putting on a brave face. I feel like I’m masquerading in somebody else’s body, wondering when I’m going to return to normal, if there is such a thing. This year has been tough, I’ve lost the love of my life, and three jobs which filled some voids where he is missing. I’m just wondering if there’s anybody else out there that’s like me who has some words of wisdom that they can share?

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