Can't handle raising troubled grandchild

[AndSolomTX]

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Don't know where to turn.

I am raising a troubled 11 almost 12 year old most disrespectful grandchild.  It's too much.  I have spent years giving up my freedom and peace in exchange for constant aggravation disrespect laziness entitled unruly just all around difficult and out of control troubled grandchild.  This kid needs a 2 parent home that will hold her to take responsibility for actions and provide the discipline that she needs.  I don't know where to turn. We have already been in counseling, therapist, psychiatrist, medications....it's all just futile.  My life is miserable. It kills me to think of actually driving her to some foster care place but I also don't know what to do with this overwhelming bad situation.

I make too much to qualify for any help. CPS was never involved.  I spent about $15k several years ago n got custody but it has turned into something that has really taken a toll on both of our lives. Neither of us want to continue on it's too much.

[SpringIsHereVA]

I am thinking of you @AndSolomTX and hope you have a day of peace my friend.  💛

Take care,

Nicole  👵

[SpringIsHereVA]

@AndSolomTX , I am sorry you are going through this and you BOTH will have to "decide" what to do. Yes, I am sure there will be GUILT but you guys are OLD. In my opinion, TOO MANY GRANDPARENTS are stuck with raising grandkids. This should be THEIR TIME to "visit" them at their home WITH A PARENT(s) and then return home to ENJOY what years are left before they die. IF you are a member of a church, maybe schedule an appointment with them to maybe find some PEACE if you decide to put her in Foster Care. Take care, Nicole 👵

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[*** @AndSolomTX wrote 4/5/25:

Spoiler

Don't know where to turn.

I am raising a troubled 11 almost 12 year old most disrespectful grandchild.  It's too much.  I have spent years giving up my freedom and peace in exchange for constant aggravation disrespect laziness entitled unruly just all around difficult and out of control troubled grandchild.  This kid needs a 2 parent home that will hold her to take responsibility for actions and provide the discipline that she needs.  I don't know where to turn. We have already been in counseling, therapist, psychiatrist, medications....it's all just futile.  My life is miserable. It kills me to think of actually driving her to some foster care place but I also don't know what to do with this overwhelming bad situation.

I make too much to qualify for any help. CPS was never involved.  I spent about $15k several years ago n got custody but it has turned into something that has really taken a toll on both of our lives. Neither of us want to continue on it's too much. ***]

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[AndSolomTX]

Thank you, one day it’s unbearable then things seem semi ok for a spell.  It’s back and forth. I guess we both have a lot to contend with.

[SpringIsHereVA]

@AndSolomTX , you are doing the best you can dear friend - NEVER forget that!!!  💛

Take care,

Nicole  👵

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[*** @AndSolomTX wrote 4/14/25:

Thank you, one day it’s unbearable then things seem semi ok for a spell.  It’s back and forth. I guess we both have a lot to contend with. ***]

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