The Grief That Never Ends

[LeathaG633722]

My losses occurred many years ago, but I find myself still struggling, especially during this time of the year, which is supposed to be happy and cheerful. My favorite brother died suddenly in 1990; he would have been 68 years old on December 3rd. I lost my mother on December 12, 2004. Her death was sudden and unexpected, and she literally died in my arms. My only sister committed suicide on December 21, 2012. There is no doubt that  I have been traumatized by these losses. I need to know that I’m not alone with the tremendous sadness that threatens to engulf me.

[ah925886]

After listening to your story, it occurs to me that I too am still grieving the loss of my family members; my parents from 1999 and 2002 respectively; my niece, then 22 days later her brother; my own grandson, then a couple of months later another nephew. It has been a long journey for me - for our family - but I can't stop. Because if I do, I fear that I won't be able to cope. So, I just keep going. You have to do the same...no matter what.

[SereneSeagull]

@ah925886  hi, and sorry for your losses.  I absolutely agree with you.  Stepping out when ready and Going, is the same way that has helped me to manage losses over the years.  

[mc6844]

Lea, I'm so sorry for your losses. You can stop by here any hour of the day knowing you're not alone in this. What you read and share helps yourself and others. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

MC @mc6844 , thank you for stopping by to support OUR Leatha @LeathaG633722 !!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** MC 

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@mc6844 wrote:

Lea, I'm so sorry for your losses. You can stop by here any hour of the day knowing you're not alone in this. What you read and share helps yourself and others. 

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[mc6844]

Of course, and it's always a pleasure to stop by though I'm so sorry for everyone suffering loss. The positive aspect of this forum is the focus on grief and dealing with loss. A grieving person tends to shut down and then little by little reach for the light. It's a back and forth process. Each person's experience is a little different. And welcomed to be shared here. And each time the grief becomes a bit easier to carry and live with. Recognizing it's a part of life that most people can't avoid also makes it more bearable. Except certain anniversary dates and holidays are challenging in that the grief surfaces. We may find ourselves back at square one for a while. The positive aspect of grief is proof of life lived with love. 

[JamieL675348]

You are definitely not alone. I lost my grandma 12-30-1999 unexpected and she was so excited to see the year 2000. She was 79 yrs old.

My mom passed away from Cancer July 15th 2010. She was only 63yrs old. 
my grandma, my mom and myself were extremely close. The loss of both of them has affected my life so much. I think about them multiple times a day. I don’t think I have dealt with my grief. I try to block the sadness and pain I feel which I know isn’t healthy. I can’t help it though it just hurts to bad. I used to be scared to die but not anymore. I know they are waiting for me. I’m 51 yrs old so I hope I have many years ahead of me. I have two grown children and I’m happily married. So I have many blessings in my life which I am thankful for I just wish my mom and grandma were here to share in the joys of my life. I miss and love them so much! So much that it’s hard to think about because it hurts so badly. I can think of memories and look at pictures with a smile but if I think to deep about them not being here and the pain of missing them I go into a tail spin. .

Jamie

[mc6844]

Jamie, I'm so sorry for your losses. Please continue to share your grief here, and each time you'll feel a little better. Please take care!

[SereneSeagull]

Hi @JamieL675348 

  Losing your mother when you did, had to be hard.  And the closeness you felt with your grandmother as well as your mother sounds wonderful.  For myself, the sad moments of pain and suffering that loved ones felt before they’ve died, is a hard feeling to deal with at times.  When my mind goes to those thoughts it’s unbearable.  So for my own health and well-being, I quickly change to happy thoughts and good memories.  One of the main things that reverses my sad thoughts, is the absolute knowledge that my loved ones would not want me to be down, but to live my life to the fullest, with happiness, and enthusiasm to each new day or path.

Be good to yourself.  Take care.

[SereneSeagull]

You are definitely not alone.  There are a lot of people who don’t post here a lot, myself included, who understand what you are going through.  While it can sometimes seem unbearable, do know that others feel your pain as well. It amazes me how sometimes when one expresses a feeling, others feel wow, I feel that too.  Many times people don’t express it outloud, but wished they did.

 I belong to a wonderful fitness community.  I can’t tell you how many times a topic about a worry of a loved one’s health or death,brings a common bond among the rest of us.  

You are not alone.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 4/26/26]

Dear Jamie @JamieL675348 , WE are thinking about YOU.

How are you doing TODAY?

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌🤗‌‌ 

‌‌➡️‌‌[*** JAMIE @JamieL675348 wrote:
You are definitely not alone. I lost my grandma 12-30-1999 unexpected and she was so excited to see the year 2000. She was 79 yrs old.

My mom passed away from Cancer July 15th 2010. She was only 63yrs old. 
my grandma, my mom and myself were extremely close. The loss of both of them has affected my life so much. I think about them multiple times a day. I don’t think I have dealt with my grief. I try to block the sadness and pain I feel which I know isn’t healthy. I can’t help it though it just hurts to bad. I used to be scared to die but not anymore. I know they are waiting for me. I’m 51 yrs old so I hope I have many years ahead of me. I have two grown children and I’m happily married. So I have many blessings in my life which I am thankful for I just wish my mom and grandma were here to share in the joys of my life. I miss and love them so much! So much that it’s hard to think about because it hurts so badly. I can think of memories and look at pictures with a smile but if I think to deep about them not being here and the pain of missing them I go into a tail spin. .

Jamie

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 4/26/26]

Dear @ah925886 , WE are thinking about YOU.

How are you doing TODAY?

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌🤗‌‌ 

‌‌➡️‌‌[*** @ah925886 wrote:
After listening to your story, it occurs to me that I too am still grieving the loss of my family members; my parents from 1999 and 2002 respectively; my niece, then 22 days later her brother; my own grandson, then a couple of months later another nephew. It has been a long journey for me - for our family - but I can't stop. Because if I do, I fear that I won't be able to cope. So, I just keep going. You have to do the same...no matter what.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 4/26/26]

Dear Leatha @LeathaG633722 , WE are thinking about YOU.

How are you doing TODAY?

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌🤗‌‌