WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

[SummerOnTheWay1]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Grief & Loss Team  🤗

[SummerOnTheWay1]

Allowing EMOTIONAL release: Cry, journal, talk, or use art to express feelings.

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌➡️‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌[*** Sometimes we may feel we are on a Rollercoaster Ride. But like those rides, we will have "opportunities" to get off our ride. TREASURE those "opportunities" & know with time we will have MORE "peaceful" moments. ‌‌

[SummerOnTheWay1]

🪔   You might NEED to do these!!!

(1) Write a NEW will and UPDATE your advance care planning.

(2) Look into a durable power of attorney for legal matters and health care in case you are unable to make your own medical decisions in the future.

(3) Put JOINT property (such as a house or car) in your name.

(4) Consider changes you may need to make to your health insurance as well as to your life, car, and homeowner’s insurance.

(5) Make a list of BILLS you will need to pay in the next few months, for example, your rent or mortgage; utilities such as electricity, water, and phone and internet services; insurance; and state and federal taxes.

*** Try NOT to "stress" and take 1 step at a time!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌👥‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌    It is OKAY to "hide" on those days/nights when YOU FEEL unable to deal with people.

With time YOU WILL be able to get out, spend time with family/friends.

Just let THEM KNOW and those who REALLY CARE will "respect" this much needed "time away" = they will still REACH OUT, but with NO pressure to see them (or talk to them).

I luv those THINKING ABOUT YOU texts from caring folks in my life. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole   ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   (Grief Forum)‌‌

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💡‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   PARENTS who lost their "other" half!!!

For those of us [I am one] who are parenting on OUR OWN, remember no matter how old our children are - THEY NEED US.

So take care of yourself (medical appointments, sleep, eat, hydrate and so on) FOR THEM. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌ ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌👣‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.

Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.

Why?

WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.

It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.

It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌📌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   Grief CHANGES You!!!

Grief may alter your perspective on life, priorities, and beliefs.

*** Sometimes it "reminds" us to make time for the people we CARE about TODAY (who are still alive). Tomorrow is NOT "promised" to any of us. Yes, GRIEVE for the one you lost but MAKE TIME for the ones YOU CARE about who are STILL LIVING. Nicole ‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌👍‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌

[SummerOnTheWay1]

RUSHING or IGNORING Grief!!!

Do not force yourself to get over it quickly. Grief has no timeline, and suppressing it can make it RESURFACE later in DESTRUCTIVE ways.

‌‌‌‌‌‌➡️‌‌‌‌‌‌[*** Let things "fall in place" as you EXPERIENCE your grief. Feeling EACH emotion helps with our HEALING. It takes time & patience my friend. You will SURVIVE!!! Luv, Nicole ‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌

[SummerOnTheWay1]

MEN and Grief!!!

Research shows men may suffer more intensely after losing a spouse, often requiring specific outreach and support.

[rl1874]

This coming August it will be three years since I lost my husband. This year has been so hard as I look for my identity. 
Health has not been the best, I’ve needed to make decisions………feeling so overwhelmed. 💕🦋💕

[agoyer]

@rl1874 I'm so sorry for your loss and I know it takes time to re-focus and figure out who we are without our loved ones - figure out how to do life differently. 

I wrote this column (link below) for AARP 3 yrs after my dad died - so I was right about where you are now. My mom and sister and niece had also all died. At three years I was just starting to feel a bit like myself again. 8 years later I still feel a bit lost but also have joy and fun and purpose in my life. I'll always miss them and life will never be the same, but it can be good. 

I hope my column will be helpful to you! Finding purpose in grief https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/life-balance/finding-purpose-after-caregiving-ends/ 

Take care,

Amy Goyer, AARP National Family & Caregiving Expert

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Tuesday 7/28/26]

Dear @rl1874 , I am SO SORRY for your loss dear friend!!!

It does NOT matter how many YEARS it has been, we miss them.

Lost mine to COVID & at age 68 this September, have my good & bad days.

Individual Counseling helped me to find BALANCE in a life I NEVER "planned" to be living.

Do you have any family or friends nearby?

Maybe a pet?

My daughter is in ANOTHER "state" from me & boy, it is SO HARD.

Yes, as WE AGE, stuff happens.

Just "try" to do YOUR BEST each day/night. He is WATCHING over you. Luvs you. You will see him again soon.

Meanwhile, take care of your body. Keep those Medical Appts.

And I am "talking" to myself. Finally READY to do a "biopsy" that should have been done LAST YEAR. I owe my "only" child this.

We are ALWAYS here for you!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** RL @rl1874 wrote:

This coming August it will be three years since I lost my husband. This year has been so hard as I look for my identity. 
Health has not been the best, I’ve needed to make decisions………feeling so overwhelmed. 💕🦋💕

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@MichelleC103656 @mc6844 @SummerOnTheWay1 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Wednesday 8/5/26]

Dear @rl1874  , WE are here whenever you need us dear friend!

WE have lost people we CARED about & have found the "support" here COMFORTING.

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Saturday 8/1/26]

Dear @rl1874 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Saturday 8/1/26]

Dear @rl1874 , WE hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[veronicaalmarzooq]

Hubby passed Three months ago. Pain and longing is getting harder and harder to  bear. Loneliness and insecurities of living alone  make it even harder. Need comforting words and people who understand.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Wednesday 8/5/26]

Dear Veronica @veronicaalmarzooq , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear Veronica @veronicaalmarzooq  , WE are here whenever you need us dear friend!

WE have lost people we CARED about & have found the "support" here COMFORTING.

Luv,

Nicole ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear Veronica @veronicaalmarzooq , WE hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌ 

[JosephineG261368]

veronica

i understand how you feel.  I lost my husband 7 weeks ago and am still very raw.  The silence in the house is deafening.  I saw a grief counselor at a nearby hospice yesterday and it gave me some peace.  One suggestion he had was to get a binder with dividers and start writing memories.  Give each section a title…foods he liked…trips we took…activities we enjoyed…whatever fits for you.  Maybe you could think about trying it.  

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Wednesday 8/5/26]

Dear Josephine @JosephineG261368   , WE are here whenever you need us dear friend

WE have lost people we CARED about & have found the "support" here COMFORTING.

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear Josephine @JosephineG261368 , WE hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌ 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear Josephine @JosephineG261368 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[JaneCares]

Hello, Veronica.

Grief is the gift that keeps on giving. It is SO HARD. You know that already. I wonder if finding a grief group might help you. Is there a hospice near you? Many hospices welcome other people who are grieving to their bereavement groups, which are free. When you are feeling so tearful and wounded, it's hard to make calls and say, "I saw your group offers a bereavement group, could i come?" and then here, no its a closed group, we'll start another in 12 weeks.. . or whatever. But, the isolation of deep grief will be soothed. Do you belong to a worship community? Perhaps the minister or rabbit or imam can support you and suggest you start a group: there are always people who are carrying grief. 

Are there activities that are fun, that he enjoyed too? Perhaps his favorite funny movie? My father loved Grumpy Old Men, so occasionally I'll watch it and shake my head. (Why would Ann Margaret hang out with those two??) And then cry right along.

People here don't post a whole lot but they do understand. What do you think you'd like to do? What feels possible?

Glad you posted. Sorry you're in pain. The pain means you love deeply. But, ouch.

Jane

[edjojr1]

My husband passed away Memorial Day. I had a dream last night that he was back and we were working to reinstate his Social Security and pension.  So vivid.  Having a very tough time today.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[7/19/26] Dear @edjojr1 , I am SO SORRY for your "loss" dear friend!!!

Yes, those "dreams" still take ALOT out of me. In fact, had a "sleepless" night last night.

The "experts" say that DREAMS are the way OUR LUV ONES are "communicating" with us.

Maybe he is letting you know he is okay & ALWAYS with you.

I still have my "good & bad" days after losing the luv of my life to COVID. Thought we would GROW OLD "together".

Some of us have found Counseling helps us to find a "balance" as WE TRY to "figure" out OUR LIFE.

Do you have any family or friends nearby?

My "only" child is in another state (Florida). I am in Virginia. Plan to move back to Florida when I can NO longer drive or live alone. I am 68 this September.

IF you are a Senior, and IF there are any Senior Centers near you - maybe try visiting them. I thought about "trying" mine here AGAIN, but gas is just TOO HIGH. A few years ago I had "visited" one, but was NOT "ready" to deal with the "personalities". Yes, that is life, we will encounter "challenging" people in our lives.

Counseling for a FEW MONTHS helped me & Medicare paid = NEVER received a bill. Just make sure your Primary Care Physician REFERS you. No need to end up with ANOTHER bill to pay in the midst of doing life on YOUR OWN. She let me cry. Get angry. She "helped" me to "release" ALL the emotions I had stored up. Yes, my daughter was & is there for me. But she was ALSO dealing with the "unexpected" loss of her dad.

In ending, I took in a cat I named "Mister" who is fiercely INDEPENDENT, but luving in spite of his humans moving WITHOUT him. 😤 But their loss. My gain. Yes, I MISS him & my daughter EVERY DAY, but my boy was mean't to enter my life. He needed a home. I needed a roommate./lol.

I am SO GLAD you stopped by & hope you will AGAIN.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** @edjojr1 wrote:

My husband passed away Memorial Day. I had a dream last night that he was back and we were working to reinstate his Social Security and pension.  So vivid.  Having a very tough time today.

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➡️[*** Tuesday 7/21/26 TO - @mc6844 , @MichelleC103656 , @SummerOnTheWay1 ]

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Wednesday 8/5/26]

Dear @edjojr1  , WE are here whenever you need us dear friend.

WE have lost people we CARED about & have found the "support" here COMFORTING.

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Sunday 7/26/26]

Dear @edjojr1 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌ (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[7/19/26] Dear @edjojr1 , WE hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[mc6844]

Hi Nicole! So nice to see you, and hello to all on the forum. I'm so sorry for all your losses and read your postings with much 💕 and respect. So glad you are all here in the right place at this stage of your journey. It's so helpful to hear what you have to say. I'm grateful to be able to drop by. It's so convenient too for those with aging issues not having to navigate transportation etc.

[GailF119427]

It's going on 3 years not a day goes by that I don't cry. It would be nice to talk to others that are experiencing the same