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Ladies 70 and older - share your tips for dating sites

So many women and so few men - how to attract and find a guy I'd be interested in?  New to dating sites and wondering best way to navigate them.  Snowflake

 

 

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Please send mea picture and your number so we can talk

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Oh for goodness sakes.  Why don't the older men realize that we older women do NOT want to get married again!  We just like to have a partner to dance with and go to the movies with or to some social events.  Do not suffer from seriousness - we are not kids any longer or still in high school.  Most of us have been around the block several times.  AND - we don't need their  money either.  I have enough money to support me for the rest of my life.  We just like to still have fun!  I am 86 years old and I still love to dance - I belong to two country line dancing groups and two bowling teams.  I also run a self-help mental help program and have done this for the past 38 years.  As long as you have your health - you should keep active.  I also work out at the gym 3 days a week - eat healthy and take vitamins.  We should try to make our later years fun as long as we still have good health!

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My Dear William:

 

I've been on vacation so I am late in getting back to you.

 

Certainly William - you cannot be serious to think that I would line myself up with someone young enough to be  my grandchild.  I am laughing as I write this.  If you are not kidding - then I would like to say that I think you should get some professional counseling.  

 

So, thank you William for the offer but no thanks!  And I hope that you find someone one day that will make you happy.  🙂

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i am not quite 70 yet but loved the email printed on aarp. i've always preferred younger men for some reason. perhaps i can related better to a younger man as my mind is very young. i am very curious if you have thought about the limitations an older woman might have and how it could affect you. and you might be a young widower. well, i no longer do dating sites as it is a place for scammers. yet here i am.

best wishes and good luck in finding what you are looking for.

thea

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Re: Ladies 70 and older - share your tips for dating sites
‎02-29-2020 09:53 AM

 

Hi again Thea, 

 

I know I sent a long response to the question you asked about "sincere and genuine men." This response will be much shorter. I promise.

 

I am not yet 70 years of age, either, yet approaching fast. I try to keep it simple. Every age has limitations based on its own chronologics. A relationship with a younger man may be daunting. One must accept with the thrill of a young lover comes the potential of hardships, misunderstandings and the potential of a short lived engagement that can come because of the "gap" in ages. Anyone can hurt anyone. And anyone can get hurt by anyone. Age is a factor when what you are investing is more than a younger man may be willing or even able to invest at the time. The defining factor is choosing love over lust.

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Helpful suggestions and input. Thanks for posting.

Anne from Ga.

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RIGHT ON!!  I no longer want my time wasted on nursing and rehearsing old wounds!! Unfortunately men in their 70s may have just lost a spouse..and havent "ventured out" into the REAL WORLD of singleness or have not figured out that we have our own ideas and our own lifestyle and interests and while exchanging "old war stories" may be a "comfortable way" to ease into the new relationship.. but trying to stay in YOUR comfort zone so YOU dont have to learn new things.. think about it.. We don't just want to provide your entertainment and company.. for that you can get a dog.. we want someone who is ready to go and do and dance and laugh and bring new ideas to the fold..

I dont need a "dad".. i'm not looking for a "husband" to cook and clean for.. and please set up some healthy boundaries with your kids.. they may not give you the time of day until they get wind of a "new person" in your life.. then be aware they fear being cut out of your precious belongings that I don want in the first place..  thank you for my "vent"  been there done that.. and still a believer ready willing and able for a Mature relationship.. 

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Everything you said is so right on! Love your honesty and your spunk!

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OK, I am not single, I am not a woman.  I do, however, have some insight.  I once read an article about how to determine your (female) odds of getting married and the number one question they asked was: "How many new men do you meet a month?" I cannot tell you how many women I know who only meet the new pizza delivery guy. Is that who you want to have a relationship with?

 

I would also tell you there are aggressive women your age who move like lightning whenever an elegible bachelor appears. Even if that is caused by death. Point of story, don't play shy. Get in there like a roller derby star. 

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Good read! You have a sense of humor! My problem: I live in a small town in southern IL. and there are just not a lot of eligible men here. And if one shows up! Oh my goodness! Women will be all over him like bees to honey! like flies on garbage! lol

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Hi Susan,

That appears to be the case here in Ga. where I live...those men that are eligible, wow...women are after them constantly. It also seems to be the trend now for older women to date younger men. I have several friends that are going with men 4-5 yrs. younger and one friend married a fellow who is 9 yrs. younger...they have been married a long time, so it must work ok if you find the right one. 🙂

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Age is just a number. If you meet someone with common interest and matured, would you walk away from a person who might be your soulmate? In these day and age it's becoming more common to date younger men/women. Personally I'd date a woman up to 10 years difference but won't date some one younger than 5 years. 

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Smile. . . at my age I don't look for "Flash Gordons" or "Speedy Gonzalezes." Women who move fast may often have even quicker endings. 

 

Intelligent matured women who have had long term relationships are not just looking for a male counterpart. We look for "men" who also realize that any thing gained too quickly is often lost just as soon.

 

I rather have a man with a slow hand and an easy touch about how he lives and embraces life after had already experienced for himself the pitfalls of the fast lane.

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Hello Snowflake:

 

I too am new to this portion of AARP. I'm 65 and still seek to have a serious relationship. I'm finishing up college in May so I can concentrate on finding a parttime job and having a companion. Been single for 17 years now, and while I have finishing class on my agenda now....it gets lonely at times. I don't have a clue as to how to meet someone nice here. It's so scary in a way. So I hope we get lucky.

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If you discover how to met people on here let me know, I remain dazed at how this site works! Sharon

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Keep active and positive. Do good things. Organize a block party or a party for a new neighbor or for the dogs in the neighborhood. 

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