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🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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Yes she is back from Chicago Cadee @Cadee2719 and the alternator had drained my NEW battery. So NEW alternator and they RECHARGED my battery. Thanks for asking.

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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NOSEY NICOLE  🙄🙄🙄  wants to know how this appointment went. I HOPE it went well!!!

 

Cadee @Cadee2719 .

 

[1] You will be seeing the rheumatologist November 6. Please let me know what happens.

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  Went smoothly.  He has ordered additional tests.  I am now convinced that the pain in my legs is from the sciatic nerve in my lower back.  Not sure I want to have surgery to repair a disc at this time.  I really need to stop thinking I am the "man of the house" and continue to lift heavy items and do more than an old lady should do!  😂  Thank You for checking on me.  What happened with your car?  Is your daughter back from Chicago?   Today I am making pizzelles  an Italian cookie that you make on a griddle, two at a time.  My grandson loves them so I plan to ship him a box full.  Thank You for all the "winter preparations".  I will do as you say.  I am excited to see snow, yet fearful.  It will be another "lesson" for me to learn and accomplish.  I have just put protective covers on my outdoor faucets to prevent them from freezing and had my irrigation system flushed out.  (See I am learning 😁)  I will begin the baking for Christmas and I am hoping that my brother will come and spend Christmas with me this year.  He is slowly recovering and has many doctor visits to attend.  If he plans to get the final repairs on his damaged eye, it will require him to come here to do it.   My neighbors appreciate all the bake goods I am giving them.  I think the husband loves it more than even the kids!!  Wishing all my friends on this site Peace & Love and thank them for always being there for me.  ❤️

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Any UPDATES?  🤔🤔🤔

 

@MarcyW882921 @mc6844 @Cadee2719 @jonibee @JulieT507376 

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I attended the event today

 finding meaning in loss. I found out some information about grief I wasn't aware. One was looking for the familiar no longer there. Acceptance is what we get from that. I think acceptance is a back and forth type of thing, not easy to attain.           

 

Also, It becomes necessary to recognize how grief impacts our lives. That out own journeys are important too. And not to worry how others perceive us, if something doesn't have to be done today or tomorrow, that's fine.

 

I think people will definitely hear something that will help in an area they feel stuck. For instance, the moderator said he was certain he saw his deceased wife in the grocery store. He kept looking for her there. I kept buying groceries and cooking for two or more people for a year and a half. Wasn't good for my widow's budget either lol. Doing better with that now thank goodness.                       

 

Attending these events is a way to move forward. No worries about transportation and no cost. Most grief events are not.


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Any UPDATES?  🤔🤔🤔

 

@MarcyW882921 @mc6844 @Cadee2719 @jonibee @JulieT507376 


 

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NOVEMBER 6, 2024.

 

Dear Susan @SusanR479241 , TODAY is another November 6th for you. You are in my thoughts TODAY!!!  🤗🤗🤗

 


[*** SUSAN wrote: Hi all.  I just found this group today.  My husband of 60 years passed away Nov.6 2022.  I can't seem to integrate my new life with the old one.  When he died it was an earthquake, the earth split into two halves and I am unable to seam them together.  I have a foot on one side of the split and the other foot on the opposite split.  It is splitting me apart.  A volcano exploded and caused the earthquake and the volcano is still erupting inside of me.  I have aftershocks frequently; they are very painful, and I become depressed for days or weeks.  

    I have no one else to tell this to so I appreciate being able to put it out there in print. ***]


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I'm so sorry for your loss Susan. Certainly difficult after such a long time with your loved one. The people on this forum are kind and supportive. It's a place where you can express your grief a little bit at a time, and leave it here. A day at a time, a moment at a time.Take care!

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MC @mc6844 , you are ALWAYS kind & supportive to EVERYONE here!!!  🤗🤗🤗

 


[*** MC wrote: I'm so sorry for your loss Susan. Certainly difficult after such a long time with your loved one. The people on this forum are kind and supportive. It's a place where you can express your grief a little bit at a time, and leave it here. A day at a time, a moment at a time.Take care!  ***]
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Thank you Nicole. Grief has no timetable. We all experience that. And thank you for all your support to those who find the forum. You keep the forum cohesive. AARP is very lucky to have you here. We all are! 

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🙏  Please keep our Lisa @LisaJP6763 in your thoughts for a "speedy" recovery from her Back Surgery!!!

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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Lisa, wishing you a good recovery for your back. Take care!

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Hello and good wishes to all. I'm so sorry for your losses, new people and ones who have been here. Grief doesn't have a timetable. And bírthdays, events etc bring it back full force. At times more intense than when it happened. People tell you to do social things, do something new etc. All good things but doesn't eliminate grief. Ive found caring souls on this forum who understands grievers are where they are. And so it goes. We keep plugging along.  I hope you are all well as possible. Take care and so nice to see you! Hi Nicole and Marcy, Cadee, Jonibee, Therapy, Suzanne and all!

 

 

 

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🎂  OUR BIRTHDAY CLUB!!!

 

Anyone else want to be ADDED to the list?

 

[1] Cadee @Cadee2719 - November 11.

 

[2] MC @mc6844  - November 24.

 

[3] Lisa @LisaJP6763 and [4] Jonibee @jonibee - June 7.

 

[5] Nicole (me  🙄)  - September 26. And I am still feeling VERY SPECIAL from all the Birthday Posts you guys did for me THIS YEAR 2024.  🤗🤗🤗

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Happy Birthday Nicole! I'm sorry I missed your special day. A special day for a special lady. 

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I am wishing Cadee a very Happy Birthday on Nov 11th. In case I don't get here that day.  

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Good idea! Mine is Nov 24

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📰🗞  Anyone have any NEWS to share with the group?

 

ME. Yesterday was a MIXTURE of so many emotions and I am SO GLAD to have my car fixed!!!  🙃🙃🙃

 

I have to wait for my daughter in Florida to get off from her Temporary Seasonal Job at 12pm today so she can Uber me to mechanic.

 

So YESTERDAY, nice AAA guy got me started after I had called mechanic to okay bringing car in - driven or towed.

 

Had to leave car with a NOT what I wanted to hear of MAYBE it would be ready same day or next.

 

So I had my CRY, wiped my tears and decided to get on the City Bus that runs in front of mechanic. Have NOT riden one since 2018!!!  😱😱😱  And WAS NOT HAPPY to do so again. But I had to wait for my daughter's temp job shift to end so she could Uber me back to my Studio Apartment.

 

Rode bus down to terminal where I bought my 1st OLD PERSON DISCOUNT BUS ID/lol  😂🤣  and rode another bus to Kroger.

 

Bought some groceries, NOT alot as Ubering with groceries is STRESSFUL.

 

Then my daughter ubered me home about 12pm.

 

Gosh, SO GLAD everyone was NICE (bus driver,bus station lady in office).

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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Nicole you have my sympathy. The car stuff takes a lot out of us. Getting the car to the fix, the cost always more after the diagnosis, the waiting and managing pickup is exhausting. I'm glad you got your car back Nicole. Take care.

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🙏  Julie @JulieT507376 , I hope you were/are SAFE on the road today/tonight. Yikes, no snow or ice yet for me in Virginia. I ADMIRE you driving on a day/night like this. Please be SAFE my friend.

 

*** Mark is WITH YOU TODAY and family. I hope you are/were able to find some PEACE today/tonight.  ***

 

Happy Birthday Mark!!!

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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A touching piece I came across..." We little knew that morning that God was going to call your name.  In life we loved you dearly., In death we do the same, It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone, for part of us went with you, the day God called you home. You left us peaceful memories, your love is still our guide, and though we cannot see you, you are always at our side. Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same, but as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again..Author Unknown   May you all find peace in reading this piece...

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  That was beautiful.  Thank You

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‌‌‌‌‌‌‌😴‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  Sweet dreams TONIGHT everyone!!!

 

I hope WE ALL get some "rest" and waking up to a NEW DAY full of "possibilities" and GOOD THINGS.  ‌‌🙃‌‌‌‌🙃‌‌‌‌🙃‌‌

 

As usual, I am here IF anyone needs me. I am a very good listener and I do care and understand.

 

See you TOMORROW dear friends.

 

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Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

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Thank you Nicole. Sweet dreams!

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In answer to your question "Do I have any plans on the second anniversary of hubbys passing..I don't as of yet and November is always a tight month as RE taxes and water/sewer bill is due plus annual yard clean up by landscape man so that's where the $$ goes then there's planning for the holidays ..I prefer to remember the days that we had made wonderful memories and yes I will think of how I miss him not only on Nov. 7th but everyday of the year..His picture has a place of honor in the living room and is always by the small Xmas tree to be with us on that Holy Day....I have a miniature little red rocking chair that has a tag attached to it that says "Christmas in Heaven" what do they do ?  They come down to earth to spend it with you. So save them a seat, just one empty chair. You may not see thembut they still will be there....It's also an ornament to hang but I choose to place it by his picture...To all of you I wish you Peace...

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  Wishing you a day of Peace and Love.  

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Cadee @Cadee2719 .

 

[1] You will be seeing the rheumatologist November 6. Please let me know what happens.

 

[2] You will be 81 in a few weeks. When is your birthday? Any plans?

 

[3] Medical alert system. Did you see Marcy's @MarcyW882921 suggestion?

 

[4] You are lining up projects to work on while being snowed in (if that even happens). When you can, I would luv UPDATES!!!

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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  Looking forward to my doctor's appointment, FINALLY!  No birthday plans, just a quiet day.  My birthday is November 11th.    I am thinking the medical alert system does not provide the coverage I thought it did.  My projects for when I am snowed in will be  recording the birds that come to feed.  I have all different kinds here.  I got a book identifying them so it will be fun to see how many different species I can identify.. I also got a 1000 piece puzzle that I will work on.  Haven't done a puzzle in many, many years but thought that might keep me occupied.  I have sewing to do and I plan to print the many pages of the journal I have written for my grandson since the day he was born.  He will be 21 this November!  I will also be working on my taxes as I have to deal with capital gain taxes from selling my home.  Looks like I will have a lot to do!  🤣  My neighbor told me when the street turns to ice, the whole neighborhood turns it into a skating rink!!  Snow will be new for me and I am excited about it.  I would love a White Christmas.  This time of year is hard for me.  I struggle to find bits and pieces of happiness and joy, BUT I will do all that I can to continue the search.  

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Julie @JulieT507376 , my thoughts are with YOU as you prepare for Mark’s birthday TOMORROW. I am glad you are taking family out for a Mexican dinner so you will NOT BE ALONE dear friend.

 

You inspire me with your DETERMINATION!!!

 

Keep stepping.  👣👣👣

 

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Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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Yes I’m feeling sad without him.  His favorite cake was German chocolate.  I think I need to find a piece of it and eat it.  I wonder if any other family will feel the void on his birthday.  I may appear determined but I’m really crumbling inside.  If I can do anything I must stay busy otherwise I will crumble on the outside.  Nicole you inspire me with your positive caring energy that you share with so many of us! 
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Julie @JulieT507376,

 

I hope you find that piece of German chocolate cake and enjoy it in your husband's honor.

 

I was thinking about your crumbling on the inside and appearance of determination on the outside. I know that feeling! I don't know if you are religious or spiritual but there is a song that I listen to at those times. It is called "Raining on The Inside" and it is sung by Amy Grant. I sing along with it through my tears and manage to come out with more strength and composure.

 

Keep following your strategic plans and you will get through this.

 

Marcy

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