🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Spring2025]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[jonibee]

How true as I know this from true experiences on this site helping to weather the storm and bring a ray of sunshine..Thank You to All!

[MkK700720]

Oh, I'm sorry Nicole. Days like that are not easy. 

[Spring2025]

🦃  What are YOU GRATEFUL for today in the midst of YOUR GRIEF?   🤗🤗🤗

Me, that Mister (a stray cat) came into my life JUST IN TIME FOR TODAY. My boy!!!

📸  Attachment. Lol, having his too early Thanksgiving Dinner. RAINY day in Virginia. 😞

[MkK700720]

I'm grateful that those who love and care about me understand how I'm feeling these days. I can only do so much every day before I get

tired.

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

I am grateful that I woke up this morning, the sun is shining, I have plenty of food, a kitchen to cook in, family, and friends. I am blessed to be able to share these things with others.

Marcy

[Spring2025]

🏡  Group Discussion: 2025 will be here SOON!!! During 2024, WE have discussed CHANGES we made in OUR HOMES. Any "last" minute updates?

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

I had my tile floors restored last week and I am having the ceiling fan in my patio replaced on Monday. I went back and forth on the floors, but I am happy with my decision to go forward.

Marcy

[Spring2025]

🐈  I have RELOCATED Mister to another side of my Studio Apartment.

Lol, SMALLER accomodations but hey, I have NOT put him OUT.  🤣😂

This way I have RECLAIMED my space.

From May this year 2024 when I "inherited" him I have been CLIMBING over him while he eats/waters.

Stepped on his TAIL a few times and a LEG once. Needless to say he DEMANDED I LET HIM OUTSIDE IMMEDATELY while telling me off with tail swishing.

And NOT until I "begged" him to come back INSIDE, would he. Just GLARED at me.

My boy!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

That’s how our little friends are!  Totally in control of the food!  Sadie has her spot in the kitchen and will bang her dish with her paw if she thinks it’s time to eat before I think it’s time!  Usually she wins!!  I’m a total push over!  

[Spring2025]

🏥  NOSEY NICOLE wants to know - How was your Ultrasound YESTERDAY Cadee @Cadee2719 ?  🤗🤗🤗

☃️  Did it snow?

[Cadee2719]

  Happy Thanksgiving Nicole.  They took ultrasounds on both wrists and I should get the results in five days.  Funny how they are able to determine rheumatoid arthritis via your wrists.  NO IT DID NOT SNOW!!!!⛄❄️  They keep threatening us with snow and not one snowflake.  Guess I have to wait until Christmas.  My son will be here for dinner.  They put him on a stronger antibiotic and it seemed to help.  I even baked pumpkin pies for the first time!!!!  Glad that you are enjoying "your" cat.  Isn't it nice being OWNED by a cat.  🤣  Take care.

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

Congratulations on baking your first pumpkin pies! Mine is baked and ready to eat as well. Enjoy Thanksgiving with your son!

Marcy

[Spring2025]

🥧  Hmmm, Marcy @MarcyW882921 and Cadee @Cadee2719 , where is MY SLICE?/lol

Enjoy - I am SMELLING BOTH pies all the way here in Virginia from Florida and Idaho.  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

Sweet potato pie is very good too. I'm glad Cadee's son is feeling better. I haven't been able to get on the forum. But wanted to wish you all a peaceful day. Take care!

[Spring2025]

Don't think I have lost it, but I believe even in death, people are still married.

Now it gets sticky when folks decide to get married a 2nd time.  🤔

Just my 1/2 cent.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I agree.  I still wear my wedding ring and considered myself married.  NO PLANS on marrying again.  😁

[Spring2025]

GROUP DISCUSSION: Are you making MEMORIES?  🤔🤔🤔

As I sit here, suppose to be getting dressed to go to the DREADED Walmart - it suddenly occurred to me that 4 YEARS have passed since RETIRING.

Yes, EARLY retirement and thanks to COVID my "planned" return to "then" AFFORDABLE FLORIDA got cancelled.

Okay, I got that!!! Survived and so far have NOT caught COVID.  🙃🙃🙃

Then APRIL 11, 2024 rolls around and about 10am ET my only child, a daughter in FLORIDA, texts me that her and HUNDREDS just got LAID OFF.

No warning, just pack up, turn your equipment in (she was a Hybrid Engineer for Harris L3). Same company I worked for while pregnant with her. Lasted 9 years before my 2nd layoff left nowhere to transfer like lst one. Back then, you were GIVEN TIME to transfer.

TODAY - her severance pay and unemployment have RUN OUT.

So now while she does SEASONAL GIGS while Job Hunting for another Engineering job in FLORIDA (refuses to move back to Virginia where I am), her SAVINGS are dwindling. She has a mortgage and car payment. Mortgage Company has had her mortgaged PAUSED.

So either I BEGIN to figure out how I can RETURN to spending TIME in real life with her or risk the chance of dying before that happens. Yes, the tomorrow is not promised to us.

Yes, taking OUR LEMONS (her job loss, COVID) & making lemonade (memories).  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  They keep telling us the economy is GREAT, there are loads of jobs available.   I pray each night that your daughter will find a job that she will love.  I am glad that you stay in touch with her and support her as you do.  

[Spring2025]

🦃  NOSEY NICOLE wants to know - Marcy @MarcyW882921 , have you started on your menu for Thursday?

Has your guest count increased from 1?

YES, I need to move "closer" to you and the OTHER GOURMET COOK Cadee @Cadee2719 !!! Lol, I HATE to cook.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I would love to have you and Marcy for Thanksgiving dinner!  I love to cook.

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @Spring2025 , the menu is planned, shopping is done, and only 1 guest. I will however be taking food to a couple of neighbors who are unable to get out.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  Happy Thanksgiving Marcy.  

[Spring2025]

☃️  Hey Cadee @Cadee2719 , did the SNOW arrive? If YES, how was your 1st Snow Experience?  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Not yet.  It is suppose to rain in a few hours and they say it will turn into snow.  Hope we are home by then.    Yesterday would have been the 63 wedding anniversary for me and my husband.  

[Spring2025]

IF I "remember" correctly (NO Senior Moment  🙄),  BOTH Jonibee @jonibee & Cadee @Cadee2719 have MEDICAL appointments TOMORROW.

Please UPDATE us after these appointments when you can/feel up to it.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Hi Nicole.  My son is going to drive me.  I will wear a mask.   I am STILL trying to get my medication.  Urgent Care would not fill it for me.  I called the new doctor I will see in December and they forwarded a prescription for one month.  Don't know why they refused the first time I asked?  They called it into Walgreens and they said it would cost me $145.00!! for one months supply.  Called my insurance company (I spend all my time on the phone) and after about 1/2 hr. said they would cancel the pharmacy order and send me one months supply for $48.00.  That is what I am waiting on now.  This appointment consists of taking ultrasounds on my wrists to confirm that I have rheumatoid arthritis.  I also asked my doctor in CA to send my bloodwork.  This is something he DID NOT do even though he took 44 vials of blood!  I appreciate the fact that my new doctor is verifying the condition before we talk about what I would need to do to deal with the problem.  I DO NOT think all this pain in my legs (which is getting worse) is connected to rheumatoid arthritis and I plan on getting answers from the doctor I will see December 17th.  I truly understand what Jonibee is going through and the frustration of getting the diagnosis.  I know I am old and my body is falling apart but it has been so hard dealing with the medical field here and it is wearing me out.   

[MarcyW882921]

@jonibee and @Cadee2719 

Thinking of both of you. Here's wishing that your medical appointments today are productive in meeting your needs.

Marcy

[jonibee]

I really didn't find out too much from todays appt which ran ove 45 min late ..A generalization that I probably have Arthritis and that an ultra sound will be ordered for abdominal problem..plus I am waiting for a gastroeintestinal appt to be set up..In the meantime take tylenol for any pain..I don't have pneumonia, blood clot, heart problems so that's the good news ..Otherwise I'm still up in the air for a diagnosis as to what the pain is from...I am trying to be possitve in my thinking and go along with the flow...Happy Thanksgiving to All...

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You Marcy    My son is driving me to my appointment.  It is raining and they say it will turn into snow!  So glad that I don't have to drive.

[Spring2025]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , it has been OVER 1 WEEK since your "last" post and NO response to my PM.

I hope you are okay my friend.

I am very concerned.  🤗🤗🤗