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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

FYI: IF you see a VERY OLD discussion that YOU would like to ADD your "comment" to - please do!!!

They will have this symbol at the beginning of each OLD DISCUSSION.  ♻️

WE WELCOME all "input" at anytime...

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🤔  What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

EVERY day and night we may be faced with several challenges.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

WE are here for YOU!!!

Stop by when you feel up to it and share with us.

WE listen, may add our 2 cents, BUT NEVER JUDGE.

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗🤗🤗

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/What-CHALLENGE-s-Are-YOU-Facing-RIGHT-NOW/m-p/2475057#M1229

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

HOW ARE YOU STAYING HEALTHY?  THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

Me - lol, TRYING to leave ALL junk food alone. I have been making and keeping ALL medical appointments in spite of hating visiting the dentist. Really NICE people, I just hate going. I am still working on sleep and appetite issues. But as we ALWAYS say, 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

SOMETIMES WE FORGET TO THANK LIFE FOR BRINGING KIND AND CARING FOLKS INTO OUR LIVES. WELL GUESS WHAT? MORE WILL ENTER OUR LIVES WHEN WE DO!  🙃  TELL US ABOUT THE FOLKS WHO HAVE ENTERED YOUR LIFE AND MADE A DIFFERENCE. THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

(5/14/24) Me - I have always liked my own company after being an only child for 7 years before my 1st of 2 brothers arrived. We lived in the country. But two people did ENTER MY LIFE recently and REMINDED me that I am luvable and cared for. My NEW Property Manager Josh who is fixing my Cute Studio Apartment after years (since 2018) of NO REPAIRS. And Dalinda who you guys know about. In fact I saw her today!!!  💃💃💃

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

THE EXPERTS TELL US TO FIND WAYS TO DO THE THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE THAT WE DO NOT WANT TO DO. HMMM, WHAT WAYS ARE YOU FINDING AS YOU CONTINUE ON YOUR JOURNEY?  THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

(5/14/24) Me - my car has been the DIRTIEST one in the Parking Lot where I live. And to be honest, didnot care. Lol, I am sure it was the topic of this Month's Gossip Session. Anyway, AFTER returning from Walmart today and BEFORE I unpacked bags - I wiped down car. It was raining lightly, perfect for a Car Wash Session. Maybe I will do a Wax Session at some point. At least she is clean for now. 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO HELPS US ON THOSE DAYS WHEN THERE IS NONE. WELL, THAT IS MY OPINION! ANY THOUGHTS? THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

(5/12/24) Me - at age 66 this year 2024, now understand "delayed gratification" and how it works. I use to be the "instant gratification" type and then wondered why it was INSTANT!!! Remember my Friend Dalinda who is dealing with Cancer? She told me she luvs Camping. Lol, when I asked about snakes  😱😱😱,  her response - I don't care, I luv it. Wow, made me think of ways to live my life as she is. She will be taking vacation time the end of this month. About 3 weeks more. Meanwhile this age 50+ Walmart Employee I see "sometimes" when I Grocery Shop on Tuesdays - is ALWAYS working hard UNLOADING stuff, HELPING customers with a SMILE. I saw her last Tuesday  💃💃💃  and she gave me a "peek" under her wool cap - she is so EXCITED her hair is finally growing back. 👍👍👍

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

💡Just For TODAY - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

 ‌‌[1] What is YOUR "Just For Today" ...

‌‌‌‌[2] Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.

(A) Email/text/call/visit.

(B) Invite to do something fun.

(C) Babysit/help around their house.

(D) Or ask what is needed.

Grief & Loss TEAM  👍👍👍

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Just-For-TODAY/m-p/2474449#M1178 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

DO YOU HAVE A QUESTION AND/OR A TOPIC YOU WOULD LIKE US TO DISCUSS?

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Thanks,

Nicole  ‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

💃  Tell Us About YOUR GOOD days! And YES, we will have a FEW SOME weeks - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

Any HAPPY DANCES to share?

And support OTHERS with a comment when you can!!!

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Tell-Us-About-YOUR-GOOD-days-And-YES-we-will-have-a-FEW-SOM...

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

👋  Help and signs from loved one - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

Stop by to JOIN Carolyn's discussion when YOU have a few spare moments!

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Help-and-signs-from-loved-one/m-p/2478924#M1452

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

📚  Grief & Loss Books - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

READ any books that has helped YOU? Stop by and tell us about them.

And checkout the suggestions left by OTHERS!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Grief-amp-Loss-Books/m-p/2475048#M1224

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Did you know that a SELF-CARE ROUTINE helps us on OUR Healing Journeys? Tell us about YOUR ROUTINE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

I treat myself to Glade Candles. 💃💃💃  When the candles will NO LONGER BURN, I use a sharp knife to scrape a "little" of the remaining candle out and INTO my "tiny" wax burner. I am in heaven...  👍

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🙃  GRATITUDE while we heal - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR RIGHT NOW? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Gratitude brings MORE of the GOOD stuff our way!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💃💃💃

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/GRATITUDE-while-we-heal/m-p/2532387#M9115

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

♻️♻️  (1 comment) HOW ARE YOU MEETING NEW PEOPLE?  🤔

Me - Ironically I read this in my Google News. It is exactly what I am doing (reaching out to random strangers), subject to change of course. Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[1] Visit a park at the same time each day. Note the other people around. If comfortable, strike up a conversation with folks who appear approachable.

[2] If you enjoy an article, newsletter or book, let the author know.

[3] Say hello to someone you come across in your neighborhood, at the store or library. Ask them about their day.

https://www.signalsaz.com/articles/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-retirement/

[MarcyW882921]

Get on a mailing list at a religious institution that is active. These types of institutions have many opportunities for volunteering, learning, socializing, and becoming part of a community.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

♻️  (2 comments) HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS AND DAYS LIKE MOTHER'S AND FATHER'S DAYS - BIRTHDAYS - ANNIVERSARIES AND SO ON?  🤔

Me, I have never been a Group Person and as soon as I turned 18, started to "skip" the gatherings. I luv the one-on-one interactions. As far as Father's Day, he was never the father my daughter deserved [drug and crime issues], so she never did the day. Every day is Mother's Day for me = she makes sure I am okay every day. She is the opposite of me and while she avoids family  🙄,  she has had Extended Family & Friends all her life. So she spends the holidays with them.  👍

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

I wanted to stop by today. All on the forum are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and take it easy. One day goes into the next, and each day takes care of itself! 💓 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

GOOD to hear from you MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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I wanted to stop by today. All on the forum are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and take it easy. One day goes into the next, and each day takes care of itself! 💓 ***]

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♻️(4 comments) In my opinion, Living In The Moment helps to keep us SANE - HOPEFUL & PEACEFUL!!! What are YOUR THOUGHTS on this?  Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

Me - it is taking my all to NOT get angry and mourne the "possible" loss of a dear friend. One I didnot go looking for and who has RENEWED my HOPE of meeting HEALTHY HUMANS in my journey. I had told you guys about Dalinda, a Walmart Employee. Her cancer is back  😭😭😭  But you would NEVER know. I pry stuff out of her when she says she is okay. Then it is like the water has been released and she hugs me and tells me WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Lol, my Weekly Term = hmmm, now tell me what is really going on AFTER her 1st response to my Weekly How Are You Doing Question of I am OK. I am FINALLY learning that life brings us WHAT WE NEED and forever long it lasts, we NEED TO ENJOY IT. 👍

[mc6844]

Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Thanks MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important. ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

Marcy ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

♻️  (8 comments) Some of us are already VERY ACTIVE in our NEW lives, while others NEED to get back into the groove. Hmmm, which are YOU? And IF you feel up to it, tell us what has been going on in YOUR LIFE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

Me - lol, lazy and lazy!!! But finally feeling an "interest" to dig up my Old Hobbies. Now to actually do this.  🙄🙄🙄

I do miss my walks in nature but as I AGE just cannot deal with the I OWN NATURE mentality of some youngsters. Gosh, I return MORE STRESSED than when I left. So I have to find someplace safe and not taken over by humans. Wish me luck!!!  👍

[Cadee2719]

  I made it back on the site!  Yeah   I have made the move.  Sold my house in California and have moved to my new home in Idaho.  Was it hard.....you bet.  Packing up a house I lived in for 46 years and moving to a new state at the age of 80 was not a simple task.    It was all worth it.  I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home,  am able to go any where I want and not be afraid.  I did not know a place such as this existed. I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear. It   was not an easy task but I did it and I do not regret it.  We each must do what is right for ourselves to live our lives as we choose.  It took me a year and a half to complete this process but I DID IT!

[MarcyW882921]

I am so proud of you Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I can't imagine how hard this moving process has been for you on top of your grief. You made the hard decisions, did the work, and it sounds like the benefits are now paying off for you. Enjoy your new home in a warm and safe community! You certainly deserve it my friend.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 Thank You Marcy.  Thanks to the support from you, Nicole and others here, I survived.  My neighborhood is a smaller neighborhood within a larger one.  Everyone knows everyone.  They have block parties and everyone contributes and attends.  They look out for each other and their kids. It is a mixture of young and old. The Dads are out there playing with their kids and the mothers sit on blankets on the front yard and watch.  It reminds me of the small town in Pennsylvania where I grew up.  Yet, Meridian is a very active city; shops, good restaurants, and a lot of activities.  There are walking paths, bike paths and a lot of outdoor activities.   The wineries are close by and always have some entertainment taking place.  I am near Boise where there is even more to do.  Today I had to go and take my driver's test, 40 questions, you can miss 6.  ( I missed 1)   Monday, I need to go to the sheriff's department to get my new license plate.  My neighbors from California call often.  One planted a small tree in her yard in memory of me!  I told her "I just moved, I am not dead!  😂  All in all, I am happy.   I am safe.

 My friend at the cemetery said he would continue to place flowers on my husband and son's graves as long as I wanted.  He emails me at least twice a month and has been a saint.  Enough about me......your putting on a new roof??  You sound like you are one VERY BUSY woman and I am glad that you are staying involved

 in life.  I am also glad that Nicole kept her place in Virginia.  She seems to be so happy and content there.  How she continues to maintain this site boggles my mind, but she is the "glue" that holds us all together.  Be well, continue to enjoy your life and be busy.  The people I have met on this site are "special to me" and I

want only the best for all of you.  ❤️

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Lol Cadee @Cadee2719 , I maintain the group because I NEED YOU GUYS = my online support!!!  😂🤣

Aha, busy lady but one who is SAFE finally!!!  💃💃💃

So, I want to KNOW once you settle in WHAT things you are doing.

Yes, like with Marcy @MarcyW882921 , you guys are MOVING FORWARD = pushing me to do the SAME - thank you for stopping in TODAY.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[***  CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:

 Thank You Marcy.  Thanks to the support from you, Nicole and others here, I survived.  My neighborhood is a smaller neighborhood within a larger one.  Everyone knows everyone.  They have block parties and everyone contributes and attends.  They look out for each other and their kids. It is a mixture of young and old. The Dads are out there playing with their kids and the mothers sit on blankets on the front yard and watch.  It reminds me of the small town in Pennsylvania where I grew up.  Yet, Meridian is a very active city; shops, good restaurants, and a lot of activities.  There are walking paths, bike paths and a lot of outdoor activities.   The wineries are close by and always have some entertainment taking place.  I am near Boise where there is even more to do.  Today I had to go and take my driver's test, 40 questions, you can miss 6.  ( I missed 1)   Monday, I need to go to the sheriff's department to get my new license plate.  My neighbors from California call often.  One planted a small tree in her yard in memory of me!  I told her "I just moved, I am not dead!  😂  All in all, I am happy.   I am safe.

 My friend at the cemetery said he would continue to place flowers on my husband and son's graves as long as I wanted.  He emails me at least twice a month and has been a saint.  Enough about me......your putting on a new roof??  You sound like you are one VERY BUSY woman and I am glad that you are staying involved

 in life.  I am also glad that Nicole kept her place in Virginia.  She seems to be so happy and content there.  How she continues to maintain this site boggles my mind, but she is the "glue" that holds us all together.  Be well, continue to enjoy your life and be busy.  The people I have met on this site are "special to me" and I

want only the best for all of you.  ❤️  ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

And stay tuned for NEWS about her new life Marcy @MarcyW882921 !!!

Cadee @Cadee2719 , I am SO GLAD you updated us!!!

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[***  MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

I am so proud of you Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I can't imagine how hard this moving process has been for you on top of your grief. You made the hard decisions, did the work, and it sounds like the benefits are now paying off for you. Enjoy your new home in a warm and safe community! You certainly deserve it my friend.

Marcy ***]

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