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[Cadee2719]

 Thanks Marcy.  I think I really scared my son.  I laid down on the bed and fell into a deep sleep.  He and his two friends came back and were continuing to move boxes.  He said the alarm on my front door went off when they entered and I never moved.  He said all three of them were standing over me making sure I was breathing and alive.  I guess giving 22 vials of blood must have exhausted me.  Normally you come into the bedroom and just stand there and I am awake.  I felt bad about scaring them but I heard NOTHING.  I was out cold.  I am on my way to the store for bananas, orange juice and other things to restore my potassium.  That way I  will be prepared for my second blood withdrawal this Friday.  My son thinks I should wait weeks before my second withdrawal, but the doctor says the tests take a long time to decipher and I have an appointment with him in a few weeks.   My son gave me numbers to call to reach him along with a satellite phone number in case of emergency.  Never a dull moment.  The realtor sent a picture of his home and there is snow!  

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Wednesday 12/27/23)

Cadee @Cadee2719 , I wish I was "closer" to you so I could keep an eye on you.

Do you have anyone left behind who CARES with your son MOVING "before" you?  🤔

[Cadee2719]

  No, I am on my own once my son moves.  It is a little scary.  I have neighbors but that is it.  Hopefully I can get the surgery done (my son will be here to take me) and I will get what information I need from the Rheumatologist to take with me to Idaho then put my house on the market.  I can't really stay here alone.  I wish you were near too Nicole 😁 but you have enough to take care of.  Hopefully it will go fast and I will be in Idaho soon.  AARP should do an article on the elderly living in dangerous cities and how to survive.  Funny, it is never mentioned.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Tuesday 12/26/23)

Yes Cadee @Cadee2719 , get those "medical" stuff out of the way so you can "deal" with Idaho.

I am still "hanging" on to Virginia WHILE I get "use" to Florida AGAIN. Lol, I use the word USE, but will NEVER give up on my LUV FOR VIRGINIA.

2024 has POSSIBILTIES FOR US ALL and if we "grab" them, we will be PLEASANTLY surprised.  💃💃💃

Maybe START getting things IN ORDER while you wait. This way you have something to LOOK FORWARD to. 👍

Trust me, CHANGING states at our AGE has its "challenges"...  😱😱😱

But the AWESOME part is that you are MOVING to a state you WANT TO BE IN. Away from a state you hate. You go girl!!!  💃💃💃

[Cadee2719]

I agree with you Nicole.  Changing states is a challenge at our age.  The Los Angeles Times printed a huge article about all the policemen and firemen that have taken their retirement from California and moved to Eagle, Idaho.  The entire housing community consists of them.  They mentioned how much SAFER it was there and how friendly and kind the people are.  This just shows you how dangerous it is here when the police and firemen are leaving in droves!!  One of them was just elected Mayor of the town!!!!  Crazy isn't it?

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🎅🤶  1 comment (Monday 12/25/23)

 I am "available" on this site via the AARP Grief & Loss Forum AND/OR via the AARP PM (private message) IF anyone needs me.  💙💙💙

[sbrownaz]

    Merry Christmas, Nicole:    I am not grieving but I am going through the transition of retiring this year.  I plan to retire on October 1, 2024.   I will be 70 years old and I think that it is time for me to retire.   I am blessed with good health and plentiful resources.   Even in the best of circumstances, change can be challenging.  I will look forward to the advice of others as I make my transition.   Many blessings to all for happiness, optimal health and prosperity in 2024.   Sbrownaz

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Sunday 12/24/23)

Kim @KimberlyM389662  💙,  Brady 💙  Beasley  🐶, Munchkin  🐈  and Blu  🐈

[KimberlyM389662]

@SpringIsHereSoHappy . Merry Christmas. I have a lot going on and it's not good. I will private message you either tomorrow or Wednesday. I really need a sis to talk to. Love you much. Everyone says Hi. 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

💡  1 comment (Sunday 12/24/23)

A SUGGESTION: Reflect on your future. Try thinking about things you’d like to do in the coming year. From painting your bedroom or joining a choir to starting bereavement counselling or moving house: make a list of things that will make you feel better. You might change your mind, but at least you’ll emerge from Christmas with some ideas for what your future could look like now. 

*** Stop by IF you "feel" up to it and tell us about YOUR THOUGHTS about this suggestion  💙💙💙  ***

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[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. It's a hopeful topic. I like the idea of looking to the future. 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[mc6844]

Nicole, thank you for all your diligent care and concern, and ❤️ on the forum. I'm sure everyone wishes you well, happy moments during the season, and few or no struggles. Take care!

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy , I have read this book. I will be anxious to see how you like it.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

14 comments (Thursday 12/21/23)

🚚 🛣⏰   Cadee @Cadee2719 , not too much longer for IDAHO!!!   💃💃💃

[Cadee2719]

Hello to everyone.  Well Nicole it looks like there will be a delay in my moving.  Went to the Rheumotologist yesterday.  Not good news.  I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and a high level of inflammation in my body.  I go for blood test December 26th ( a lot more than the 11 vials they took the first time!).  He is putting me on cortisone shots and wanting to do a vein biopsy and   

 some other tests.  I will delay putting my home on the market until I get the results of all the tests and he said he would put all the information on a disk to be given to the doctor in Idaho.   My son and a friend are taking a truck filled with stuff up to his new home on December 27.  He will then have a moving van load up all his furniture and stuff and take it to Idaho Things didn't quite work out as I planned but it seems as if they never do.  Wishing you and all my friends HAPPY HOLIDAYS.  Mine will be quiet.  Thank You for checking on me.  I hope that Santa is good to you because YOU deserve it. ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719. At least now you know the name of your ailment and it isn't some obscure thing that they haven't heard of before! You know the drill...a step at a time. You have an appointment coming up, the testing will be done, and the results will give you a roadmap for treatment. Idaho is still on your horizon and you will have the disk to share with your new doctor. It will be a relief to know you don't have to start back at square one.

Flexibility seems to be a component we really need at this stage of life! The best to you this holiday season Cadee!❤️🤗

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 Thank You Marcy.  You ALWAYS put things in the right perspective.  I WILL get the eye surgery 1/9 and I WILL get all the tests required to find out what I need to do to eliminate the pain.  I agree, Flexibility is certainly a requirement at this stage of life. After dealing with all the pain that my husband dealt with, I have no cause to complain.  I wish you a holiday season of Peace and Contentment.  I can see you singing in the choir and surrounded by people that love and respect you.  ❤️

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

10 comments (Friday 12/22/23)

Cadee @Cadee2719 , that is what I thought it was!!! Girl, as we AGE, those "old folks" stuff TRY (note word try) to TAKE OVER.  😤

I am doing BOTH Florida and Virginia as like MC @mc6844 and Marcy @MarcyW882921 had said - transistioning over "things" to ANOTHER STATE TAKES TIME.  😎

So RELIEVED you now KNOW and can now MOVE FORWARD with FIXING your body.

YOU WILL BE WELL SOON!!!!

Lol, the DREADED "holidays"  😭, but like WE ALL know - our love ones are ALWAYS with us.

The FREE movie "The Secret" has made a HUGE difference in my life. I cannot wait for their DAILY DEVOTIONAL to arrive on December 29th.  💃💃💃

Thank you for stopping by...  💙💙💙

[Cadee2719]

 Thank You Nicole.  I agree, getting old is a "journey" but better than the alternative.

 I am glad that "The Secret" is helping you.  I will look for it to watch.  How much time are you spending in Virginia?   Will you spend Christmas with you daughter?  I am hoping that my grandson will come to visit.  I put flowers on my husband and son's graves yesterday.  The cemetery looked beautiful with all the flowers, and little christmas trees and other decorations on the graves.  The wind knocked down a lot of the poinsettia plants on the graves, so I spent a little time setting them all back up.  Nicole, Thank You for all that you do.  Wishing you Happy Holidays.  ❤️

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

8 comments (Sunday 12/24/23)

Hi Cadee @Cadee2719 , I travel back to Cave Spring, Virginia WHENEVER my daughter is "traveling" = girl is NEVER home it seems and as you already KNOW - I HATE Florida/lol 🤣😂

She is BACK from her Mexico Trip THIS WEEK - so I am back in Florida.  😭

Nope, she will spend Christmas with her Extended Family. As I AGE (yes, old 🙄), I AVOID the "drama" of the holidays. She on the other hand luvs to be in the "midst" of her Extended Family and/or Friends. I let her = she knows I am okay!  😎

Yes, the movie THE SECRET has ADDED so much to my "mental" state and EACH DAY, it gets BETTER...  💃💃💃

Marcy @MarcyW882921 said she READ their DAILY DEVOTIONAL - so I am looking forward to "chatting" with her when it arrives.

I AM SO PROUD of you and know you INSPIRE me with your CAN DO attitude.

Have a PEACEFUL Christmas  🎅💙🤶

[Therapist4u]

 Hi @SpringIsHereSoHappy

How’s it going so far in VA? If not for your daughter living there ....Would you rather live in Fl anyway?

Should I stay or should I go?? LOL!!

Should I stay or should I go?? LOL!!

 HAPPY HOLIDAYS to you, & Marcy @MarcyW882921 & Cadee @Cadee2719 & @mc6844 & all the other members that you interact with on a regular basis !

Take care!  ☃️🎋🎅☮️~Allen 🌈🎄🤶🌲🎁

[mc6844]

Thank you Allen. Happy season to you too!

[MarcyW882921]

Therapist @Therapist4u , Thank you and Happy Holidays to you too Allen!

🎄🎁🎅🌴🍾☮️

[Therapist4u]

Hi & HAPPY HOLIDAYS ....as well as a HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎈🎆🎇 🎉 🎊✨🎈 to you Marcy @MarcyW882921!

Take care!  ☃️🎋🎅☮️~Allen 🌈🎄🤶🌲 🎁

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

3 comments (Sunday 12/24/23)

GOOD to hear from you Allen @Therapist4u   💃💃💃

We both had moved to Virginia from Florida in 2015. She hated Virginia, moved back to Florida in 2018. I stayed - LUV the 4 seasons, the mountains. Since she is NEVER home, I "hang out" in Virginia when she travels. Living in BOTH states, with Virginia being my main state and Florida my "old age" state = setting things up, making sure all my medical, will and so on is good to go. At age 65, I should have another 20 years left if I follow my mother's footsteps.

🤶🎅  I hope Santa brings you some "neat" stuff....  💙💙💙

[Therapist4u]

OK...well...since you moved to Fl earlier this year...& now live there ....then where do you stay while in VA?

well....Santa aint bringing diddly...lol

how bout U?

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

1 comment (Sunday 12/24/23)

Hi Allen @Therapist4u !

I kept my CUTE Studio Apartment in Cave Springs, Virginia along with the OTHER Old Lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra). Studio is month-by-month.

In Florida I rent a CUTE cottage on a month-by-month agreement while I DECIDE where I want to live in Florida. Lol, got FAMILY FROM H.LL all over Florida - mine and my daughter's "deceased" father's. Got to find a location I can "hide".... 😂🤣  I knew NO-ONE in Virginia!!!  💃💃💃

I still "work" as a Consultant (solve business "issues" for them, online and in real life - Tiny Houses For Seniors) and still do my thing in Cave Spring, Virginia while I RESEARCH Florida. Florida has CHANGED since I left in 2015 - expensive, homeless/illegals taking over and other drama.  😱😱😱

At my age 65, LOTS of things to "set up" in case I drop dead right now. I DO NOT want my "only" child (precious daughter, my best friend) dealing with CHAOS!!!

She is also single and NO kids. So she luvs to travel, one of the main folks for NSBE, sorority, volunteers, friends and so on.

But IF I "need" her - she drops EVERYTHING for me.  💙💙💙

Our COMPROMISE, since she HATES Virginia (I luv it), I HATE Florida (she luvs it) = while I can, I am doing BOTH.

As I AGE, I will have to "stick" to FLORIDA (if she stays there, life is "unpredictable" as we know) when I am ready to give up DRIVING.

🎅🤶  Hmmm, I will find out TOMORROW if Santa had me on HIS NICE LIST.  🙄🙄🙄

[Therapist4u]

Kool...

& thanks 4 info update! Lucky to have month-by-month in both states!🙂

Quite a busy young lady.... with many decisions 🤔 to make!😊