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What type of support is offered for caregivers dealing with a spouse or elderly parent?

 I wanted to know so I can see if what I am going through is normal especially when  there is anger and resentment.

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You are on point in how I am feeling. I am drowning and I am angry, stressed, and frustrated. I don't know how to continue dealing with my mother-in-law. She was diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer/dementia and at times she'll talk and talk, be happy, and totally cooperative. Most of the times, she will be crying, angry and ask me why I hate her or mad at her when I haven't said or done anything. She tells her son that I don't cook and make her feel bad and she wants to leave because she is not happy with me. When we tell her that if that would make her happy and move with her granddaughter in Vegas, she cries and says she does not want to leave and that she loves it here. I don't think I'm handling this correctly and I am building resentment and anger because I don't know how to respond or deal with the emotional frustration. I need help but I don't know where to go. I work, I have a 3 y.o., and my elder dad who is also blindly giving ALL of his SSA to a woman in another county. I feel I am drowning emotionally and it shows...
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Thank you this is very helpful. I'm checking out support groups in my area. I will certainly attend, I need the help. Thank YOU

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@MariaA751063 Absolutely! My pleasure! Please keep us posted. We're here for you!!! 

 

Take care,

Amy

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I have found that online communities have helped me. I always visit the AARP Community Smiley Happy because people are so helpful and always have wonderful advice! I also use Twitter to connect with other caregivers who are going through the same thing. Every Tuesday there is a #carechat, which is an online Twitter chat where people ask and answer questions. It's really amazing to see the way people connect! I've also recently begun using the Kinto community. Kinto is an app that has some practical tools, but also a cool community where you can ask and answer questions, voice your opinions, and vent when you need it Smiley Wink Their website is kinto.care. It's free and really easy to download (and this is someone who can have trouble downloading things from the app store). Obviously you found the wonderful AARP community and it's amazing that there's more out there Heart

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@k920582e I'm so glad you found #carechat! I host it once a month (we rotate) were you on today when I hosted? We talked about sleep! What is your Twitter handle so I'll know it's you?! 

Take care,

Amy

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@k920582e wrote:

I have found that online communities have helped me. I always visit the AARP Community Smiley Happy because people are so helpful and always have wonderful advice! I also use Twitter to connect with other caregivers who are going through the same thing. Every Tuesday there is a #carechat, which is an online Twitter chat where people ask and answer questions. It's really amazing to see the way people connect! I've also recently begun using the Kinto community. Kinto is an app that has some practical tools, but also a cool community where you can ask and answer questions, voice your opinions, and vent when you need it Smiley Wink Their website is kinto.care. It's free and really easy to download (and this is someone who can have trouble downloading things from the app store). Obviously you found the wonderful AARP community and it's amazing that there's more out there Heart


K920582e - I sometimes partake in the #carechat too! AARP is hosting a Twitter chat on Monday June 12 at 1 p.m. Eastern featuring Richard Lui of MSNBC and Amy Goyer, our Caregiving Expert. You can join us using hashtag #TougherThanTough. 

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@k920582e wrote:

I have found that online communities have helped me. I always visit the AARP Community Smiley Happy because people are so helpful and always have wonderful advice! I also use Twitter to connect with other caregivers who are going through the same thing. Every Tuesday there is a #carechat, which is an online Twitter chat where people ask and answer questions. It's really amazing to see the way people connect! I've also recently begun using the Kinto community. Kinto is an app that has some practical tools, but also a cool community where you can ask and answer questions, voice your opinions, and vent when you need it Smiley Wink Their website is kinto.care. It's free and really easy to download (and this is someone who can have trouble downloading things from the app store). Obviously you found the wonderful AARP community and it's amazing that there's more out there Heart


This is really helpful advice, thank you! I'm going to check out both Twitter and Kinto.care. You are one of the reasons the AARP community is so great. Many many thanks.

 

Jane

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Hello.  I see that this post is over 2 years old. I was wondering if the twitter chat is still taking place? 

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@mr30344177  Yes it is! It's organized by Denise Brown at caregiving.com and I'm one of the four people who host it - we rotate so we each host once a month. I hosted today! My topic was sleep - one of the most important things a caregiver needs (as well as our care recipients!). Just go to Twitter and put in the search field: #carechat. Then every Tuesday at 1pm ET you can do that and follow the chat - all posts include the hashtag #carechat - so when you post just include that hashtag and your posts will be included! Let me know if you have any more questions about how to do a Twitter chat! 

 

Take care,

Amy Goyer, AARP Family & Caregiving Expert

Author, Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving and

Color Your Way Content When Caring for Loved Ones

 

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@v270082k wrote:

 I wanted to know so I can see if what I am going through is normal especially when  there is anger and resentment.


Hi v270082k:

AARP has a list of comprehensive care guides that may be able to point you in the right direction. You can find them HERE: http://www.aarp.org/home-family/caregiving/care-guides/?CMP=RDRCT-IC-CAREGIVING-072616 

 

How long have you been caring for your parents/souse? 

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