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Not my first time grieving
I was hoping that having been though this before, I would have an easier time of it this time, but apparently this looks just like the last time. I'm walking around in a fog.
So I just have to be kind to myself. Take plenty of walks (sunshine helps). Eat healthy (I lost 20 lbs while caretaking) Sleep if I can when I can.
And find support... here I am.
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Hi, I understand and SO GLAD they looked out for him. John went through ALOT with them. Just GLAD he was NOT homeless!!! YES, another issue that really UPSETS me. Homeless Veterans who DESERVE a SAFE place to sleep.
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
[*** DIANE wrote: You will not get off that easy. Of course I want to chat with you still. How will I ever find out if You are taking care of You? This is not a one way street here. And I’m sure I’ll still have my moments. Big step yesterday was I removed his phone from my plan. But I still have his computers running on my network.
by the way if I sounded a little sharp over the wonderful VA support we got, it was one thing Stephen always made sure to do. Tell everyone how much he appreciated them. I was just echoing his voice.
Have a happy day 😁 ***]
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We talked many times about how our experience with the VA in Florida did not match the stories we were hearing from other states. On on night that we had to go to the ER, I saw several homeless Veterans come into the ER and a social worker was there to help them find a place to go AND got transportation to take them there. I do not know why the rest of the country can’t learn from what our VA is doing for it’s veterans.
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Hi Diane!!!
Have you put any weight BACK ON? 🤔
What is HELPING you to sleep? 🤔
Luv that per your post BELOW, Sunshine helps - me too. 👍👍👍
I am holding my breath for when you get your furbaby!!! 💃🐕
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
[*** DIANE wrote: I was hoping that having been though this before, I would have an easier time of it this time, but apparently this looks just like the last time. I'm walking around in a fog.
So I just have to be kind to myself. Take plenty of walks (sunshine helps). Eat healthy (I lost 20 lbs while caretaking) Sleep if I can when I can.
And find support... here I am. ***]
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Dr. Diane aka Dr. Walker, looks like I may have Diabetes and Kidney Issues which my mom had (deceased). She also had High Blood Pressure like me. She was on diayslis before she died in her sleep back in 2018. I looked up stuff on Google 🙄🙄🙄. SO GLAD my MEDICARE doctor does NOT leave until 10/18 of this year.
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Hi Nicole @Winter2024
I wonder if your provider's team has reviewed these results
(or told you when they are planning to)....
& gotten back to you yet?
Anyway...Take care!
☮️ 🌩 🌦 ~Allen 🌈 ⛵ 🌞
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Not as yet Allen @Therapist4u and thanks for asking. I am thinking maybe Monday. That would be 3 business days after results were posted online. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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Hi Nicole @Winter2024
You’re welcome....
& hoping for the best outcome!
Anyway...
As always, ...Stay safe....&...Take care!
☮️ 🌩🌦~Allen 🌈 ⛵ 🌞
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How was your LUNCH with your Dog Park Friends? Hmmm, I THINK I may have found MY HAPPY PLACE. Petsmart!!! 💃💃💃
They just had an ADOOPTION EVENT and the cats stay there. I seem to remember from reading they ROTATE them out.
Lol, BUT HUMANS 🤔🤔🤔
Anyway, will see HOW I feel and WHAT life tells me to do. NOT tying myself down like I did with Angels of Assiss. Unfortunately they handle the adoptions and so on at Petsmart.
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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Good morning. I did get some good sleep last night. Today I will have lunch with my Dog Park friends. At some point I need to get some maintenance done on the car. Oil change and rotate the tires. I figure that by October I will be done with everything I have to do regarding Stephen’s death.
Yesterday left more than just sad painful memories for me to think on. I was so happy it was a beautiful process laying him to rest. I can’t describe how much at peace I am. I smile every time I remember details of yesterday. Healing thoughts for everyone reading this.
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💤 From 1 night owl to the other night owl, heading to eat my pizza, then soak. Lol, ONLY water AFTER midnight for my 8:15am ET Quest Diagnostics bloodwork. 😭😭😭
Crying for BOTH as I like to snack and that needle!!!
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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The hard part of fasting blood work is I can’t have my morning coffee. So regardless of when my appt is scheduled, I go to the testing site as soon as I wake up. That helps me have a urine sample for them as well. The needle poke does not bother me in the least because I poke myself plenty of times as a diabetic. It has been a long time since they gave me a painful poke. Most of the time I do not feel anything.
I hope to hear you also have a painless poke today.
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⛵ Dear Diane, you should NOW be on the boat (2 hour trip). YOU are in my thoughts and should be back home maybe by 10pm ET I hope. I won't say Goodnight as yet.
Be SAFE,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
[*** DIANE wrote: I have to be at the dock at 5:00 pm. It is a two hour ride out to the place where his ashes go then a two hour ride back. It will be dark by then. And I can not drive in the dark … hence UBER to the rescue. ***]
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The boat captain called me at 1:00 pm and asked if I could come early. Soooo I have already finished and am back home. I had everything ready when he called so all I had to do was call Uber. I got my ride in 2 minutes. The boat ride was only slightly choppy on the way out. I stood hanging on to the hand holds all boats have and watched as we made our way through Fort Lauderdale canals and out the inlet. Then on to the drop zone. Blue skies and 2 ft seas. Perfect weather. The Captain positioned the boat perfectly. I had no problem emptying Stephen’s ashes at the planned location. The wind was kind and none of the ash blew onto me. Then I marked the location with a large bouquet of red white and blue flowers ( in honor of his military service). Finally the captain took a course circling the flowers so that I could spend a last time with Stephen. Finally we came back to port. Sun fully out and seas calm. All was right with the world. In short it was perfect. Everything I wanted for him happened. The Uber ride home took me up A1A which let me continue to look out on the ocean. I did not ask for that, it just happened that way.
I am at peace. Stephen is at peace. All is right in the world.
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Diane, I am SO GLAD you went early. I was concerned about you being out there at night.
So what have you been doing - Nosey Nicole wants to know. 🙄🙄🙄
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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🤗🤗🤗 Dear friend, please be SAFE to and from your boat ride TODAY to send Stephen on his way. I AM ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU!!! Luv you, Nicole
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Everything is packed and ready to go.
Flowers - check
food and drinks - check
Stephen - check
snipers to open his bag - check
A small snap lid container for the Dog park sample - check
sweater in case they have the cabin on freeze - check
extra diapers in case my cystitis kicks in - check
cash for the deckhand tip - check
All Packed and ready to go.
I’ll get back in touch when I recover from this bit.
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🙄🙄🙄 It's the other chatterbox checking on you Dr. Diane aka Dr. Walker = was thinking of you dear friend.
Did you walk? 🤔
Dog park? 🤔
And that NAP you mentioned? 🤔
So IF I am NOT having one of my Senior Moments/lol 🤣😂 TOMORROW is the day to - how do you say it? - maybe, spread Stephen's ashes OR release???
Me, was RAINING but I did go to Kroger and guess what. My buddy David was back from his Stay Home Vacation.
Was CHALLENGED when I arrived with a LINE. 😭😭😭
Usually there is NONE.
The lady IN FRONT of me was TAKING FOREVER.
And I had a YOUNGSTER behind me BREATHING DOWN MY NECK!!! 😤😤😤
Really???
With COVID and whatever else is out there still KILLING folks over AGE 65.
That is WHY I have to be CRAWLING MY STUDIO APT walls to be out when it is not mandatory like medical appts.
Over having to ASK for personal space EVEN when there was NO pandemic. Gosh. 🙄🙄🙄
Boy did he have a NASTY attitude when I NICELY explained I am over age 65, COVID is still killing us and I DO NOT have family in Virginia to take care of me IF I get sick.
So the OTHER NICOLE surfaced as his a.s was still all up in mine.
Lol, he BACKED UP quick and David was smiling as he OLD like me.
Then went to BIG LOT and a total waste of my time. ZERO interest in anything there.
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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Let’s see if I can answer all your questions.
Yes I did walk.
@Winter2024 wrote:🙄🙄🙄 It's the other chatterbox checking on you Dr. Diane aka Dr. Walker = was thinking of you dear friend.
Did you walk? 🤔
Dog park? 🤔
And that NAP you mentioned? 🤔
So IF I am NOT having one of my Senior Moments/lol 🤣😂 TOMORROW is the day to - how do you say it? - maybe, spread Stephen's ashes OR release???
Me, was RAINING but I did go to Kroger and guess what. My buddy David was back from his Stay Home Vacation.
Was CHALLENGED when I arrived with a LINE. 😭😭😭
Usually there is NONE.
The lady IN FRONT of me was TAKING FOREVER.
And I had a YOUNGSTER behind me BREATHING DOWN MY NECK!!! 😤😤😤
Really???
With COVID and whatever else is out there still KILLING folks over AGE 65.
That is WHY I have to be CRAWLING MY STUDIO APT walls to be out when it is not mandatory like medical appts.
Over having to ASK for personal space EVEN when there was NO pandemic. Gosh. 🙄🙄🙄
Boy did he have a NASTY attitude when I NICELY explained I am over age 65, COVID is still killing us and I DO NOT have family in Virginia to take care of me IF I get sick.
So the OTHER NICOLE surfaced as his a.s was still all up in mine.
Lol, he BACKED UP quick and David was smiling as he OLD like me.
Then went to BIG LOT and a total waste of my time. ZERO interest in anything there.
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
I did not go to the dog park but I got an invitation to lunch with the group for Wednesday afternoon so I accepted that.
No nap. I spent hours on the phone with social security trying to get my $225 one time death benefit. Most of that time I was on hold.
I got another Doctor bill today so I need to call the VA again. SIGH
I still have One issue at the bank to settle. SIGH
But tomorrow I will get some flowers for Stephen and some cash for the deck hand’s tip. And I need to make myself presentable for our boat ride. Hope it does not rain.
So it is a busy day tomorrow.
I bet I sleep tonight. I’m done in.
Sorry about the problems trying to shop. Takes all the fun out of it. I use self checkout at my grocery store. But I do have to stand in line at the pharmacy. SIGH
I hope you have a better day tomorrow. HUGS
I
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I ALWAYS use Self Checkout when there is one. It is either that or go to jail or get trespassed from property for SLAPPING the cashier.
This was the KROGER CUSTOMER SERVICE desk. Apparently she was getting wired money???
Sorry about the Social Security and Medical bill. I am guessing Stephen was a Veteran???
They just DO NOT care these days and I am SO GRATEFUL when I run across a decent person.
Right NOW I am SO FULL of hate for the UPSTAIRS neighbors from h.ll and want to MOVE FORWARD where I am NOT hating. Lol, some of them I can AVOID but some I have to deal with.
Anyway, working on OPTIONS while I wait out my daughter's 4/11/24 layoff in Florida. Still fighting for her Unemployment as other engineers who got laid off are. She has a mortgage and car note. 😭😭😭
But she NEVER complains and SO STRONG. I am the WEAK one, worrying.
What TIME is your BOAT RIDE tomorrow? 🤔
Lol, I NOW give Mr. 30 minutes to RETURN to snack [like now] before I CLOSE my door.
He is is LOUNGING under Roz's Jeep and totally ignored me when I went to get his attention from my door.
NOT going OUTSIDE to run into the a.sholes from UPSTAIRS or Ms. Daycare aka b from next door.
SO GRATEFUL for Roz who is on the OTHER side of my Studio Apt. She has a Studio Apt. Really nice, feeds cat, has an indoor cat named Sweetie.
I am here ALWAYS my friend.
Luv you,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
[*** DIANE wrote: Let’s see if I can answer all your questions.Yes I did walk.
I did not go to the dog park but I got an invitation to lunch with the group for Wednesday afternoon so I accepted that.
No nap. I spent hours on the phone with social security trying to get my $225 one time death benefit. Most of that time I was on hold.I got another Doctor bill today so I need to call the VA again. SIGH
I still have One issue at the bank to settle. SIGH
But tomorrow I will get some flowers for Stephen and some cash for the deck hand’s tip. And I need to make myself presentable for our boat ride. Hope it does not rain.
So it is a busy day tomorrow.
I bet I sleep tonight. I’m done in.
Sorry about the problems trying to shop. Takes all the fun out of it. I use self checkout at my grocery store. But I do have to stand in line at the pharmacy. SIGH
I hope you have a better day tomorrow. HUGS ***]
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👋 Good Morning my friend!!!
HOPE you were able to sleep LAST NIGHT.
I just fed Mr. 🐈, my 6am ET wake up call or I would still be in bed and probably stay in it ALL DAY. Knowing he is OUTSIDE my door waiting, makes me get up as soon as my 2 alarms go off.
MONDAYS are my Kroger Day to cash in any WINNING Scratch-Off Lottery tickets. I also REINVEST. I only do the $1 and $2 ones and just for a FUN and a reason to LEAVE my Studio Apt. My buddy David at their Customer Service counter is on vacation. Fellow OLD person.
Any plans for TODAY? 🤔
Luv you my friend,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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