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๐ค WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)
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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!
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Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
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HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS AND DAYS LIKE MOTHER'S AND FATHER'S DAYS - BIRTHDAYS - ANNIVERSARIES AND SO ON? ๐ค
Me, I have never been a Group Person and as soon as I turned 18, started to "skip" the gatherings. I luv the one-on-one interactions. As far as Father's Day, he was never the father my daughter deserved [drug and crime issues], so she never did the day. Every day is Mother's Day for me = she makes sure I am okay every day. She is the opposite of me and while she avoids family ๐, she has had Extended Family & Friends all her life. So she spends the holidays with them. ๐
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(4 comments) In my opinion, Living In The Moment helps to keep us SANE - HOPEFUL & PEACEFUL!!! What are YOUR THOUGHTS on this? Thanks, Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
Me - it is taking my all to NOT get angry and mourne the "possible" loss of a dear friend. One I didnot go looking for and who has RENEWED my HOPE of meeting HEALTHY HUMANS in my journey. I had told you guys about Dalinda, a Walmart Employee. Her cancer is back ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ But you would NEVER know. I pry stuff out of her when she says she is okay. Then it is like the water has been released and she hugs me and tells me WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Lol, my Weekly Term = hmmm, now tell me what is really going on AFTER her 1st response to my Weekly How Are You Doing Question of I am OK. I am FINALLY learning that life brings us WHAT WE NEED and forever long it lasts, we NEED TO ENJOY IT. ๐
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Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important.
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Thanks MC @mc6844 , Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** MC @mc6844 wrote:Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important. ***]
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Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,
You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.
Marcy
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Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,
You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.
Marcy ***]
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(6 comments) Some of us are already VERY ACTIVE in our NEW lives, while others NEED to get back into the groove. Hmmm, which are YOU? And IF you feel up to it, tell us what has been going on in YOUR LIFE!!! Thanks, Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
Me - lol, lazy and lazy!!! But finally feeling an "interest" to dig up my Old Hobbies. Now to actually do this. ๐๐๐
I do miss my walks in nature but as I AGE just cannot deal with the I OWN NATURE mentality of some youngsters. Gosh, I return MORE STRESSED than when I left. So I have to find someplace safe and not taken over by humans. Wish me luck!!! ๐
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I made it back on the site! Yeah I have made the move. Sold my house in California and have moved to my new home in Idaho. Was it hard.....you bet. Packing up a house I lived in for 46 years and moving to a new state at the age of 80 was not a simple task. It was all worth it. I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home, am able to go any where I want and not be afraid. I did not know a place such as this existed. I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear. It was not an easy task but I did it and I do not regret it. We each must do what is right for ourselves to live our lives as we choose. It took me a year and a half to complete this process but I DID IT!
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I am so proud of you Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I can't imagine how hard this moving process has been for you on top of your grief. You made the hard decisions, did the work, and it sounds like the benefits are now paying off for you. Enjoy your new home in a warm and safe community! You certainly deserve it my friend.
Marcy
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Thank You Marcy. Thanks to the support from you, Nicole and others here, I survived. My neighborhood is a smaller neighborhood within a larger one. Everyone knows everyone. They have block parties and everyone contributes and attends. They look out for each other and their kids. It is a mixture of young and old. The Dads are out there playing with their kids and the mothers sit on blankets on the front yard and watch. It reminds me of the small town in Pennsylvania where I grew up. Yet, Meridian is a very active city; shops, good restaurants, and a lot of activities. There are walking paths, bike paths and a lot of outdoor activities. The wineries are close by and always have some entertainment taking place. I am near Boise where there is even more to do. Today I had to go and take my driver's test, 40 questions, you can miss 6. ( I missed 1) Monday, I need to go to the sheriff's department to get my new license plate. My neighbors from California call often. One planted a small tree in her yard in memory of me! I told her "I just moved, I am not dead! ๐ All in all, I am happy. I am safe.
My friend at the cemetery said he would continue to place flowers on my husband and son's graves as long as I wanted. He emails me at least twice a month and has been a saint. Enough about me......your putting on a new roof?? You sound like you are one VERY BUSY woman and I am glad that you are staying involved
in life. I am also glad that Nicole kept her place in Virginia. She seems to be so happy and content there. How she continues to maintain this site boggles my mind, but she is the "glue" that holds us all together. Be well, continue to enjoy your life and be busy. The people I have met on this site are "special to me" and I
want only the best for all of you. โค๏ธ
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Lol Cadee @Cadee2719 , I maintain the group because I NEED YOU GUYS = my online support!!! ๐๐คฃ
Aha, busy lady but one who is SAFE finally!!! ๐๐๐
So, I want to KNOW once you settle in WHAT things you are doing.
Yes, like with Marcy @MarcyW882921 , you guys are MOVING FORWARD = pushing me to do the SAME - thank you for stopping in TODAY.
Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:Thank You Marcy. Thanks to the support from you, Nicole and others here, I survived. My neighborhood is a smaller neighborhood within a larger one. Everyone knows everyone. They have block parties and everyone contributes and attends. They look out for each other and their kids. It is a mixture of young and old. The Dads are out there playing with their kids and the mothers sit on blankets on the front yard and watch. It reminds me of the small town in Pennsylvania where I grew up. Yet, Meridian is a very active city; shops, good restaurants, and a lot of activities. There are walking paths, bike paths and a lot of outdoor activities. The wineries are close by and always have some entertainment taking place. I am near Boise where there is even more to do. Today I had to go and take my driver's test, 40 questions, you can miss 6. ( I missed 1) Monday, I need to go to the sheriff's department to get my new license plate. My neighbors from California call often. One planted a small tree in her yard in memory of me! I told her "I just moved, I am not dead! ๐ All in all, I am happy. I am safe.
My friend at the cemetery said he would continue to place flowers on my husband and son's graves as long as I wanted. He emails me at least twice a month and has been a saint. Enough about me......your putting on a new roof?? You sound like you are one VERY BUSY woman and I am glad that you are staying involved
in life. I am also glad that Nicole kept her place in Virginia. She seems to be so happy and content there. How she continues to maintain this site boggles my mind, but she is the "glue" that holds us all together. Be well, continue to enjoy your life and be busy. The people I have met on this site are "special to me" and I
want only the best for all of you. โค๏ธ ***]
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And stay tuned for NEWS about her new life Marcy @MarcyW882921 !!!
Cadee @Cadee2719 , I am SO GLAD you updated us!!!
Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:I am so proud of you Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I can't imagine how hard this moving process has been for you on top of your grief. You made the hard decisions, did the work, and it sounds like the benefits are now paying off for you. Enjoy your new home in a warm and safe community! You certainly deserve it my friend.
Marcy ***]
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YES YOU DID IT Ms. Idaho @Cadee2719 !!! ๐๐๐
and another set!!!
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Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:I made it back on the site! Yeah I have made the move. Sold my house in California and have moved to my new home in Idaho. Was it hard.....you bet. Packing up a house I lived in for 46 years and moving to a new state at the age of 80 was not a simple task. It was all worth it. I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home, am able to go any where I want and not be afraid. I did not know a place such as this existed. I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear. It was not an easy task but I did it and I do not regret it. We each must do what is right for ourselves to live our lives as we choose. It took me a year and a half to complete this process but I DID IT! ***]
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Yikes Marcy @MarcyW882921 , cutting it close to Hurricane Season in Florida!!! ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฑ
On the serious side, I do APPRECIATE your update!!! ๐๐๐
And YES, I am sure you are enjoying your peace/quiet, Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:The roof was finally started today. I think they have finished working for now and I am relishing the quiet!
Marcy ***]
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Did you know that a SELF-CARE ROUTINE helps us on OUR Healing Journeys? Tell us about YOUR ROUTINE!!! Thanks, Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
I treat myself to Glade Candles. ๐๐๐ When the candles will NO LONGER BURN, I use a sharp knife to scrape a "little" of the remaining candle out and INTO my "tiny" wax burner. I am in heaven... ๐
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(2 comments) ๐ฃ๐ฃ๐ฃ OUR JOURNEYS SO FAR!!!
WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.
[1] Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD. ๐๐๐
[2] Some of us are THINKING about things so as NOT to make any "hasty" changes that will ADD to our stress. ๐๐๐
*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion ***
Thanks,
Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
Me - Florida is on HOLD while my daughter who lives there figures out another job. She was in a Mass Surprise Same Day Layoff on 4/11/24. Lol, while I worry about her losing her home and car - I AM SO HAPPY to renew my lease for my Cute Studio Apartment in the hills here in Virginia. We will revisit my relocation AGAIN in the future!!! ๐๐๐
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Cadee @Cadee2719 , it is this AARP Site that they REFUSE to update!!! ๐๐๐
Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:I tried to reply to this yesterday and the message did not go through! I know I have not been on site for quite a while, but do not understand why I cannot get through. ***]
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(1 comment) WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO IS GRIEVING? ๐ค Thanks, Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
My Advice - not everyone is going to "understand" your journey, so find ways to connect with folks who do. Not everyone is going to make time for you. TREASURE THE ONES THAT DO AND THANK THEM!!! ๐
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I think it is important to take care of the necessities. You have to make the changes with your social security, getting credit in your name (if you did not have it), changing the names on Trusts, Wills, bank accounts, etc. This is often not as easy as you think. You need to take care of yourself, begin or continue your doctor's appointments, find time to rest, relax, and do the things that make you happy. Share with a support group your fears, needs and questions. Make NO MAJOR DECISIONS at this time. IGNORE criticisms and unsupportive people. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Everyone is different; each of us heal in our own way and time. Do not apologize for your sadness. It takes time, it takes strength; it takes fortitude to heal and you will discover that you have all of these virtues. Be kind to yourself.
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