🤔 What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW?

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[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  As I AGE, I have come to "realize" the years of CHALLENGES have made me a DIFFERENT person.

IF we "ride" through them [tears,anger and so on], upon "arrival" at the END of all this - WE WILL BE FULL OF HOPE.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌

You got this my friends!!!

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[WebWiseWoman]

Nicole, you are so right; I've been fighting with AMZ to return a $200+ item and they state they no longer send pick-ups via UPS; I begged as differently abled and UPS stops by our apartment office daily; AMZ: NO even if I pay; would not provide return addy/return authorization number.

No alternatives, according to AMZ. I was so stressed over this for the last day and a half; now realize karma... this was mine; can't wait to see what AMZ's is... Got that Jeff and Andy?

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Geez Denese @WebWiseWoman , that is AWFUL!!!  😤

I am so over these GREEDY companies. Hey, time to have a conscience. I often wonder HOW do they "sleep" at night.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[WebWiseWoman]

It's okay; we know who wins; sad but true.

Thanks for the care!

denese

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  IF you are a FURBABY PARENT  🐈🐶, you know what I am talking about when I say the following.

Hug yours every chance you get as they NEED US AS MUCH AS WE NEED THEM.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

I'm glad you found this fur baby to connect with. It seems like a mutually beneficial relationship.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Sometimes the WEATHER can "affect" OUR MOODS & having a Plan B, C and so on "in place" for those NOT NICE weather days & nights is wisdom.  ‌👍‌

We can for example, go OUTSIDE and "dance" in the rain. Yes, being a kid again.  ‌😉‌

Or light a fire & sip hot chocolate while we read.

Do whatever "uplifts" you on those DREARY rainy or cold days.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Yes, I have always felt the emotional effects of weather, and they were magnified by grief. I incorporated indoor movement activities into my schedule on inclement weather days. Youtube videos have been an invaluable resource for me, and other activities found on the AARP website. AARP has a great line dance instructor, and you can get her videos on demand at aarp.org/wyondemand

Marcy

[GeraldineTucker]

I I lost a job, two college roommates and two young relatives to death and loss of a dear friendship all in a short period of time. It's been hard and painful. I walk in nature   to talk with God. The loneliness is overwhelming. I feel lost, numb and sad. I read alot, yoga and meet with friends. I tell myself this too shall pass.

[mc6844]

Geraldine I'm sorry for your losses. Keeping life simple helps a lot.  It doesn't erase the grief. This forum is a good place to leave the grief a little bit at a time. Each time you will feel somewhat better. And get on with your day the best you can. For those days that you can't, that's just the way it is. There are good and kind people here so please stop by often!

[MarcyW882921]

I'm very sorry to hear about your losses. It's good that you are reaching out for some support @GeraldineTucker. You have had a lot of loss in a short period of time! The numbness is our body's way of protecting us for a period of time. Then, all of the other things you described come pouring in. Despite the challenges, you are socializing and finding ways to take care of yourself. You are strong and will get through this in your own time.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  This NEVER use to be on my mind but has been of late.

Worrying about dying BEFORE I make it back to Melbourne, Florida where my only child lives.

WE BOTH had moved here to Virginia from Florida. She HATED Virginia and moved back. I fell in LUV with Virginia and stayed.

Now at age 67 this year 2025, I know it is time to make my way back to Florida.

Wish me luck.  💛

[mc6844]

Your worry is one many share. Someone said that if you aren't sick you're probably not dying. Of course I don't negate your worry. But I think there is enough time to do what we need to do. Since we can't know the answers to this life until we get to the afterlife anyway.  

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Well MC @mc6844 , my daughter will be here in Virginia September for my birthday. This will be her 2nd visit. Last was September 2019. She is NOT happy about me wanting us to meet with the Furneral Home while she is here. I told her she needs to KNOW what to do with her being in Florida. Anyway, I want to be cremated & my ashes spread in the Virginia mountains. So good hearing from you my friend.  💛

[mc6844]

Ohh, I'm sure you'll have a lovely visit with your daughter and she will honor your wishes. The Virginia mountains sounds like a wonderful place to rest one's ashes. We do get weary and long for rest.

[MarcyW882921]

Good luck! Keep your eyes on your goat and you will get there.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Hi Eileen @EileenP559346  , I HOPE you have been able to find some PEACE dear friend. Luv you SO MUCH and hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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[*** EILEEN wrote: There are so many challenges.  Practical challenges like having to call repair people.  And then the hardest challenge.  It has been 8+ months and I feel more in the throws of missing him than I did a few months ago.  And the challenge is that my friends and family pretty much don't want to hear it anymore.  They don't know how to comfort me anymore.  And I totally get it.  But they may have moved on but I haven't.  I still need to talk about him and my pain.  I am starting Grief Share again this Sunday.  I really hope that helps.  I need something to help.  I wake up in the morning and my first thought is of him and how much I miss him.  I go to bed and my last thought is also of missing him.  I know my story isn't unique and I feel for each and every one of you that is also going through this terrible grief. ***]

[mc6844]

Eileen I'm so sorry for your loss! Please keep stopping by this forum. Take care! ❤️ 

[Taishewy092876]

I must say how much i can relate. So many feelings and words that cannot be formed. I'm not sure if I'm living or just floating through life. 13 years... He is all i know.. Single for the rest of my life. No one will ever be him. All i want is him. Im ok with being single. I ofter wanting god to call me home, so that I can reunite with him. He has taught me how to love myself and love others the way god love me.  Never in a million years would I have thought I would have to live without out him. No one understands the daily fight, the battle , and the strength that I need just to get through the day. I don't show it, but I'm brokenhearted, mad, and angry. Not at so much with God, but why him? I wasnt ready. When he took, I died as well... I try to live my life the way he would expect me to. What would he expect of me. I play his music every day, just to smile..... He truly love me. He wove me the way God wants, not of an earthly man. I can say today, I know what       true love is.... I know what it feels like. I before he came into my life , I throught i I knew what  love was,  No i realize i didnt know... But with him i knew then and now. I decedicate my entire life to him. Let his ways shine through me. ... 

[mc6844]

Taishewy I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. Please keep sharing on this forum. It will help you to feel better. You will be amazed at what you can do, even in your grief. Take care. You are 💕 loved.

[mc6844]

Eileen, I hope you're feeling somewhat better. The pain of loss does pass with time. The missing can be an energy to attend to certain things for instance, health matters. Or maybe an option to stop and rest, and what's most important to you at this time. Stopping by the forum and sharing your grief will lighten the load for the day. Take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Hi Jen @tyMI95 , I HOPE you have been able to find some PEACE dear friend. Luv you SO MUCH and hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JEN wrote: My mother passed away on 1/20. I think my biggest challenge right now is the ability to look in the mirror.  I mean, I've always known I look like my mom, but now, good gravy, with her passing all I can see is her in the mirror staring back at me. I guess a positive spin would be I'll always be able to see her, but for now, not so much. Jen ***]

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[mc6844]

Jen, I know what you mean. I had a similar experience when a loved one passed. And before another loved one passed, I saw her walking beside me. I couldn't believe it. She died a few days after that. Life is fluid. The way it all happens in it's different stages is a mystery. Its best not to try and figure it out, I think. Take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Hi Carolyn @CarolynS674392 , I HOPE you have been able to find some PEACE dear friend. Luv you SO MUCH and hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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[*** CAROLYN wrote: I am grieving my husband and also trying to assist my mother by cheering her up.  She is depressed and cries to me a lot.  I guess that's my role.  She doesn't complain to my sisters.  Today was a good day.  My dad and mom and I went to see my niece's artwork in a district-wide art show.  Then we had lunch out.  We don't go out very much but we should.  She seemed happy today.  I'm very glad. ***]

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[mc6844]

Carolyn, it's so good of you to support your mother while going through your own grief. I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. Take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Hi @dl72363359  , I HOPE you have been able to find some PEACE dear friend. Luv you SO MUCH and hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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[*** @dl72363359 wrote: At the behest of my children I moved three months after my husband's death.  At the end of January I left Texas and  moved to Wisconsin. It's taken three more months  to recover from moving to a strange new place without my husband and a totally different climate 

And just as long to find a Church, as I'm a Christian.  All I want to do is nothing. Or cry. Or just sleep.  I lost my son the year before on July 4th to a massive heart attack. Loss and grief cannot be outrun. Are the things o am feeling  normal? ***]

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[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your losses. Adjusting to a new environment can't be easy. But the hard times will pass. The pain and awful sadness passes. Stopping by the forum can help you get through this time in your life. Take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Missing my daughter in Florida, I am in Virginia.  😭

Hang in there EVERYONE!!!  👍

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

I hope you get to see your daughter today Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 for Mother's Day even if it is only a video call!

Marcy