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[SummerOnTheWay1]

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Grief & Loss Team  🤗

[MichelleC103656]

He looks so comfy and cozy. What a lucky boy! 🐈😸😻😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Friday 3/20/26] Thanks Michelle @MichelleC103656 and when you can (as usual NO pressure) would luv a picture of your three darlings!!! 😉

[MichelleC103656]

That is so funny. I thought that I had sent you pictures of them. I just took some now. Bristol is a Lynx Point. She was upstairs. Stewie is drinking out of our birdbath. Nova is watching it rain. Stew and Nova are Manx cats. They don't have much of a tail. It is just a little puff of fur.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Monday 4/27/26]

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , I know you are dealing with ALOT OF LOSS dear friend but wanted to say - Mister sends his "usual" luv to your TOTALLY ADORABLE threesome (Bristol, Stewie, Nova). NO pressure to stop by, but you are ALWAYS welcome here.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

That is so funny. I thought that I had sent you pictures of them. I just took some now. Bristol is a Lynx Point. She was upstairs. Stewie is drinking out of our birdbath. Nova is watching it rain. Stew and Nova are Manx cats. They don't have much of a tail. It is just a little puff of fur. 📸[***3 PICTURES ATTACHED]

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[MichelleC103656]

Hey Nicole! It is always so nice to hear from you! I have thought of you and Mister so many times over the last few days. The last few months have been so terrible and awful. Some days are okay. I don't think about everything. I try to live a normal life. Other days, I don't want to get out of bed. The loss,grief, and the sadness are all just too much. One death in our family would have been bad enough. Three in a matter of months is too many. It seems unthinkable. It is like a bad dream, a nightmare that I can't wake up from or escape. Friends try to be nice. I appreciate their help and sympathy. I know that it comes from a good place. It is all just a lot to deal with and try to understand. No one understands until it happens to them. Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much. My crew and I send hugs and Luv back to you and Mister. We are trying to get by a little more every day. We take it hour by hour and day by day. It is so hard when you have been used to having someone in your life,and then,they are just gone. I like to think about them all being together somewhere waiting for us. That is what gets me through the day. I want to believe so badly that we all will be together again, somewhere, somehow. Okay,I am making myself cry,again. Thank you for reaching out to me, Nicole. Luv and hugs to you and Mister. 🤗🐈😸🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

*** was not sure if you saw this 👍

[Tuesday 4/28/26]

IT WAS SO GOOD HEARING FROM YOU!!!

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , it is SO HARD "continuing" on at times.

And YES, we do the "best" we can.

My daughter & Mister are what keeps me "getting up" EACH day.

You are SO BRAVE dear friend & you are "trying" to come to grip with your losses.

I guess there is NO "easy" solution but 1 Step At A Time. Some days/nights, will "convince" us that we are NOT going to "survive" our loss.

But we somehow do.

And yes, I feel we will ALWAYS have those moments of "tears" & should NEVER "feel" guilty. All part of our healing.

Of late, my dreams are FULL of luv ones I lost. ‌😭‌ Then I wake up "drained & sad". But somehow I keep stepping for the luv ones who are STILL HERE with me.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌  (Grief Team)

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote TUESDAY 4/28/26:

Hey Nicole! It is always so nice to hear from you! I have thought of you and Mister so many times over the last few days. The last few months have been so terrible and awful. Some days are okay. I don't think about everything. I try to live a normal life. Other days, I don't want to get out of bed. The loss,grief, and the sadness are all just too much. One death in our family would have been bad enough. Three in a matter of months is too many. It seems unthinkable. It is like a bad dream, a nightmare that I can't wake up from or escape. Friends try to be nice. I appreciate their help and sympathy. I know that it comes from a good place. It is all just a lot to deal with and try to understand. No one understands until it happens to them. Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much. My crew and I send hugs and Luv back to you and Mister. We are trying to get by a little more every day. We take it hour by hour and day by day. It is so hard when you have been used to having someone in your life,and then,they are just gone. I like to think about them all being together somewhere waiting for us. That is what gets me through the day. I want to believe so badly that we all will be together again, somewhere, somehow. Okay,I am making myself cry,again. Thank you for reaching out to me, Nicole. Luv and hugs to you and Mister. 🤗🐈😸🐱😺

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[MichelleC103656]

Hey Nicole! I just received your message a little while ago. That happens sometimes. Messages get delayed. I don't know why. You said that I was brave. I don't feel brave. I mostly feel guilty. I feel guilty for things that I didn't do and say. I feel guilty for not helping my parents more. Even though, I was really the only one in the family that was always there to help. I still feel that I could have and should have done more. I feel guilty about our little Brea. It is not fair that she died so young. She had so much more to do. She had a whole lifetime ahead of her. I feel guilty about being so sad and sometimes forgetting that her parents are the real and true victims. It is a vicious cycle that seems to have no end. Jim and I are going to just have a nice quiet Sunday. The last few months I have been trying not to do much of anything on Sundays. My parents always used to rest and relax on Sundays. Mom used to say that it was the only day that they didn't work. Thank you for your support and kind words, Nicole. It means so much to us. Luv and hugs to you and Mister from me and The Crew!🤗🐈🙂😸😻🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 5/3/26]

Yes those REGRETS dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 !!!

I "struggle" with that myself and finally coming to terms that while I CANNOT change the past - I sure can MAKE SURE I donot "repeat" what I NOW regret.

I guess, to "honor" the luv ones we "lost" is one way of dealing with MISSING THEM EVERY DAY. 👍

You and Jim making Sundays a day of "rest" sounds good to me. 👍

Oh yes, I spent ALOT of time with my Maternal Grandparents who did that. Then Mondays, they would be back to their business RECHARGED. Hard workers. Grandpops died in his sleep after walking home from work one night. Busses were on strike and he refused his son's offer of a ride. He NEVER drove. He was 84 when he died. Mamamae died at 104 in the home they built and moved into when they got married. A spunky & fun lady who lived her life FULL OF PASSION.

My inspiration to do the same. 😉

Mister is all snuggled up in my bed. Yes, Winter returned this morning in the 30's. ⛄️ But thankful NO snow and Spring returns tomorrow.

Oh, found a Honda CRV. Will be back on the road sometime THIS MONTH. 🙃💃

It has been a VERY LONG 7 months of not driving. Lol, between my old lady (car) needing a Head Gasket, then falling on Black Ice (6 weeks in cast, 10 weeks in walking boot) - I "is" ready to hit the road. Will NOT be home much!!! 😅

Being stuck in my Studio Apt really was depressing and had way TOO MUCH time to dwell on my loss.

Then it will be finding seeds for my garden. My therapy!!! 🌻

Luv to Bristol 🐈, Stewie 🐈 and Nova 🐈 from Mister 🐈.

My "Meals on Wheels" lady, Ms. Barbara has been sending him food. They get "donations" at my LOA (local office of aging).

And the LOA van has been taking me once a week to Kroger and to Medical appts. SO GRATEFUL!!!

ALWAYS so good hearing from you my friend.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗💛

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Hey Nicole! I just received your message a little while ago. That happens sometimes. Messages get delayed. I don't know why. You said that I was brave. I don't feel brave. I mostly feel guilty. I feel guilty for things that I didn't do and say. I feel guilty for not helping my parents more. Even though, I was really the only one in the family that was always there to help. I still feel that I could have and should have done more. I feel guilty about our little Brea. It is not fair that she died so young. She had so much more to do. She had a whole lifetime ahead of her. I feel guilty about being so sad and sometimes forgetting that her parents are the real and true victims. It is a vicious cycle that seems to have no end. Jim and I are going to just have a nice quiet Sunday. The last few months I have been trying not to do much of anything on Sundays. My parents always used to rest and relax on Sundays. Mom used to say that it was the only day that they didn't work. Thank you for your support and kind words, Nicole. It means so much to us. Luv and hugs to you and Mister from me and The Crew!🤗🐈🙂😸😻🐱😺

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[MichelleC103656]

 I am trying to do just that. I have to remember what I did right and what went wrong. And then, don't make the same mistakes. We have been planting flowers and trees to honor our lost loved ones. That was what my parents always did. It hurts to remember them,but then, many times it makes me smile and laugh. I remember something funny or sweet that they said or did. I am trying to make them all proud. That is so sad about your grandfather. My grandparents were the same way. They all lived into their 80s,except for my maternal grandfather. He was killed in a car accident when my Mom was a baby. Yes, Winter has been here this week and last night. We even had a little snow. It used to be that May 1st was the sweet spot that my father and I used to look forward to. It meant no more snow, finally. Some years now, we still get snow into May. And, Winter had already started early. Here is the crazy thing about our weather. Last night, it was 32 and snowing. Tomorrow and Tuesday it is supposed to be sunny and in the 70s. That is great news about the car. Being home and having too much time on your hands can definitely be very depressing. Bristol, Stew,and Nova say Hi to you and Mister. They help so much, especially Bristol. She has always came and sat with me whenever I was sad and crying, ever since she was a kitten. That is wonderful, too, about food for Mister. I had no idea that they provided that. I am going to close for now. I have been upstairs. I have to go see where everyone is and what they are doing. Thank you for everything, Nicole!  It is always a bright spot in my day hearing from you. So much Luv and Hugs to you and Mister! 🤗🐈🤗🙂😸🐱😺😻

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 5/3/26]

Thank you SO MUCH for caring Michelle @MichelleC103656 & I am SO PROUD of you and Jim on "trying" to move forward!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗💛

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

 I am trying to do just that. I have to remember what I did right and what went wrong. And then, don't make the same mistakes. We have been planting flowers and trees to honor our lost loved ones. That was what my parents always did. It hurts to remember them,but then, many times it makes me smile and laugh. I remember something funny or sweet that they said or did. I am trying to make them all proud. That is so sad about your grandfather. My grandparents were the same way. They all lived into their 80s,except for my maternal grandfather. He was killed in a car accident when my Mom was a baby. Yes, Winter has been here this week and last night. We even had a little snow. It used to be that May 1st was the sweet spot that my father and I used to look forward to. It meant no more snow, finally. Some years now, we still get snow into May. And, Winter had already started early. Here is the crazy thing about our weather. Last night, it was 32 and snowing. Tomorrow and Tuesday it is supposed to be sunny and in the 70s. That is great news about the car. Being home and having too much time on your hands can definitely be very depressing. Bristol, Stew,and Nova say Hi to you and Mister. They help so much, especially Bristol. She has always came and sat with me whenever I was sad and crying, ever since she was a kitten. That is wonderful, too, about food for Mister. I had no idea that they provided that. I am going to close for now. I have been upstairs. I have to go see where everyone is and what they are doing. Thank you for everything, Nicole!  It is always a bright spot in my day hearing from you. So much Luv and Hugs to you and Mister! 🤗🐈🤗🙂😸🐱😺😻

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[MichelleC103656]

Thank you So Much for caring about us and so many others here! We are Very Proud of you,too. Jim and I know that we have to keep trying for the kids,grandchildren, and the furbabies. Last night, Jim was saying that we don't live in a movie. Our loved ones aren't coming back. But, we can still keep trying to have a happy ending. That is what we are going to keep doing. We have to keep going. Again, Thank You So Much, Nicole!  Luv and Hugs! 🤗🙂😻🐈😸😺🐱

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 5/3/26]

You are welcome Michelle @MichelleC103656 and I AGREE with Jim. I luv that OUR GROUP "support" each other. 1 step at a time dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗💛

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Thank you So Much for caring about us and so many others here! We are Very Proud of you,too. Jim and I know that we have to keep trying for the kids,grandchildren, and the furbabies. Last night, Jim was saying that we don't live in a movie. Our loved ones aren't coming back. But, we can still keep trying to have a happy ending. That is what we are going to keep doing. We have to keep going. Again, Thank You So Much, Nicole!  Luv and Hugs! 🤗🙂😻🐈😸😺🐱

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[MichelleC103656]

Support is very important these days. So many people need and want it. I am so glad that I found you and this support group. Every little bit helps. Happy Sunday to you and Mister!  I hope that everyone has a wonderful week. Talk to you again soon!🙂😸🐱😻😺🤗🐈

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 5/3/26]

I look forward to hearing from you Michelle @MichelleC103656 !!! Luv, Nicole 💛🤗

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Support is very important these days. So many people need and want it. I am so glad that I found you and this support group. Every little bit helps. Happy Sunday to you and Mister!  I hope that everyone has a wonderful week. Talk to you again soon!🙂😸🐱😻😺🤗🐈

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[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Friday 3/20/26] Michelle @MichelleC103656 they are ADORABLE!!! 🐈🐈🐈

[MichelleC103656]

They know it. They are very spoiled. Bristol is going to be 16 in 2 weeks. Stew will be 7 in July. Nova will be 6 in April. 

[MichelleC103656]

I think that our Stewie looks something like your Mister. Their coat colors are similar.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Friday 3/20/26]

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 ,  WE are "thinking" about you TODAY!!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗 🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MichelleC103656]

Good Morning, Nicole!  I have been thinking about you ,too. I hope that you are doing better. It was good news that you will soon not be needing your walking boot and be getting another car.

I was so happy that it was the first day of Spring. Then, I  received a message that Chuck Norris had died. My Mom and I used to watch his show "Walker, Texas Ranger". I still watch an episode or two every so often. My Mom used to call him "The Kicker ". I was thinking how sad she would have been to learn of his passing. I am going to have to end this message. I am starting to cry,and I am having trouble seeing and typing. It is always wonderful to hear from you, Nicole!  Hugs and Luv to you and Mister!  🐈🤗😸😻😺🐱

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Saturday 3/7/26]

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656  , WE ARE THINKING about you my friend!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗 🤗 🤗 (Grief Forum)

[MichelleC103656]

Hey,Nicole! I was just thinking about you last night and wondering how you are. We just came in from outside. It had started raining. It had been sunny and 72. It was a beautiful day. I just gave the furbabies their dinner. Stewie decided to go back out. Bristol is upstairs. Nova is napping. I hope that you and your Mister are doing better. It is always wonderful to hear from you. 🤗🐈😸😻🙂😺🐱

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎   [Saturday 3/7/26] Hi Michelle @MichelleC103656 , lol - Spring is here in Virginia and this old lady has been "kicked to the curb" = Mister is back OUTSIDE hiding in the bushes between me and my neighbor. Yesterday was his LAST day of hanging out with me. 😪

Comes in to EAT, then leaves. 😅

Guess I will have to WAIT for a "rainy" day to have the honor of his company ALL DAY. 😉

GOOD NEWS!!! A guy from our local Automotive School is going to find a vehicle for me. Said Hyundais get MAJOR issues after 100,000 miles. My 2006 Hyundai Elantra is up to 185,100 miles. It will be very HARD saying goodbye to my girl, but replacing a Head Gasket is about $3,000.00. 😱

I go for xrays on the 31st. Hoping to get rid of my Walking Boot then. 🤞

Luv,

Nicole 🤗 

[MichelleC103656]

I am so glad that things are getting better. It must be so difficult walking and getting around to do anything. I need to have my hip done sometime. I am not looking forward to that. I keep putting it off until a better time, but does that actually exist?  It is sometimes sad to let our vehicles go when we have had them for so long. They become like a member of the family. Stew and Nova spend most of the day outdoors when the weather is nice. They only come in to go to the bathroom, eat,and finally to sleep at night. The crock pot is bubbling over on the counter, I had better go check it out. You and Mister take care!  Hugs and Luv to you both! 🤗🐈😻😸🙂🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎   [Saturday 3/7/26] Hmmm Michelle @MichelleC103656 , interesting as Mister "refuses" to use the litterbox I got him.

As far as sleeping inside at night, depends on the weather of course.

Oh NO!!! Have never had hip replaced but I have heard from folks who have. NOT fun at all. So sorry about this. 😪

*** Please keep me posted. Fingers crossed when you do "decide" to have it done - the process goes smoothly.

I am hoping to be able to drive in time to go to Dollar Tree after Easter to get my seeds. Can't beat 4 packs for a $1. 💃

Mister sends his luv as usual & GLAD your furbabies are well. 🐈💛🐈💛🐈💛

Nicole 🤗 

[MichelleC103656]

My Mom had both of her hips done years ago. The right one was nice and easy. It healed fast and good. We think that she waited too long to have the left one done. It never healed correctly. She had to use a cane or walker until the end. I will keep you updated. Thank you for the kind words. Oh, the litter box, we bought Bristol a couple new ones. She takes turns deciding to use one ,the other, or both. Okay, Jim just called from the grocery store. He was wondering what kind of ice cream to get for dessert. It is usually some kind of chocolate. I will say bye for now. Talk to you again soon! Hugs and Luv to you and Mister!  🤗🐈

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Saturday 3/7/26]

Dear James @JamesK33 , WE ARE THINKING about you my friend!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗 🤗 🤗 (Grief Forum)

[JamesK33]

The weather in North Carolina is just excellent!  It's around 4:30 in the afternoon and I was just thinking that today was a happy one.  I had both busy and lazy moments. 

The past week marked the two-year anniversary of my wife's passing.  I visited the grave site and placed springtime flowers.  I spoke with some of my friends and her friends. I miss my sweet lady, but I am working to rebuild my life. One that is different but yet familiar.  Does that make any sense?

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌📎   ONE STEP may mean making sure YOU EAT today/tonight.

Sometimes OUR interest in food is gone along with the energy to face EACH day/night.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

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@SummerOnTheWay1 wrote:

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌👣‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  ONE STEP may mean making sure YOU EAT today/tonight.

Sometimes OUR interest in food is gone along with the energy to face EACH day/night.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

Nicole, I agree. It's definitely a challenge to keep up with a healthy diet. A frozen

meal, though processed, is better than chips or a candy bar. Add a salad, ready made. A few days of eating poorly takes the body  a while to catch up. There are also outreach programs like Meals on Wheels and Senior food resources to look into. Anyway, good luck to everyone on this topic! Taking care of ourselves is a weight lifted from the shoulders of those who love and care about us.

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[ChrisHarbuck101]

It has been 18 months since my loss. I'm grateful for the healing so far and look forward to happy days ahead!