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Death of my spouse

My husband died a week before Christmas, and I don't know how to cope with it. It seems to get harder everyday. We were married for 40 years, it hurts so much what do I do

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I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in the right place. There are good and kind people here. Every time you share your grief here you lighten your load and that of others. That makes it a little easier. 

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So very very sorry for your loss.  I hope you are doing a bit better now.

My wife's mom met her husband when she was only 15 years old.  He was the only man she ever dated, then married.  They were deeply in love, married for 60 years, before he passed in his late 80s.

It was so horrible watching her try to cope.

Anyway, I hope you are ok.

If you are troubled, please consider getting into some counseling, and maybe joining a real world grief support group.

Take care now.

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Dear Newbie, I feel your pain and have walked this road as well (and still walking).  Condolences to you on your loss.  40 years is a lifetime and with it comes many memories.  Take it slow.  My husband of 48 years passed right before the holidays in 2021.  It was a tough time for many reasons.  Kelly, post below, shares some helpful thoughts.  As the saying goes, be gentle with yourself.  I often found that phrase to be confusing. But I now think that it means to start thinking of yourself, physically, mentally and spiritually if so inclined.  Try not to mourn alone.  If you can, find a trusted friend, support group, church advisor, etc.  Journaling also helped me to get my thoughts out in a safe place.  I wish you the best and encourage that you read some of the past posts on this site.  Many are written by fellow grievers like you and me and are well-intentioned and caring.  Please continue to stay with us during this difficult time.  Your friend, Sue 

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Kelly, your advice is very sound and has given me some new ideas as well.  It is always helpful to hear other people's experiences and perspectives.  Thank you. Your friend on the grief journey, Sue

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