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[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[mc6844]

That is good advice Nicole. The people who care will never complain about being reached. They genuinely love and care about us. And want to have that time with us too.

[KimberlyM389662]

I was just thinking about that exact thing about my husband. I was in labor for 3 days with both my kids. My daughter's birthday is tomorrow. I remember that her Dad stayed with me the entire time and he was a huge support for me. I also remember the joy on his face when she was born and how proud he was. I am trying to keep that as my best memory other than our wedding day. 

[mc6844]

That's very nice, Kimberly! What lovely memories. Take care!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Tuesday 11/28/23)

Hi Kim @KimberlyM389662 , yes, those SPECIAL MEMORIES pop up to REMIND AND ENCOURAGE us!!!! 💙💙💙

[KimberlyM389662]

She was our 1st born and the only girl. Her and her Dad had a special bond. They loved going to haunted places and houses but me, no way. To this day I still won't go to or in a haunted house. We did love scary movies and watched a lot. Most of my movie collection is horror. Love you my friend. 

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[KimberlyM389662]

Tomorrow is our daughter's 28th birthday. I was sitting here watching the Irwins (Crocodile Hunters family) and just crying through the entire episode because it was the episode where Bindi had her baby. It showed a lot of episodes where Steve became a Dad but, they were talking about how he would be such a great grandfather and how he is with them in spirit and it really hit me that my husband is not going to be here and that's what happened to me. Between me constantly falling, trying to raise my son and fighting social security I am exhausted and can't find the strength to get my other things that I need to get done in my house. I am just tired of trying and not getting it done. 

[mc6844]

The Irwins is a good show. Slowing down to watch a TV show is a good idea. Moments like that can help to lighten our mood and make burdens seem lighter. The losses can hit hard at times. It's good to remember that your husband may be there in spirit like the Irwin grandfather. There's so much we don't know about the other realms. Please take care!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

YOU GO GIRL!!!! 💃💃💃

CADEE @Cadee2719 SAID.

(1) Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.

(2) My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.

(3) I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole: "One Step at a Time".

[Therapist4u]

YA.....YOU GO GIRL!

Anyway... Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈🍂🍁🍂

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

CHECKUP TIME! 😎

Hey Marcy @MarcyW882921 , now that your kitchen renovations are FINISHED, what is NEXT on your list? 🤔

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT,

Roof replacement. You have to appease the insurance companies here or they will drop the hammer on you. My roof is pushing their limits and getting some grant money makes the time right to do it.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[Cadee2719]

Yesterday, 11/25 would have been the 62 year anniversary of my marriage.  Funny, in my mind I am still married to my husband and will remain so until the day I die.  I went to the graves and put beautiful flowers on both my husband and son's graves.  It was a sunny, beautiful day.  My son's home closes 11/30 and he and a friend will take a truck up to unload some things.  (Hopefully all the "stuff" he has in my house and garage.)  🤣  Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.  My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.  I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole:  "One Step at a Time".

[SueS788527]

Hi, Cadee, my heart goes out to you.  I agree that if you are married for a long time, like I am too, I will still feel my late husband's presence and miss him every day.  I am glad you had a sunny day to put down your flowers and remember your husband and son.  Two losses are extra hard.  Good luck on your cataract surgery.  Take care of yourself and as we all are experiencing take it slow.  My prayers are with you.  If you can, please try to take some time to be with the rest of your family during this holiday season.  Many churches offer Blue Christmas services on December 21, the longest night of the year, so I have found those services very comforting.  Just a thought.  Love, Sue 💕

[Cadee2719]

Thank you for your kind words.  

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT , 

I have designated reading and prayer time each evening. It helps me to relax and get my mind set on a positive track. I find this routine to be beneficial for me to sleep.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[mc6844]

When a family member/friend dies it affects more people than you think. Parents if they're still alive, same for siblings. Spouses, adult or younger kids, neighbors. The postman. The maintenance man, and on it goes. It's like a ripple in a pond. The one you lost had a part in all these people's lives. And it helps to remember the good ways your loved one touched lives, even if it was a brief moment or two. 

[SummerIsTooHOT]

3 comments (Saturday 11/25/23 6:34pm ET)

Just saw Mr. No Name 🐈🐱 (cat left behind when HIS humans moved, refuses to be an Inside Cat, luvs "belly rubs") on my way to dumpster and mailbox 💙💙💙

[Therapist4u]

Oh hi Nicole!

Cats B Cats!

LOL!!

 LOL!!

Anyway... Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈 🍂🍁🍂

[SummerIsTooHOT]

(1 comment) Lol Allen @Therapist4u , that is EXACTLY what he does!!! 😂🤣

[Therapist4u]

Hi again Nicole

Thanks....it took me a while to find the right pic... 😸LOL!!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[KimberlyM389662]

Everything is a challenge for me right now. I have fallen 7 times in 7 days. I fell twice on 2 days and I am pretty sure that I have done something else to my back. I have multiple bruises, ripped the skin off my left leg. It almost looks like a rug burn but I don't have carpet. Thanksgiving was 10 months since my husband died. I know that my adult daughter has her own life and a lot on her plate but, sometimes Mom's need help but with her it's either too busy or something else. She dropped off something to me yesterday and immediately said she couldn't stay because she had to clean up from Thanksgiving which she hosted for the families. I had to pick it up and then drag it to the other room where it's still sitting because I can't carry it upstairs. I couldn't even get up the stairs to use the bathroom. I had to use a bucket. I feel like my life is spiralling out of control and I don't know what to do to stop it. Here's our beautiful boy. 

[LaurieP163256]

Falling frequently, of course, is not great.  Really, you should be checked out by a health professional.  Falling can cause hidden injuries, like some whiplash from the force of the fall.

Mayo Clinic on Fall Prevention

https://www.mayoclinic.org/about-mayo-clinic/quality/quality-measures/falls-prevention

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from the University of Rochester Medical Center…

For Elderly, Even Short Falls can be Deadly

https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/news/story/for-elderly-even-short-falls-can-be-deadly

[KimberlyM389662]

I see a pain management doctor and have reported this many times to them. I don't want something to affect my hardware because I am not having another back surgery. I am calling the surgeon tomorrow morning if I don't end up in the emergency room. I have discs pressing on my nerve root on both sides of my lower back and I don't want them to herniate. My daughter is a teacher and my mom is having memory loss so, I have limited resources to help my handicap son. I don't know which way to get the help I need and I am not sure what is coming next. I feel totally helpless. I can't even stand up long enough to even shower. 

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[mc6844]

That sounds so painful Kimberly. Back pain is awful. I'm sorry you're going through so much. Maybe the people on this site can lend wisdom and hope.