👍 Encouragement!

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Sometimes WE ALL need an encouraging word to remind us that WE WILL BE OKAY on those days/nights we are NOT FEELING OKAY!!!

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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How are YOU doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Sometimes WE ALL need an encouraging word to remind us that WE WILL BE OKAY on those days/nights we are NOT FEELING OKAY!!!

[1] "Grief & Loss" Book Suggestions. There is a LIST.

[2] Free AARP "Grief & Loss" Online Events EVERY MONTH for members and non-members. I post the dates and times.

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[3] If you are GRIEVING "right now" - stop by to CHAT whenever you "feel" up to it!!! I am ALWAYS here for you.

[4] DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE, NOT JUST ABOUT GRIEF!!!  🙃

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3 comments (Thursday 5/16/24)

Hi @OldMarriedMan , you have been SUCESSFUL with starting your own Chat  Thread in the AARP Introduce Yourself Forum.

▶️*** VIRTUAL PENPALS (this is your spot to chat, 3 people have been kind and responded to you here).

▶️*** LINK TO YOUR CHAT IS BELOW:

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Introduce-Yourself/Virtual-Pen-Pals/m-p/2556463#M11543

[1] Lee @LeeS4949  and @wilful   had RESPONDED to you. A new member also responded to you.

[2] Suggestion and NO PRESSURE to listen to me:

Why not POST a THANK YOU to them for responding to your post. Lee ALWAYS welcomes NEW folks, a very nice guy and open to PMs from folks on site. Wilful has told you he/she is INTERESTED and shared his/her info with you. Jumping all over the site and posting the same request, in my opinion is not the way to go. The NEW person is open to supporting you.

*** When OTHER people SEE you thanking these 3 people and chatting with them = MORE PEOPLE will stop by to CHAT with you!!! ***

Good luck,

Nicole  👵

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[*** @OldMarriedMan wrote:

Hello Nicole,

Thanks for your post. We can all use some words of encouragement from time to time. 🙂

Is this a chat somewhere else?

DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE

I want to start a virtual pen pals group and I'm looking for a forum to call home... ***]

[OldMarriedMan]

Hello Nicole, thanks for your advice. I had responded to @wilful via PM and had not heard back yet. I have some questions about the site. Like how did you get the tag line "Esteemed Social Butterfly"? I like it. 

Warm regards,

Milt

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(Friday 5/17/24) Hi @OldMarriedMan , if you look underneath your USERNAME for this site you will see YOUR TITLE of Regular Contributor. New People are Newbie. As you guys POST on this site, these titles will keep CHANGING. Personally, I could NOT careless but I guess it ENCOURAGES folks to post = promotions I guess.  🙄

Nicole  👵

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[*** MILT @OldMarriedMan wrote:

Hello Nicole, thanks for your advice. I had responded to @wilful via PM and had not heard back yet. I have some questions about the site. Like how did you get the tag line "Esteemed Social Butterfly"? I like it. 

Warm regards,

Milt ***]

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[OldMarriedMan]

Hello Nicole,

Thanks for your post. We can all use some words of encouragement from time to time. 🙂

Is this a chat somewhere else?

DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE

I want to start a virtual pen pals group and I'm looking for a forum to call home...

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📸  A .gif for YOU [5/15] need to fill

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@EricaS968839 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** ERICA @EricaS968839 wrote:

Thank you. My mom passed away. 10/31/22 was when she passed, unexpectedly. My dad is in the final stages of Dementia. He is in assisted living, amd has 24/7 hospice care. I have alot of support, but as the anniversary of my mom's passing approaches, my grief is getting worse. I'm trying to plan ahead for the day, which, is also Halloween. My mom loved Halloween, so, my thought was to try to put together candy for the kiddos. She also loved children. Any ideas for getting through that day would be greatly appreciated. ***]

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@RachelW425687 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** RACHEL @RachelW425687 wrote:

Don't be afraid to stop and pause when a memory  a moment in time when our love one was by our side.  Remember,and if you close your eyes for just a minute, they will feel like they are right there. I shed a tear, but I feel the strength and i can smile now it is almost a warmth of hug around me, for I am Alone now, and never thought that would be.  .And keep telling the stories,those important moments, over and over, as we need to. The right people in your life will always listen. Even if you cry each time it's ok,cause one day you will laugh at the silly moments in time that we were so fortunate to have. Blessed it Be. ***]

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@CarolD435501, I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights.
Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.
 
Take care,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@AlisaH435648 , I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights.
Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.
 
Take care,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@ShannonW14183 , ‌I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗‌

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[*** SHANNON @ShannonW14183 wrote:

Hi Ms. Nicole I just found this forum....1st I'd like to say thank you for having this for some of us have no one to talk to about our grief/loss  & challenges associated with it !! I'm struggling so very much right now for My mom passed Dec 08th & my birthday was the 6th! We knew she was sick but it was only a matter of week's from being told she's very sick to get family here ASAP if they want to say goodbye! MOM was in Texas & I Maryland I was also having my own medical problem when called & told to get there asap..this is 1 of my hardest challenges/struggles I was unable to get to my mom in Texas to hold her hand & tell her "your baby is here" (for I am -of 7!), to say how grateful I was to of been blessed by her being MY MOMMY!, & to have told her I LOVED HER for the last time..EVER!! The guilt is trying to consume me! I just want her to know how much I love her-ALWAYS, & I hope she can forgive me for not being able to be by her side for her final day's..I was able to talk to her on phone & tell her these things but she was to sick to reply though I think I heard her make a moanish noise in reply?! I'm very grateful other member's of the family was able to go! My other struggle is ..I don't mean to sound like a "bad person"..but I feel I lost my MOM & MY BIRTHDAY! It is no longer my special day all I can think of is it's 2 day's before losing the greatest woman in my life ! I had no idea that I'd also be mourning the loss of "my 1 day a year" that makes me "special" so to speak! I'm blown away by this bothering me I truly didn't even consider it or think it would!! Has anyone out there reading this dealing with this particular situation? How do you "handle" your birthday now? Or em I being over dramatic or over sedative due to loss of mom?! Any helpful advice on either struggle would be BEYOND APPRECIATED! Thank you again for this forum and for LISTENING! I'm truly humbled.. ***]

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@VenaE974710, I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights.

Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.

Take care,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@tttttt , I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights
Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.

Take care,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@DianeE3158, I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights.

Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.

Take care,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@JuliaB831263 , I was thinking of YOU today and hope you have been able to find some peace in your days and nights.
Your post touched my insides and hope you will stop by AGAIN when you feel up to chatting.
 
Take care,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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@ec73392645 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** ESTELLE @ec73392645 wrote:

So sorry for your loss.  I lost my life partner of 21 years 8/27 so I needed help reached out and I joined GriefShare.  If you go to their website griefshare.org and type in your zip code a list of groups will appear that are near where you live.  So far I have found it quite helpful and I also go for one on one counseling with a certified counselor.

Don't be afraid to reach out.  There is a great deal of support out there.  You just have to search for it.  Best of luck!

Estelle Coffino ***]

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👣1 Step At A Time!!!

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@VenaE974710  , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** VENA @VenaE974710 wrote:

I lost my wonderful husband last October. We were only married 6 years! We knew each for 15 years, but being married really made a difference in the way in how we cared for each other. We were long distance the first two years so really we just had 4 years together. Add a brain tumor diagnosis and we just had 2 "normal " years together.

It  is hard living alone; mostly not being able to share daily life with him anymore. We made our dreams come true and then whammo, they came  tumbling down. It breaks my heart to have lost him and for him to deteriorate over the 18 months.:{  ***]

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Vena, I'm sorry for your loss of your husband. They say your loved ones are with you always. There's a topic on the forum about signs from your loved ones. There's so much we don't know about life beyond. But it's not your time to go there yet. Or else you'd be there. Look for signs of familiarity and hope. While staying grounded in daily activities. The people on this forum are lovely and kind. They will help you through their own experiences. Take care!

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👣 1 Step At A Time!!!

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@tttttt , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** @tttttt wrote:

Good evening 

My husband Ron passed away 9/13/2023 and I need to get into a group that will help me through this. Or I may have a nervous break down. ***]

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your dear husband Ron. Please stop in at the forum when you can. It will give you insights and ideas. And help to lighten your grief.

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@CarolD435501 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** CAROL @CarolD435501 wrote:

It is so hard,,,,,lost my husband of 32 years April 15th 2023....some days I seem to go forward,,,and then I fall back more days then I gained.....How long do I have to feel this,,,,no one knows,,,,but talking the others may help.../. ***]

[mc6844]

Carol, so glad you stopped by. This forum and the good people here can offer encouragement and hope. Each time you stop by it helps to lighten your grief. Take it easy, and take care! I know it's not easy.

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@AlisaH435648 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** ALISA @AlisaH435648 wrote:

My sweet husband died after a difficult surgery November 6th. I don't know how to live in this big house alone, it's so quiet. The upkeep is alot. Every room has a memory and story and shared items. I feel so heavy, my arms and legs. So **bleep** sad. I worry about money, still waiting for an attorney to do thier part (filing with courts) so I can fulfil my duty set forth in his living will. I'm just damned frightened and so so sad. I suppose this isn't one challenge. It's a challenge to just be me right now...   ***]