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[MarcyW882921]

Back at you Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy !

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

[1 comment] Jonibee @jonibee , those books sound awesome!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

I came across two paperback books that would be helpful in dealing with grief..One is called Zen Gardening by Veronica Ray (A down to faith philosophy) meditation along with starting anew in gardening whether it be small/large. The other one is "Healing After Loss" by Martha W. Hickman a daily meditation for working through grief..Todays messaage "I will read in the times I can be happy-which is what my loved one would want for me"also an excerpt which reads..."Whereas previously our moods seemed simply sad with occssional patches of light, now we may  find an unsetiling variety in our feelings, as happy times seem engrossing and satisfying and then we are plunged into sadness again. Perhaps we can learn to accept these mood swings, recognizing the ability of each, know light gives way to darkness and darkness to light. I believe these two would be helpful to those dealing with grief..I found them at the Salvation Army thrift store with in ones fiancial level...

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

3 comments (Tuesday 2/27/24)

  @CatherineS641676 📸  See Attachment = answers your question IF you still need an answer  📸

[CatherineS641676]

Thank you, my dear friend-I will give it a go, and again-please keep in touch. I care very much about you

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment [3/6/24]  ➡️*** @CatherineS641676 SEE CORRECTION BELOW**⬅️ (1) Go to the "Grief Forum". (2) Click on "WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)". (3) Look at top of window that opens to find "Topic Options". ➡️***Click on "Topic Options"***⬅️ (4) A drop down menu will show. Click on "Unsubscribe" - this will stop all AARP emails for this topic.  💙💙💙

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks, my friend-I'll give it a try in the morning when I am smarter♥️

[RonM32520]

So I have recently lost my older brother to cancer. He fought the hard battle with some victories but ultimately succumbing to the disease. It was hard to watch this process and I supported him in many ways. Now I find myself alone as the sole survivor of my immediate family. I was very close with my family and miss them all dearly. I find accepting the grief seems easier than accepting the loneliness of my sole survivorship. Anyone else have this revelation?

[MarcyW882921]

Ron @RonM32520 , I can't say that I've found accepting my grief easier than accepting loneliness of survivorship, but loneliness is definitely a common topic among survivors. I'm quite comfortable being alone, but have read several articles that indicate too much alone time is not healthy for our intellectual and emotional health. Even though social settings have not been an area of strength for me, I am truly trying to step out of my comfort zone and sign up for activities where I will be among other people.

Marcy

[mc6844]

It helps me to think of life as ever in motion. We are all moving forward every day. It's very hard to lose a sibling we were with from the beginning of life. There's a thin line  between life and death. So much we don't know. Stopping in at the forum can help to lighten your grief. I'm sorry for your loss.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Monday 2/19/24)

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921   💙💙💙

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

GriefWorks is based in the UK and offers a package for a fee. They do however have free monthly webinars, they send out tips for coping with grief via Email, and they have an online group where people post their thoughts. Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

GriefWorks is based in the UK and offers a package for a fee. They do however have free monthly webinars, they send out tips for coping with grief via Email, and they have an online group where people post their thoughts.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

‌👣‌‌👣‌‌👣‌  You will see your loved ones AGAIN!  ‌💙‌‌💙‌‌💙‌

“Only time and tears take away grief; that is what they are for.”

~Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

[MarcyW882921]

It's very rainy here today and not my kind of day. I did plant a couple of things outside yesterday so maybe it will be good for them.🤞🪻

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Tuesday 2/13/24)

Look at you = INSERTING a "link" = getting better at using the site  💃💃💃

Thanks for article - will READ after Walmart TODAY when I get there  🙄🙄🙄

Yes, "dragging" my feet/lol  😂🤣

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , this is a TOPIC my family NEVER "allowed" = emotions and sadness. I brought up my only child (a daughter) to feel COMFORTABLE with how she is feeling.

I stayed DEPRESSED and ashamed.

Nope, NO MORE!!!

YOU are a "blessing"  💙💙💙

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

In a discussion with a social worker, the topic of traumatic grief came up. I was horrified at the sound of the words. Coming from a family that had your "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy, the thought that someone would be so immobilized by grief was unheard of and unacceptable. 

Reading information from different sources helped me to learn about the subject and broaden my thought process. Here is one article that is pretty straightforward and my be helpful.

traumatic-grief

Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

In a discussion with a social worker, the topic of traumatic grief came up. I was horrified at the sound of the words. Coming from a family that had your "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy, the thought that someone would be so immobilized by grief was unheard of and unacceptable. 

Reading information from different sources helped me to learn about the subject and broaden my thought process. Here is one article that is pretty straightforward and my be helpful.

traumatic-grief

Marcy

[SueS788527]

I'm not sure I received a current posting about Beatlelover KT who stepped away from this site last year.  I think there were a number of encouraging words to KT and I hope is she doing ok.  While most folks posting comments are well-intentioned, there may be a few that have issues.  I am happy to say that I don't remember seeing any myself.  On the other hand, I have been very self-reflective over the last 2 years, so I may have missed a nuance or two.  In my view, unless someone is really out of line, I would give grace to anyone posting and understand that they are probably in pain and could be lashing out in what they perceive to be a safe zone.  I don't know and hope those individuals seek grief support to help them work through their issues.  This site is effective for open comments but does not take the place of professional grief support.  That is why I joined several grief groups, most of which were helpful in some way.  Sue

[CatherineS641676]

Same goes for me-I haven't visited this site in for quite some time-not sure why I was tagged on this. Thanks for letting me know I'm not special for some unknown reason.😁

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Nicole439658 , I saw a post from 9-15 in an Email but don't see it here. I'm glad that you got some good news from your Medicare prescription coverage. Perhaps things are starting to settle in with your new coverage. I had my fingers crossed that it would happen for you soon!

Marcy

[BeatleloverKT]

Two days ago I posted under the “How are you doing” thread, which has gotten buried under the other threads. It was to let everyone know that I wasn’t doing well and would be stepping away temporarily to focus on my mental health. It has been brought to my attention that it could upset some people and I was made to feel that I was not wanted on this site anymore. That person knows who she is. I have always thought I gave good advice and my presence helped people but apparently I was mistaken. I appreciate all the help I’ve received along the way on this forum. If I’m mistaken in these feelings, that person could answer my PM and see how I feel. But not the case so I will be stepping away permanently. There is no worse feeling in the world to feel that you and your contributions are not welcomed. God bless you all 😥

[MarcyW882921]

Beatle @BeatleloverKT ,

I appreciate that you let us know what is going on with you and I'm very sorry to see the rest of your post. I respect your self-assessment and effort to care for your needs by taking some time away. Just to let you know, I have always found you to be very caring and supportive. I wish you all the best and you will be missed.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  I am so sorry to hear this.  YOU have always been there for me.  I am confused by how your presence would "harm" us.  I have received nothing but kind words from you and I have NEVER seen anything negative or hurtful.  I am so confused about this.  YOU need to do what is best for you.  If it is stepping away temporarily or leaving the site permanently, then that is what you must do. YOU and your well being are what matters most.  No one should be attacking anyone on this site.  We are all so vulnerable and are doing our best attempting to express our emotions to those that we think really care.  At times we may be angry or appear to be complaining but we are all simply "processing" the pain and going through a  roller coaster of emotions.  I would hope those on this site know this and would forgive our flaws.  I will miss you and will keep you in my prayers.  ❤️  Beatlelover KT, you will be missed.

[SueS788527]

Hi, I am very sorry to hear about your experiences and feel the need to step away.  I have done so myself over the last 2 years.  I would keep my options open because you may feel differently or realize that person does not have the power over you to make life decisions.  My biggest challenge and there have been many has been how to process all the interactions I have had.  Some good, some temporary, some indefensible, and more.  It is hard to except when one is grieving.  I have learned that just because someone lost a loved one does not make them empathetic or caring person.  In fact, I have met many hostile and bitter widows.  That was a great blow to me at my most vulnerable time.  Live your life the way you want and remember you have already made a difference to us on this site.  Please reconsider about dropping out permanently.  We need and want you to be part of our lives.  Your friend, Sue

[Cadee2719]

Beatle you do what is best for Beatle.  YOU have been a loving, caring, very helpful friend to us all.  Sad that there are those in society filled with HATE.  How sad and lonely it must be for these people.  Glad that I have nothing to do with them.  We are here to help each other through one of the most difficult times in our lives and the majority of people on this site have done just that.  Sharing, Caring, Loving people.  We are all going through major changes in our lives, some very new and frightening for us BUT we walk through these challenges together.  As long as there are people like you in this world, I know there is hope.  Take care of yourself.  YOU have nothing to feel bad about.  YOU my dear are the one we love and will miss.  ❤️  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[MarcyW882921]

@BeatleloverKT There are times when we must focus our energy inward to take care of ourselves. You know best what you need right now so of course I support your decision. Your presence and contributions have been beneficial and will be welcomed once again when you are ready to send your energy outward.

Sending healing thoughts and comfort.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

Good Morning Nicole.  🖐  

[mc6844]

And how are you Nicole? 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy , I had to set up a temporary kitchen in my guest room during my renovation. That meant my Keurig was on a table next to my bed. That is the closest I could come to having a butler. Maybe it would work for you! 🤪☕️

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

Hi Marcy.  Are you close to the end of your renovation?  I am contemplating re-doing the bathroom in the master bedroom before I put the house on the market.  To be honest, I am really afraid to begin that adventure.  Any helpful hints?

[MarcyW882921]

I would say I'm about 75% done with my project. I think you are justified in being afraid to begin a renovation before selling and with other issues that you have going on. You never know what problems they will find when they rip something out. It's just like it is on those HGTV shows! In addition, when they are working, you lose your personal space and your house becomes a kind of obstacle course. Then there is the unknown of when the workers are going to show up. I'm only doing mine because I plan to stay here. If I was moving, I would leave it for the prospective buyer to do the way they want it.

I don't know if that was the kind of helpful you were looking for but it is what I can say from my experience.