🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Spring2025]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Spring2025]

9:21am ET My car will not start - waiting on AAA to assign a driver. 😭😭😭

[mc6844]

Sorry about your car and hope you can keep it going Nicole. It will be ok 

[Spring2025]

🚗🚘  Lol, car back in mechanic shop. Anyway, took bus to Kroger (where I was headed this morning) from mechanic. This time they had me have AAA TOW her in, NOT start her to see what is DRAINING new battery. Now you understand why I only drive Mondays thru Thursday = when mechanic is open./lol  🤣😂

Anyway, have my LAST Blood Pressure pill THIS WEDNESDAY and when I had planned on stopping by CVS.

Bus does NOT go that way, so my daughter will have to Uber me the whole way and back.

Glad I got my OLD LADY bus ID the last time car was in shop. Saves on uber cost. But none go up my hill from Kroger.

Anyway, they are keeping her.

Can I have my meltdown now???  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

Nicole,

I’m so sorry about your car!  So terrible to have car problems.  I hope your mechanic can fix it and make it dependable for you.  We ladies can’t be breaking down out there.  Not like we have a guy at home to call.  Tomorrow will be a better day.  
Julie❤️

[Spring2025]

THOSE ANNIVERSARIES!!!  😭😭😭

I know our Julie @JulieT507376 has her 1st anniversary on December 4th. Losing YOUR Mark was "unexpected" and SO UNFAIR dear friend

What has HELPED me so far is HONORING them with living MY NEW LIFE the way they lived THEIRS.

I have NOT been "close" to alot of people as I AGE and "distance" myself from family drama - but my Mamamae (maternal grandmother) is ALWAYS with me.  🤗🤗🤗

As a teenager, I MARVELED at how she lived AFTER Grandpops died in his sleep after walking home from his business. Buses were on strike and he refused one of his son's offer to come get him. This was in Kingston, Jamaica West Indies. A very long and dangerous walk for a man in his late 80's.

Anyway, he died doing what he luved (his Catering School) and Mamamae joined him at age 104.

NOT ONCE did she show her sadness, kept busy and luved me as usual. She KNEW I still needed her unconditional luv I NEVER got from my dysfunctional parents (alcoholic father who beat her, she refused to leave him).

So NOW I am TRYING to live like Mamamae did. Being there for my only child, a daughter.

Julie, I AM SO SORRY for your loss dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗👋  (Grief Forum)

[JulieT507376]

Thank you sweet friend for your kind words.  It seems like yesterday I received the devastating call that Mark had passed.  I’m still lost without him.  I’ve had to grow up a lot this past year.  Made decisions that may not have pleased my two sons!  But I survived the year!  I still live in my house with Sadie in the country.  The house Mark built and died in.  I’ve got this!  (Most days!.) 

[Spring2025]

Jonibee @jonibee , Cadee @Cadee2719 and Lisa @LisaJP6763 , YOU GUYS are dealing with SO MUCH MEDICAL STUFF!!!  😭😭😭

YOU are grieving, TRYING to move forward my friends.

[1] Cadee, how many days do you have left of your diabetes med?

[2] Jonibee, are you NOW able to get some sleep? Acid reflux is AWFUL!!! Hope you are feeling better.

[3] Well Lisa, you are one AWESOME addition to Our Group. Thank you for spending time with us. I hope your husband's Shoulder Surgery DOES HAPPEN THIS FRIDAY. I am assuming you are on leave from your job? How is PT going?

Lol, okay that is it for NOSEY NICOLE.  🤣😂

[jonibee]

The wheels of progress in the medical world  move slowly ..I am no where closer to knowing what's going on so an xray will have to be done and scripts for getting rid of the pain  but they don't seem to be working ..I did find out that I have a UTI so more scripts for that..I think I'll request a gasologoist someone that deals in the digestive system from head to toe..I don't have blood clots though which is encouraging news..So I'm still dealing with the pain almost 2 weeks now..Just trying to get comfortable is hard to get some sleep..Hoping that relief of some sort is on the horizon...

[Spring2025]

Hi Marcy @MarcyW882921 , when you have time to WALK, where do you and for how long?

I do each night since getting my pre-diabetes diagnosis THIS YEAR. My Medicare doctor suggested EXERCISE and low carb mediterrean diet. You can "reverse" it with these CHANGES. Hoping to do so in time for NEXT year 2025 Medicare lab work.

*** I had started out with 1 hour walk inside my Studio Apt to music. Soon got BORED.  🙄🙄🙄

*** Switched to half hour with NO music = get it over with thing.

Ideally when I move, want to maybe return to walking outside again. My area has changed, no longer safe.

I had switched to Exploration Walks when I had stopped my Neighborhood Walks. Those were REALLY FUN and sometimes ran into nice folks. I would find a busy and safe place to park. Then explore the area on foot. Between gas prices and car getting older (more repairs  😭),  I put that on hold. But want to again when I move. Would luv to live near "green" spaces. Lol, my "use to be" suburbs is now RETAIL CITY and traffic gridlock = built on green areas. Oh well, progress I guess.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

My walking is generally dependent on my schedule for the day. I switch between 20, 30, 45, and 60 minute time segments. I figure whatever I can fit in is beneficial to me emotionally and physically.

Marcy

[Spring2025]

Where do you walk Marcy @MarcyW882921 ? Oh, forgot to mention. Mister  🐈  with his CUTE self will walk "beside" me IF he is INSIDE when I walking. My boy!!!  🤗

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[*** MARCY wrote: Nicole , My walking is generally dependent on my schedule for the day. I switch between 20, 30, 45, and 60 minute time segments. I figure whatever I can fit in is beneficial to me emotionally and physically.

Marcy  ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

I walk inside my house, in my neighborhood, at a couple of nature preserves, at a park, or at a Japanese garden. It all depends on the weather and the time I have available.

Marcy

[Spring2025]

Hi Jonibee @jonibee , I hope this morning's doctor's appointment gave you some "relief" dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[jonibee]

Until tests blood etc. come back she didn't say what she thinks order scripts for indigestion and because of allergy to dye I couldn't have xray so it's a guessing game and I have to go back in two weeks for consultation ..Hopefully the 2 scripts will ease the discomfort that I have been going through...I wrote down all the happenings and there were still endless questions when/how long etc...She didn't seem to be in a good mood and my daughter wasn't to pleased with her demeanor and said it loud enough for her to hear and her tone changed when she returned to examining room...

[Spring2025]

📸  Group HUG - Attachment  📸

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. Hugs to you too! 🤗 

[Spring2025]

🤔  Anyone had a BONE DENSITY TEST?

I have my 1st one in a few days.

If YES, can you tell me about YOUR test? NO pressure as usual to share.  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Yes, I did. They simply run something over you while you lay back. Pretty sure that's it. If not, it wasn't anything much. 

[Spring2025]

Hi Lisa @LisaJP6763 , I just figured out by re-reading your LAST post in the Grief Forum that TODAY is your husband's shoulder surgery.

Gosh, here you just had back surgery.

Hope you have folks helping you BOTH dear friend.

You are BOTH in my thoughts TODAY.  🤗🤗🤗

[LisaJP6763]

They called yesterday afternoon to change it.  The anesthesiologist wasn't comfortable doing it in the outpatient area due to his previous heart issues.  So we go next Friday to the main hospital to have it done.  Have a good weekend! 

[Spring2025]

😴  Lol, I am getting OLDER guys. Thought I had said goodnight!!!

Jonibee @jonibee , when you can/feel up to it, let me know how things go TOMORROW for your doctor. Thanks!

Everyone, SWEET dreams  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

Will do...jonibee

[Spring2025]

🏌️‍🎾  Group Discussion: Do YOU exercise? It does help in many ways but most importantly for US - helps with OUR GRIEF!!!

I know Bionic Marcy @MarcyW882921 does Zumba and Tennis.

Me, walking.

Anyone else?

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 , 

I also walk and go to water aerobics when my schedule allows.

Marcy

[JulieT507376]

I go to SAILS exercise twice a week and walk a 1/2 mile to my mailbox.  Better than nothing!  I have an exercise bike that calls out to me!! “Ride me!”

[Spring2025]

Group Discussion: COMFORT FROM LUV ONES WE LOST!!!  🤗🤗🤗

Tell us about YOUR comfort.

*** As I lay in bed right NOW looking out my one window at the fall colors, it hit me that there is a GENTLE BREEZE moving the leaves on ALL the trees I am  seeing. My sign from my Grandparents who knew how much comfort hiding in my (yes mine/lol) HUGE tree as a child. A spot to let the wind rock me back and forth as I read or napped amongst the branches. Lol, and NEVER fell out. I am MISSING them big time right now. Thank you Grandpops and Mamamae for keeping me SAFE as a child.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Spring2025]

FROM GOOGLE.

Some people believe that deceased loved ones may try to contact us through signs, dreams, or other subtle ways. Here are some possible signs:

[1] Sensing their presence.
You may feel like your loved one is with you, or you might hear or see them. These are known as grief or bereavement hallucinations.

[2] Electrical interference.
You might experience unusual electrical activity, such as flickering light bulbs, power outages, or other disturbances with electronics.

[3] Feathers.
Feathers are a symbol of remembrance, and some say they appear when loved ones are near.

[4] Dreams.
You might have dreams about your loved one, where you have conversations with them, receive guidance, or share moments of comfort.

[5] Smells.
You might smell a scent that you associate with your loved one, such as their perfume or roses.

[6] Sounds.
You might hear your loved one's favorite song right after thinking about them, or you might hear them call out.

[7] Numbers or dates.
You might see your loved one's favorite number or an important date, like their birthday, repeatedly.

[8] Notes or letters.
You might find notes or letters written by your loved one in unexpected places.

[9] Animals.
You might feel that your loved one is contacting you through animals.

[10] Comments.
You might have a stranger say something to you that your loved one was known for saying.

*** Spiritual beliefs vary widely, but many cultures and religions believe that our connections with those who have passed continue in some form.

[JulieT507376]

Woke up at 1:30 this morning to snow!  

[Spring2025]

🎂  OUR BIRTHDAY CLUB!!!

We stop by to wish the birthday person a very special day. Thank you for supporting each other.

Anyone else want to be ADDED to the list?

[1] MC @mc6844  - November 24.

*** Marcy @MarcyW882921 - January 7.

[2] Cadee @Cadee2719 - November 11.

[3] Lisa @LisaJP6763 and [4] Jonibee @jonibee - June 7.

[5] Nicole (me  🙄)  - September 26. And I am still feeling VERY SPECIAL from all the Birthday Posts you guys did for me THIS YEAR 2024.  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025,

You can add me to the birthday club. Mine is January 7.

Marcy