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[SummerOnTheWay1]

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Grief & Loss Team  🤗

[dw53874168]

I lost my husband of 49 years in February.  It’s been 6 months now & it just isn’t getting better. I cry every night. I stay so busy during the day just so I don’t think about it. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear @dw53874168 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/26] Dear @dw53874168 , we hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌ 

[l124289r]

I am not convinced "tis better to have loved and lost . . . " but I do envy you and others their long relationships. I have never married, lost my career, was diagnosed with debilitating illnesses, lost my financial security, lost my lifestyle, lost access to passionate pursuits, lost productive occupation, lost my friends, and lost close family connections. I think it would have been rewarding to have a long-term romantic relationship but it would also be one more loss on my "pile." Getting out from under all that has been almost impossible and I actually just try not to lose more. Unfortunately, now I cling to "things" which cost little to maintain and accept me as I am -- at any given moment! After over 20 years of these changes, I still yearn for the life that I felt I was just building and then the rejection and disregard of people I have cared about. Since I turned 65 this month, I would like to accept and finally let go of how I wanted my life to be. What I have is pathetic to me and has been unacceptable but none of my attempts to improve circumstances has worked. I feel that I have no choice but to shut down and give up every little strand left of my past. But since no substitutions have worked either, I feel like a black hole just closing down, collapsing into myself. If not for my dog . . . . 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear @l124289r , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[l124289r]

Most days, "so, so." Thank you; it's nice to be sincerely asked.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear @l124289r , you are welcome my friend.

SO GOOD to hear from you!!! 👍

Yes, I too have been "challenged" on some days & nights with a few PEACEFUL ONES mixed in.

Keep stepping. It will get BETTER as you "figure" out ways to obtain PEACE in the "midst" of our life's journey.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** L @l124289r wrote:

Most days, "so, so." Thank you; it's nice to be sincerely asked.

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[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/26] Dear @l124289r , we hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌ 

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm sure your life has touched others in helpful ways you haven't thought of. You are doing well sharing your thoughts and emotions here. Please keep stopping by the forum. Your sharing helps others find the way forward in their grief too! Take care

[SereneSeagull]

Hi, your post touched me.  I don’t know if I have any words that would comfort you, but I do want to tell you that I read your post and I’m sorry for the things that are so overwhelming for you.

What kind of dog do you have?

 I’m a cat person, myself.  Although our cat is not a dog, we try and teach it tricks!  It knows many words, but the best is when we say “squirrel”, he’ll come dashing in the room eager to see it from the window!   

Pets can be a great comfort.  I think many times more than people, if that makes any sense.  I hope your precious dog brings you comfort and love as well.  They can sense we need something too!

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. 49 yrs is a long time. I'm so glad you're stopping in at this forum. There are good people here who have gone through and experiencing what you're going through. Each time you're here you can leave a bit of grief and hopefully feel a little lighter. For those of us who were married young and/or in long relationships we learn new ways of doing things.  A counselor is a good idea. If you're not up to in person then there are online options. It's great that you're teaching out on this forum. The focus is on grief.  This helps us not to ignore our grief. Please take care!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 [8/27/25]@dw53874168 , I am so sorry for your loss dear friend!!!

IF you have any "questions" we do have two totally AWESOME AARP Experts who stop by to SUPPORT us. Jane @JaneCares & Amy @agoyer have also lost people they cared about.

WE are here whenever you NEED us ALWAYS.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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@dw53874168 wrote:

I lost my husband of 49 years in February.  It’s been 6 months now & it just isn’t getting better. I cry every night. I stay so busy during the day just so I don’t think about it. 

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[CeciliaH401383]

I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband and I were married for 52 years when I lost him on Thanksgiving almost 6 years ago. The pain is still there, but it’s manageable, and changes. We just keep doing one day at a time. Some are really hard still, but some are ok too. I’m lucky to have good friends, and family nearby. I hope you have someone who is a willing ear. Two of my closest friends are also widows, and I find it easier to be open with them, because they understand. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear Cecilia @CeciliaH401383 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/26] Dear Cecilia @CeciliaH401383 , we hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌ 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

👋   MAY 2026 OUR GROUP "online" WELLNESS CHECK!!!

WE are thinking about YOU. How are you doing TODAY? Grief & Loss Team 🤗

GROUP MEMBERS - @mc6844 , @dw53874168 , @l124289r , @CeciliaH401383 , @MichelleC103656 , @PaulW643687 , @JoeJ415665  , @jbar4650 , @sandyslaga , @JamesK33 , @LaurelH1933 , @BillD916633 , @d54062e , @Xheved , @ChrisHarbuck101 , @thespina , @NonieS198048 , @Sstholder , @BocaWoman , @HighDesertLolly , @DenaAria , @MarianS446683 

[DenaAria]

Thank you for thinking of me. When it gets lonely, it's nice to know I'm not alone. 🩷

[JamesK33]

 I have been doing much better during the past several weeks.  That said, I went into a tailspin following the anniversary of my wife's death in early March.  I believe the source of my problem was a loss of hope.  But finally realized that my cup overflows with blessings if I will only stop and pay attention.  Thanks for checking on me.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/36] Dear James @JamesK33 , WE are "thinking" about YOU!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[JamesK33]

Thank you!!  Continue to do well and even plan to join a church this weekend.

[MichelleC103656]

I have been sad the last few days. I am thinking about my granddaughter, Brea, and my Mom and mother-in-law. They all won't be with our family on Sunday for Mother's Day. I feel very sad for my daughter, Katie, because this will be her first Mother's Day without Brea. I have been feeling very lost and out of it. I will try to put on a happy face for the other kids and my husband. I hope that everyone that can will have a Happy Mother's Day. It is always wonderful to hear from you, Nicole! Hugs and Luv to you and Mister from me and the Crew! 🙂🤗🐈😻😸🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Wednesday 5/6/26]

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , I can only imagine what you are going through my friend.

It is bad enough when we lose ONE person, but here you and Jim are dealing with THREE at the SAME time.

Yes, we expect to lose our parents as they age. But it is still AWFUL & SAD. 😭

With losing your granddaughter Brea, I still cannot wrap my head around this. Way TOO YOUNG!!! 😤

I hope the driver who killed her knows what he did. Taken a young life from her family. 😭

Mister 🐈 sends his luv to Bristol 🐈, Stewie 🐈 and Nova 🐈. He has been outside since having lunch ignoring my calling him. Like Stewie, luvs being outside. It rained earlier and we needed it. We are below what we usually have and lots of warnings about wildfires.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗💛

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

I have been sad the last few days. I am thinking about my granddaughter, Brea, and my Mom and mother-in-law. They all won't be with our family on Sunday for Mother's Day. I feel very sad for my daughter, Katie, because this will be her first Mother's Day without Brea. I have been feeling very lost and out of it. I will try to put on a happy face for the other kids and my husband. I hope that everyone that can will have a Happy Mother's Day. It is always wonderful to hear from you, Nicole! Hugs and Luv to you and Mister from me and the Crew! 🙂🤗🐈😻😸🐱😺

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[MichelleC103656]

Hey,Nicole! Yes, it has all been way too much. It has months of neverending pain and grief. This is another horrible and bad thing. The guy that killed our granddaughter and injured her friend and the friend's parents has still not been charged with anything. We keep calling and checking in with the police and investigators. They just keep saying that it is an ongoing investigation. It has made it even more heartbreaking. It is ridiculous. It angers and upsets us. We don't understand. We know that he was speeding. We don't know if he was also drunk, on drugs, texting, had a medical emergency, or what. We can't get any answers. I was just thinking that we should call our local news stations and ask them to investigate. It seems like the police are hiding something or keeping secrets. It all just makes Brea's death that much worse. No one is being punished, unless you count her friends and family. It is yet another unfair and unjust part of life. Thank you for your thoughts and kind words. Luv and Hugs to you and Mister from me and mine! 🤗🐈😸😻🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

 [Wednesday 5/6/26]

Oh YES dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , these days here in Virginia with weed being LEGAL & cops NO longer "allowed" to pull someone over when they SMELL WEED from them = I NO longer enjoy driving. But will have to venture out to keep my sanity next week when I pick up my new vehicle. It has been 7 months of being "chauffeured" and even with being a BACKSEAT driver was a nervous wreck by the time my old a.s made it back home. I thanked the totally awesome & careful 3 LOA (local office of aging) guys who pick me up every Monday for groceries at Kroger.

*** Yes, I would contact your local media. This man needs to be OFF THE STREETS. 😤😤😤

So sorry about all this dear friend,

Nicole 🤗💛

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Hey,Nicole! Yes, it has all been way too much. It has months of neverending pain and grief. This is another horrible and bad thing. The guy that killed our granddaughter and injured her friend and the friend's parents has still not been charged with anything. We keep calling and checking in with the police and investigators. They just keep saying that it is an ongoing investigation. It has made it even more heartbreaking. It is ridiculous. It angers and upsets us. We don't understand. We know that he was speeding. We don't know if he was also drunk, on drugs, texting, had a medical emergency, or what. We can't get any answers. I was just thinking that we should call our local news stations and ask them to investigate. It seems like the police are hiding something or keeping secrets. It all just makes Brea's death that much worse. No one is being punished, unless you count her friends and family. It is yet another unfair and unjust part of life. Thank you for your thoughts and kind words. Luv and Hugs to you and Mister from me and mine! 🤗🐈😸😻🐱😺

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[MichelleC103656]

Thanks, Nicole. New York is terrible about getting people arrested and charged with so many crimes. Even when they do finally catch someone, they end up releasing them on appearance tickets. Too many of those people don't show up for future court dates and go on to commit more crimes. I don't know why I didn't think of it sooner. I guess because I had way too many other things on my mind. A lot of people are on the news for different reasons that they couldn't get help and asked the reporters to help them get some answers. I know what you mean about being nervous about driving. There are so many bad and dangerous people on the roads. We have came so close to being hit head on and in the sides way too many times. It is just as bad or worse being driven around, because you can't do anything to make the people drive better and smarter. You are at their mercy. Thank you, again, Nicole, for your support and kind words!  Hugs and Luv! 🤗🙂😻🐈😸🐱😺

[SummerOnTheWay1]

 [Wednesday 5/6/26]

You are welcome dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 and thank you SO MUCH for being a "part" of OUR GROUP!!!

Between 2023 and 2024, I "hid" at home and finally "surfaced" in 2025 = started to WANT to see what was OUTSIDE my 4 walls. Then the Head Gasket drama & broken ankle "clipped" my old wings from October 2025 to now (May 2026). Part of me NEEDS to get back out there and still MISSING my "Old Lady" (2006 Hyundai Elantra 185,217 miles). It was like losing a family member. 😭

All WE CAN DO, is 1 step at a time.

And for the "youngsters" now in OUR lives, I guess WE NEED to continue on. I know this "mentally" in my head, but it is SO HARD to be willing to step out. See what EACH day has for us.

SO GLAD you have Jim by YOUR side & your fur baby crew. I am SO GRATEFUL for my daughter & Mister.

As you said, they KNOW just what WE NEED. Mister has returned & passed out beside me. My boy!

Luv,

Nicole 💛🤗

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Thanks, Nicole. New York is terrible about getting people arrested and charged with so many crimes. Even when they do finally catch someone, they end up releasing them on appearance tickets. Too many of those people don't show up for future court dates and go on to commit more crimes. I don't know why I didn't think of it sooner. I guess because I had way too many other things on my mind. A lot of people are on the news for different reasons that they couldn't get help and asked the reporters to help them get some answers. I know what you mean about being nervous about driving. There are so many bad and dangerous people on the roads. We have came so close to being hit head on and in the sides way too many times. It is just as bad or worse being driven around, because you can't do anything to make the people drive better and smarter. You are at their mercy. Thank you, again, Nicole, for your support and kind words!  Hugs and Luv! 🤗🙂😻🐈😸🐱😺

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[MichelleC103656]

I am so glad to have found you and the Group. Losing our loved ones has been the worst, but finding others who understand and can relate really helps so much. I know what you mean about hiding. I do it some days. I will just stay upstairs and sit in my chair. It was hard to get out of bed, and I don't want to go anywhere or see anyone. I just want to sit and not do anything. Jim,our families, and the furbabies help so much. I couldn't imagine going through everything all by myself. I am glad that you have your daughter and Mister. It has been so nice chatting with you, as always. We had dinner a little while ago, macaroni and tomatoes. It was so ironic. I had been thinking about it, and Jim suggested it. It used to be a favorite dish of my Mom's. Then, he said that his Mom used to make it. I think it was them sending us a message. I am always looking for messages and meaning in things. My sister, Debbie, and I always say that when Cardinals come around, it is because our parents knew that we were thinking about them. I have to close for now. We have dishes to finish. Thanks for being here, Nicole. I look forward to chatting again real soon. Hugs and Luv to you and Mister! 🤗🐈 Oh,you said Mister came in, and Stewie just asked to go out again. It has been in the 40s and raining. 🌧We are So Sick and Tired of the rain. 🌂Okay,I must go. Bye for now!  👋😺🐱😸

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/26] Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , WE are "thinking" about YOU!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[MichelleC103656]

Hey,Nicole! It is always so nice to hear from you. I hope that you and Mister are feeling better and doing okay. It is very hot here in New York. Thank goodness for air conditioning. We are getting ready for Stewie's birthday. He will be 7 tomorrow. We usually have a little celebration for the cats as if they are children. We buy toys,treats, special food,decorations, signs, candles, and a little cake or cupcake. We are going to get the rest of the stuff tomorrow morning at Walmart. I saw your messages on Father's Day. I was feeling so sad and upset about my Dad. I still miss him and think about him every day. Sunday, the 5th of July, would have been my parents 74th anniversary.They made it to 63 years. I have been feeling sad and missing them. They loved holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. We always combined our 4th of July celebrations and their anniversary. I will wish you and everyone a very Happy 4th of July!  Stay safe and take care!  Luv and Hugs to you and Mister from me and my crew!  🤗🐈😸😻😺🐱🙂

[SummerOnTheWay1]

[6/30/26] Hi Michelle @MichelleC103656 , SO GOOD to hear from you my friend!!!

So our boy Stewie has a birthday. 🎉

Yes, I still "struggle" with the holidays, birthdays but hope one day to be able to "honor" them with something SPECIAL. Maybe do something that they would have liked to do.

Yes, summer is here in Virginia & like you said, grateful to be INSIDE. Lol, ALL the "youngsters" here LUV summer. I use to, but at age 68, it drains me.

Struggling with "missing" my "only" child in Florida but NOT ready to move BACK to deal with the 24/7 heat. 😱

She luvs it, in her 30's & hated Virginia. Lol, left Florida ONE time since being "born" there & swears to NEVER leave again. Me, I stayed when she went back.

You & Jim stay in my thoughts.

Mister 🐈 sends his luv for Stewie, Bristol & Nova. 🐈🐈🐈  He is SO GLAD to have a "vehicle" back out front to "chill" under. Yes, those 7 months of NOT having one was awful. EVERY DAY I thank the "universe" for bringing the folks who "helped" me to find one.

Luv,

Nicole 💛🤗

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➡️[*** MICHELLE @MichelleC103656 wrote:

Hey,Nicole! It is always so nice to hear from you. I hope that you and Mister are feeling better and doing okay. It is very hot here in New York. Thank goodness for air conditioning. We are getting ready for Stewie's birthday. He will be 7 tomorrow. We usually have a little celebration for the cats as if they are children. We buy toys,treats, special food,decorations, signs, candles, and a little cake or cupcake. We are going to get the rest of the stuff tomorrow morning at Walmart. I saw your messages on Father's Day. I was feeling so sad and upset about my Dad. I still miss him and think about him every day. Sunday, the 5th of July, would have been my parents 74th anniversary.They made it to 63 years. I have been feeling sad and missing them. They loved holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. We always combined our 4th of July celebrations and their anniversary. I will wish you and everyone a very Happy 4th of July!  Stay safe and take care!  Luv and Hugs to you and Mister from me and my crew!  🤗🐈😸😻😺🐱🙂

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