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WE ARE SORRY for your loss ๐
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WE ARE SORRY for your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ ONE STEP may mean making sure YOU EAT today/tonight.
Sometimes OUR interest in food is gone along with the energy to face EACH day/night.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฅโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ It is OKAY to "hide" on those days/nights when YOU FEEL unable to deal with people.
With time YOU WILL be able to get out, spend time with family/friends.
Just let THEM KNOW and those who REALLY CARE will "respect" this much needed "time away" = they will still REACH OUT, but with NO pressure to see them (or talk to them).
I luv those THINKING ABOUT YOU texts from caring folks in my life. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โโ
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Myth:
Itโs important to โbe strongโ in the face of loss.
Fact:
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesnโt mean you are weak. You donโt need to โprotectโ your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
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Myth:
If you donโt cry, it means you arenโt sorry about the loss.
Fact:
Crying is a normal response to sadness, but itโs not the only one. Those who donโt cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it.
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Myth:
Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss.
Fact:
Moving on means youโve accepted your lossโbut thatโs not the same as forgetting. You can move on with your life and keep the memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you. In fact, as we move through life, these memories can become more and more integral to defining the people we are.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ PAT YOURSELF on your back EVERY time you get out of bed.
Why?
This is the 1st step to starting a DAY full of "possibilities" IF we are open to them.
Possible peace.
Possible hope.
And so on...
Grief Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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YOU MAY EXPERIENCE.
[1] Denial: Difficulty believing the loss, often feeling numb or shocked, a temporary buffer.
[2] Anger: Frustration, rage, and "why me?" feelings directed at others, God, or the situation.
[3] Bargaining: Making deals or promises (often with a higher power) to undo the loss or ease the pain.
[4] Depression: Overwhelming sadness, emptiness, and hopelessness as the reality sinks in.
[5] Acceptance: Coming to terms with the new reality, finding peace, and learning to live with the loss, not necessarily liking it.
EVERYONE'S JOURNEY WILL BE UNIQUE.
Grief Team โโโโ๐คโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Welcome EACH day/night with an "open" mind = READY to take a step or maybe not.
WE ALL have days/nights when all we want to do is "sit" & NOT DO ANYTHING. And that is fine my friend(s).
Take that day/night off & deal with TOMORROW when it gets here.
Grief Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ NOT Sleeping At Nights?
Try to "nap" during the day.
Why?
Even a FEW MINUTES of "shut eye" will help with YOUR sadness. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Did YOU take a step TODAY/TONIGHT?
A STEP will mean "different" things to each of us.
As long as WE KEEP STEPPING, that is all that counts.
And SIT as needed.
There is NO HURRY on our journey and as we are KIND to ourselves (forgive ourselves on those days we DONOT step), we will get stronger and more determined.
Cry as needed.
Get angry as needed.
And so on.
OUR EMOTIONS are a part of US and through them WE will someday be able to LOOK BACK and BE PROUD of how far we have come.
BE YOURSELF always.
Never compare yourself to others as everyone has to do this journey THEIR WAY.
YOU got this!!! โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ The EXPERTS tell us to WAIT before making Housing Decisions!!!
Why?
While WE ARE GRIEVING, sometimes we tend to make "decisions" based on OUR EMOTIONS.
We want the "memories" to NOT hurt!!!
Maybe "step away" from YOUR Housing Setup & stay with family/friends.
Use THIS TIME to deal with the stuff that CANNOT WAIT.
Then REVISIT the Housing Topic.
Some of us stayed put & made changes.
Some of us downsized as finances had changed.
Some of us relocated to be near to family.
DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU ALWAYS.
Grief Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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What to Remember!
[1] Grief is unique; not everyone experiences all symptoms.
[2] Symptoms can appear days, months, or years after the loss and can come and go.
[3] Physical symptoms can be a sign of stress hormones affecting the body.
[4] If symptoms feel overwhelming, persist, or lead to suicidal thoughts, seeking professional support is important.
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Whatโs the difference between grief and depression?
Many of the symptoms of grief overlap with those of depression. There is sadness, and often the loss of capacity for pleasure; insomnia; and loss of interest in eating or taking care of oneself. But symptoms of grief tend to lessen over time, although they may be temporarily reactivated on anniversaries or when other reminders of a loss arise. While negative thoughts such as โlife is unfairโ and โIโll never get over thisโ are part of the normal grieving process, it is important to prevent them from guiding your actions.
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โโ๐โโ SELF FORGIVENESS!!!
There are times on OUR JOURNEY that we may have "regrets" about things we "should" have done while our luv one was still with us.
Or "words" we NOW regret that was said to them.
Try to FORGIVE YOURSELF = your luv one has.
Grief Team โโโ๐คโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.
Why?
WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.
It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.
It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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When to get help!
Some people need additional support to overcome the aftermath of grief and loss. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness or a sign that you're losing control.
If you experience any of the following issues for more than five weeks, you should see a mental health professional:
[1] You feel numb or empty and don't know how to cope with your feelings.
[2] You don't have many friends or relatives that you can talk to
[3] You are self-medicating with alcohol, drugs, sex, or gambling.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ WELCOME!!!
While WE cannot bring back YOUR luv one, we do UNDERSTAND. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Why?
We too have lost luv ones and together we have "muddled" through the best we can.
Our Welcome Mat is ALWAYS there for YOU my friend.
Grief Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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The best way to deal with grief involves honoring your feelings, prioritizing self-care (sleep, nutrition, gentle movement), maintaining connections with supportive people, establishing simple routines, and being patient with your unique, cyclical healing process, while avoiding excessive alcohol or drugs. Don't rush or compare your grief; allow yourself to feel, distract when needed, and remember that feeling better and then worse again is normal progress.
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Guess what? โโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
WE made it through ANOTHER day/night!!!
And yes, maybe a little bruised but WE DID IT. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A Suggestion!!!
Explore YOUR area to find spots that may bring you COMFORT.
Some of us DREAD the old familiar hangouts we had with our luv ones.
Maybe one day WE will be able to visit them WITHOUT tears. But until then, EACH day maybe "act" like a TOURIST.
SO MANY possibilities out there.
SO MANY new friends to meet.
You got this!!! โโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โ
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Quotes about grief offer comfort and perspective, often focusing on how grief is the price of love, how it changes over time, and how love continues to exist beyond loss.
[1] "Grief is the price we pay for love." - Queen Elizabeth II.
[2] "To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die." - Thomas Campbell.
[3] "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." - Unknown.
[4] "Those we love don\'t go away, they walk beside us every day." - Unknown.
[5] "To have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us protection forever." - J.K. Rowling.
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