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🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.
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🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Luv,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)
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👋 How are YOU?
Any plans for TODAY?
NO errands for me, Flu Shot TOMORROW at 8:30am and my 66th birthday.
Anyone got the Flu Shot or planning to?
NOT sure about LATEST COVID vaccine, waiting to see WHEN it is "available" at my CVS. They notify me of stuff via text and email. Grateful!!!
Had a very SAD dream last night = will be a day of Self Care in some form. Not sure WHICH form but NOT in the "mood" for Mr.'s In & Out TODAY. Crawled back into my bed AFTER feeding and watering him. Then put him out again. As usual, when I want him OUTSIDE he wants INSIDE. Not today buddy. We will see how I FEEL as the day surfaces.
DREARY rainy day and disappointed AGAIN of NOT being able to finish Car Spa. Oh well, per my Android Weather app - NEXT THURSDAY sun should be back.
Sick of Storm/whatever Helene. Is she affecting YOUR area?
Luv,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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I think the rain and not being able to get outside is affecting you. I am praying that Helene does not harm my friends in Florida. Is your daughter in a safe place? I don't think I could live there as I would be terrified of all the hurricanes. I am glad that you are taking care of yourself. I am planning on getting the flu shot, not sure about the COVID. Today Safelite is suppose to call me and tell me if they found the regulator for my car window. I am keeping my fingers crossed. Thank You for forwarding the message for me. Be safe ❤️
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Nicole @Spring2025 ,
I'm glad you are keeping up with your vaccines. I got the new COVID vac before my trip and plan to get my flu vac in October.
Sorry about your sad dream and hope that you follow through with some comforting self-care to get you through the day.🤗❤️
Marcy
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👍 [9/24/24] REMEMBER - on those days/nights when YOU wonder WHY you are still here??? YOU are still here for the folks who CARE ABOUT YOU!!! So get out of bed EVERY DAY, hug them, tell them you CARE. This way when YOU ARE GONE, mixed in with THEIR GRIEVING will be GOOD MEMORIES. Parents (I am one) OUR KIDS (even adults) need their ONE PARENT - you. 🤗🤗🤗
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It’s sad to say but my adult children and grandchildren are so busy in their lives I’m not sure they would miss me. I think I have a couple of sisters and a friend or two that would miss me terribly. Most of all would be that silly dog! Days will go by and I won’t hear a word from my sons. I try not to let it hurt but it does. They are busy with their stuff and I’m not part of it!!
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LOVE this picture. From what I am hearing on this site, I am beginning to think that it is normal for our kids and grandchildren to be so busy with their lives that we are forgotten. It is hard and sad for those of us that devoted our lives to them and made them an integral part of our lives. I honestly think they have no idea how much we miss them. We still think and worry about them and will do so until we are gone. I work hard at staying in touch with them, yet not interfering in their daily lives. It is just so difficult to understand why they are not able to understand that we love them and miss them. I guess the fact that we are healing from the loss of one we loved so dearly adds to the emptiness that we feel.
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📸 [9/23/24] Attachment for Jonibee @jonibee - I am expecting pictures SOON (when you are back to gardening my friend) 🤗🤗🤗
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appts coming up are Lawyer dealing with trusts and Cardiologist just a check up to see if all is okayi..I have a 3 mos checkup wit primary in Dec. I am trying to curtail any more tests as it's wearing me out. I have another leg surgery scheduled after a month or so .Not going to the Endocrinologist because he didn't do anything and the Primary can do the same for less $$..Plus his office didn't fill out the Medicare form correct so it was denied so they have to resubmit it with the right wording..Aggravating..I find that this damp chilliy weather aggravates the cysts behind the knee...Using pain creme and Ibeprofin but careful not to take too many as it can cause bleeding problems...Walk using a canie as sitting doesn't help the cause..Otherwise I'm fine for the shape that I'm in...
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I no longer have a regular garden onliy flower plants in a whiskey barrel and tend to perennial flowers such as Irises,Tiger lilies, Jonquils/Daffodils as I have flowering Golden Chain Tree and Bridal Wreath Bush to look after...I usually buy Mums for the front yard and I have Morning Glory that grows in pot where outside light is..
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[9/23/24] Cadee @Cadee2719 , I know you are going through ALOT with the situation with your brother. 😭😭😭
I am here IF you need me dear friend.
Luv,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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Thank You Nicole Before they do surgery on his eye and nose they need to control his heart issue. That means stopping his heart to regulate the rhythm. It is so sad. He is losing his sight in both eyes due to macular degeneraton and now he will lose the one eye that provided him with some sight. I will be there for him as long as he needs and wants me to be He called me EVERY DAY after I lost my loved ones and I am here, safe because of him. Please keep him in your prayers. ❤️
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🗣 Group Discussion: The experts say having a daily ROUTINE helps with OUR HEALING. Any comments?
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Doing daily things such as getting up , fixing yourself breakfast and getting ready for the day helps. Doing daily chores such as bed making, general pickup and listening to the news to keep abreast of what is happening around you keeps you in the present. Also learning something new or keeping up with family or acquaintances is good for the mind and body..Having a hobby be it stamp collecting, puzzles, word search or playing on line games keeps the brain going..Get out for some fresh air if only to walk around the yard be in tune with Nature and the changing seasons..
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I know for a fact with me "inheriting" Mr. 🐈, in between the "stress" of ADDED responsibility and expense - I do have to get up to feed him BREAKFAST. Before, I spent WAY TOO MUCH time in bed feeling sorry for myself.
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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[9/22/24] Julie @JulieT507376 , do you and Sadie 🐕 go for WALKS?
I miss Jeremiah 🐕, we would be out walking EVERY morning and evening. He was a TINY "mixed" breed. MISS him after years, but like with losing "humans" - I DO NOT well with losing "furbabies"...
Lol, people do WALK their cats. Hmmm, maybe I need to train Mr. 🐈. Nope, Mr. Rebel ain't buying that. 🤣😂
Luv,
Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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I live on an acreage where Sadie runs free and hunts for whatever she decides to pounce on! I think she had a gopher treat in that picture 😬 We walk to the mailbox together and play fetch and frisbee. Her true love is herding cattle. That was her job duty for her daddy. Me…just a lot of cute tricks and cuddles in bed. Her life has truly changed after her daddy passed away. Many people assumed I would sale this big place and all the land. No way! Sadie needs this place! As long as I have her I’m staying!
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Lol, I don't know whose MOOD SWINGS are worst - the cat, my daughter or me. Could NOT get any ALONE time ALL OF LAST WEEK. Even could NOT get my DAILY OLD LADY NAP. So TODAY, his a.ss is "outside" napping/grooming and TOTALLY IGNORING me!!!/lol 🤣😂
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🗣 Group Discussion: Have you RELOCATED or "thinking" about it? Or STAYING WHERE YOU ARE. Or STAYING in the SAME city, but selling/moving in with family/downsize? Any TIPS to share? Pros & Cons of YOUR MOVE? They say NOT to make any MAJOR decisions immediately.
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At the moment we have Marcy @MarcyW882921 who stayed and renovated. Cadee @Cadee2719 who relocated to be nearer to family. Jonibee @jonibee who I "think" stayed (correct me IF needed Jonibee). Julie @JulieT507376 is NEW to our group and at the moment is staying. But I do worry about her being "way out" during the ice and snow she mentioned. Lol, then me - TRYING to "wait" it out where I am until my "only" child figures out her life after being laid of ff. Anyway, I would luv to hear from OUR GROUP and OTHER GRIEVERS. Why are you staying or moving? Thanks, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗
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Relocating is a BIG DECISION. People need to do what is comfortable and possible for them. I understand staying if surrounded by family and feeling safe and content in your surroundings. I also understand that financially it is extremely expensive to re-locate. It is also frightening to relocate to a new environment, hoping that you made the right decision. Nicole, I think you are making the right decision in waiting to see what your daughter is planning to do. I also think you should spend this time doing your research into the possibilities of relocating. The priorities are: Financial, Medical facilities, Safety, Convenience, Wants & Needs. I truly hope that you find a place that makes you happy and content. I find that my move was a "MIRACLE" as it has given me all of the benefits that I only dreamed of. Each person is different and must do what works for them and only they know what criteria that is. You are still young and have the time to do this IF this is what you want to do. I am here for you. ❤️
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I have lost love ones recently and my husband just left me alone to handle everything. My oldest son, grandfather of the baby that just passed away is talking about divorcing my daughter in law. There is so much more drama in my life I can’t trouble you with. Mark would help me through all of this one step at a time. Now I’m alone. I visit with a counselor and I have friends but it’s not the same. We were partners not just support. I no longer have a partner. I find myself wanting so badly to be with him. I know you all understand what I’m feeling. I’m dead inside without Mark. I think Sadie knows my sadness. I wish I could be happier for her. Fall is coming. It’s cooling off. I’m going to be alone on these cold nights. Where I live there is lots of snow and ice. I will be shut in. Mark would be the brave driver!
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Julie, I truly understand. My husband and I would have been married 63 years this November. We were partners in life and now I am alone. I am learning about who I am as a person. It is overwhelming to be responsible for all the decisions in life, praying that I am making the right ones. Most important is for you to TAKE CARE OF YOU. Eliminate negative people in your life and realize that "you" cannot be their sounding board or resolve their problems. I cannot tell you what a load has been lifted off my shoulders by doing this. Perhaps to some this may sound cruel and self absorbed BUT it is time that we take care of ourselves. (A new concept for me) I will be honest with you and admit I don't know if and when this sadness will go away but I work hard at finding a little happiness each day. I will be experiencing my first winter with snow being alone in my home and I will admit that I am lost as to what I will do to occupy my time and mind. I know for fact that I will be ordering groceries to be delivered because there is NO WAY I am driving in the snow! It will be two years this October that I lost my husband and it feels like it was yesterday. I pray that each day I will become stronger. I, too journal, and agree with Marcy that this helps me process my feelings. My friends here taught me ONE DAY AT A TIME and to be kind to ourselves. In a way we are lucky; we had a love that will never be forgotten and those memories, are what will get us through each day. ❤️
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My heart goes out to you Julie @JulieT507376 . It is likely too overwhelming to think about all of the things going on around you. Focus on yourself and prioritize things that need to be done for you. Talking with your counselor and friends definitely is not the same as talking with your spouse, but their support is still an important part of your life. Some people find that continuing to talk with their loved one is beneficial and it doesn't cost anything to try. Although I am not a writer, I did find writing my thoughts in a journal was helpful. You are a different person now than you were when Mark was with you and it will take time to find out who you are now.
Marcy
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I have finally returned to knitting after a time away because of carpal tunnel . This was before the leg problems...My last visit with vascular she said I would feel a lot of difference after a month so far this leg is doing okay but I have another issue called Bakers Ciyst on both legs which is where the leg bends behind the knee..It's a sac that fills up with fluid and hurts when the leg is prone position so propping it up takes the pressure off..A diet that is low in salt and foods that have salt in them has to be abstained as this makes matters worse..If it doesn't improve than an Orthopedic doctor would have to be seen possibly to drain that area..Hopefully it won't come to this...I have my days that I still mourn the loss of hubby but feel that he is with me spirit wise...I keep busy on the days that I feel up to it..Knitting is very relaxing providing that you don't do intricate patterns where mistakes can be made very easily..Have a nice weekend to All...
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Joni @jonibee ,
It is comforting to feel your husband's spirit and great to have an activity that provides relaxation. I'm glad you have both and hope that along with following your doctor's orders will get you through your current physical challenges.
Marcy
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