Wow, I can't believe either how close our situations are. It is really hard not having a social life but I am 4 years sober now and even though I miss my friends it's ok for me that I stay home on a Friday and Saturday night now. It is lonely not having at least the work relationships and talking to other people besides my mom and son. It's hard to stay busy also and not just be a bump on the log and stay home all the time.
When my husband was alive we also were thinking of the mother in law wing but boy are they expensive and we could not afford to do it and life changed that any way. Since it is just the 3 of us now the townhouse is fine. We have done a lot of remodeling and have a little more to do but we love it and it's in a good location to everything we need.
It's just a matter of thinking that it is just another chapter in life and that it will change in time like everthing else that has happend to us in our lifetime. I feel like a cat with 9 lives and I am just in the middle and more lives are in my future because nothing stays the same. We just need to hang in there by our claws and don't let go.