🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole 💛

[Cadee2719]

  Julie, I truly understand.  My husband and I would have been married 63 years this November. We were partners in life and now I am alone.  I am learning about who I am as a person.  It is overwhelming to be responsible for all the decisions in life, praying that I am making the right ones.  Most important is for you to TAKE CARE OF YOU.  Eliminate negative people in your life and realize that "you" cannot be their sounding board or resolve their problems.  I cannot tell you what a load has been lifted off my shoulders by doing this.  Perhaps to some this may sound cruel and self absorbed BUT it is time that we take care of ourselves.  (A new concept for me)  I will be honest with you and admit I don't know if and when this sadness will go away but I work hard at finding a little happiness each day.  I will be experiencing my first winter with snow being alone in my home and I will admit that I am lost as to what I will do to occupy my time and mind. I know for fact that I will be ordering groceries to be delivered because there is NO WAY I am driving in the snow!   It will be two years this October that I lost my husband and it feels like it was yesterday.  I pray that each day I will become stronger.  I, too journal, and agree with Marcy that this helps me process my feelings.  My friends here taught me ONE DAY AT A TIME and to be kind to ourselves.  In a way we are lucky; we had a love that will never be forgotten and those memories,  are what will get us through each day.  ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

My heart goes out to you Julie @JulieT507376 . It is likely too overwhelming to think about all of the things going on around you. Focus on yourself and prioritize things that need to be done for you. Talking with your counselor and friends definitely is not the same as talking with your spouse, but their support is still an important part of your life. Some people find that continuing to talk with their loved one is beneficial and it doesn't cost anything to try. Although I am not a writer, I did find writing my thoughts in a journal was helpful. You are a different person now than you were when Mark was with you and it will take time to find out who you are now.

Marcy

[jonibee]

I have finally returned to knitting after a time away  because of carpal tunnel . This was before the leg problems...My last visit with vascular she said I would feel a lot of difference after a month so far this leg is doing okay but I have another issue called Bakers Ciyst on both legs which is where the leg bends behind the knee..It's a sac that fills up with fluid and hurts when the leg is prone position so propping it up takes the pressure off..A diet that is low in salt and foods that have salt in them has to be abstained as this makes matters worse..If it doesn't improve than an Orthopedic doctor would have to be seen possibly to drain that area..Hopefully it won't come to this...I have my days that I still mourn the loss of hubby but feel that he is with me spirit wise...I keep busy on the days that I feel up to it..Knitting is very relaxing providing that you don't do intricate patterns where mistakes can be made very easily..Have a nice weekend to All...

[MarcyW882921]

Joni @jonibee ,

It is comforting to feel your husband's spirit and great to have an activity that provides relaxation. I'm glad you have both and hope that along with following your doctor's orders will get you through your current physical challenges.

Marcy

[jonibee]

dish cloth knittedtri-colored scarf knittedknitted fingerless opera style glovesboys knitted cardiganwall hanging knitted flower basketknitted 4 seasons wreathswork in progress color block throw knittedAsst. things knittedFall knitted slipper sox

[JulieT507376]

jonibee, beautiful projects!  I wish I knew how to do that!  Busy hands are happy hands🥰😊

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  SO GOOD to hear from YOU Jonibee @jonibee !!! Happy Dance Time.  💃💃💃

Wow and wow - you are indeed TALENTED!!!  👍👍👍

Lol, I need to order some Winter Stuff from you.

On the serious, thank you SO MUCH for sharing = made my DAY EXTRA SPECIAL my friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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dish cloth knittedtri-colored scarf knittedknitted fingerless opera style glovesboys knitted cardiganwall hanging knitted flower basketknitted 4 seasons wreathswork in progress color block throw knittedAsst. things knittedFall knitted slipper sox

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[jonibee]

Right now I'm a bit "rusty" and I'm making a knitted ribbed hat in black with a combo use of odds n ends of yarn in the border red/olive/ rust  which adds interest as black sometimes needs a color to liven things up and it's hard on the eyes especially when doing a pattern (can't detect the stitches)...I like making decorations to hang to display...

[jonibee]

These are items that I have knitted in the past. I had to take a break from knitting for over a year due to carpal tunnel in both hands. Recently I have returned to knitting but only for short periods of time so no to stress the hand and fingers..I was asked to show some of my knitting projects these are a small sampling...

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Cadee @Cadee2719 , your brother is in my thoughts today my friend.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You Nicole.  My brother has macular degeneration in both eyes and was receiving shots in them to try to retain some sight.  The fall caused such damage in his "good" eye meaning the one that he was able to see a little more out of and he will now lose that eye.  😪  They are delaying the surgery while dealing with his heart.  He also broke his nose in the fall.  I am going there to help take care of him and to help my sister-in-law.  She is so fragile and this has really taken a toll on her.  Please keep him in your prayers.  

[jonibee]

Hoping all goes well for your brother and sister-inlaw and take care of you too..

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You   I am doing as you suggested.  Heat/Ice, elevate my legs and yesterday I put on compression socks which seemed to help.  I have also begun my search for a vascular doctor.  Thank You for all your suggestions.  My son is taking me down to my brother's home (2 hours away).  I will stay there and help them and once the surgery on his eye is scheduled, they will come to my home and I will care for him here.

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

Another challenge for you dear Cadee. I'm sorry to hear about your brother's fall. I will keep him (and your sister-in-law) in my prayers and hope that they will address all of your brother's issues. Together you are stronger so stick together and support one another.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 We lost our parents when we were quite young, Dad 2 and Mom 14 so I have become the "parent" even though he is two years younger than me.  When we are together, I can make him laugh and LISTEN to me. 😋  I know he is frightened and I know it is important that I be there.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Wishing everyone "rest & sweet dreams" TONIGHT!!!

Anyone NEED "rain" = I will be happy to SHARE./lol  🤣😂

Hope YOUR day was PEACEFUL.

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Wow Nicole...we had some big rain storms here this afternoon too! I'm glad it was nice this morning for my tennis game and I'm grateful when the rain is on the outside and not on the inside.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  So Marcy @MarcyW882921 , guess WHICH DAYS there is NO rain. As you guys know I STAY IN Friday, Saturday & Sunday. Yes, those 3 days. Then guess what is SUPPOSE to happen on my 4 days of errands and so on. YES, MORE RAIN./lol  🤣😂  Maybe Mother Nature does NOT want me to finish waxing my car BEFORE it gets cold.  🙄🙄🙄  Hmmm, wonder if she takes "bribes"... Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY wrote: Wow Nicole...we had some big rain storms here this afternoon too! I'm glad it was nice this morning for my tennis game and I'm grateful when the rain is on the outside and not on the inside.

Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 , if it's like it is here, the weather forecast changes by the hour. Don't give up hope for some good errand running weather.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Any CHORUS NEWS Marcy @MarcyW882921 ?

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

No regular chorus news since I missed last week while traveling. I will be doing another short term thing with another choral group beginning next month and ending with a show in February. I'm looking forward to singing and performing with a mixed group.

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Bionic Marcy @MarcyW882921 , missing you and know you "is" having FUN with your family up North.

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you for missing me. It was great to see my family in person and also great to be back home! I am off to the courts this morning to resume my "normal" life.😂🎾

Marcy

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Group Discussion: Any NATURE FOLKS out there?  📸  Attachment  📸  They say it HEALS our "insides" and "encourages" as we MOVE FORWARD. Hmmm, are you maybe gardening - taking walks outside and so on? Stop by when YOU feel up to it and SHARE your experience. I luv gardening but scared of SNAKES!!!  😱😱😱

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Cadee @Cadee2719 , LAST year 2023 when we were chatting about my interest in the MOON - you had mentioned having had a TELESCOPE in the past. Was it one of those HUGE ones? Yes, after diverting from my STUDIES for a FEW MONTHS (dealing with a.sholes ABOVE me & more water leaks in my apt  🙄),  I am FINALLY ready to get back ON TRACK!!!  💃💃💃

Thanks my friend.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  No it was my grandson's telescope, not a really big one.  Now I am looking for binoculars so I can sit at my dining room window and identify all the birds that come to my feeder.  I figure when it snows and I am "held captive" in my home I can entertain myself by bird watching!  

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  OUR MEMBERS HELPING MEMBERS TEAM  🤗🤗🤗

Julie @JulieT507376 , Jonibee @jonibee , Cadee @Cadee2719 , MC @mc6844 and Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Lisa @LisaJP6763 and Nicole (me).

[Cadee2719]

  Morning to all!  It breaks my heart to think that Julie is going through the same journey as we are.  I pray that she will take One Step At a Time and be kind to herself.  It seems as if life continues to be a struggle and we must be strong to survive.  My brother (the reason why I moved here) was rushed to the hospital.  He had fallen in the bathroom and caused damage to the orbital bone around his eye!  While in the hospital they discovered that he was having heart issues as well. (something that every member of my family died from)   They think that is what made him fall.  I am glad that they are taking care of all these issues and pray that he will be released soon.  All he asked of me is to bring him cabbage rolls!  😂  He is the last sibling of seven and I don't want to lose him.   

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  SENDING LOTS AND LOTS OF HUGS YOUR WAY!!!  🤗🤗🤗

Julie @JulieT507376 , Jonibee @jonibee , Cadee @Cadee2719 , MC @mc6844 and Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Lisa @LisaJP6763 .

[jonibee]

My follow up visit showed that the surgery procedure did what was expected and the leg should show improvement over the next month..I also found out that I may have what they call "Baker's Cyst" where the legs bend a fluid build-up with extra attention as to what causes the sudden onset of pain such as Arthrities, salty foods, and other things  refraining and laying on ones side using cold or heat and taking Ibeprofen or Motrin should help with pain. Or see an Orthopedic for further tx...Always something to contend with..I go back in a month for release and then another appt. for other leg to be done...I find that after going to the doctors, it poops me out literally and I am good for nothing the rest of the day...Oh well, there's always tomorrow and what that brings..