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[DianeB887812]

THAT put a smile on my face!

I was just dealing with a network issue and the first thing I see is that hug and kiss. 

Thank you my friend. 

[Underbat]

Hello everyone, this thread's purpose is to offer support for those grieving and suffering a loss, wether recent or in the past.

Please keep the thread on topic, and treat EVERYONE with respect.

Please reply in thread to keep it all tidy, and refrain from breaching the guidelines which we expect you all to abide by.

Thanks everyone

[Cadee2719]

  I think sharing thoughts on caring for oneself, making doctor appointments (and the difficulty in doing so), discussing relocating, dealing with finances and life's decisions are all important issues to discuss.  These are all a part of being alone and having to make big decisions for ourselves (perhaps for the very first time).  Once one "accepts" the reality of being alone, it is difficult to have to make these decisions for ourselves ALONE.  Hearing how others do it and have done it has been extremely helpful to me.  Accepting the loss is NOT the end of this journey.  Listening to tapes and reading books does not always offer the personal touch needed at times.   Having someone make us smile and knowing there are people out there that truly do care about you is a gift.

[SpringIsHereVA]

SO GLAD EVERYONE IS DOING SELF CARE!!! KEEP IT UP PLEASE. THIS IS YOUR TIME AFTER YEARS (OR LESS) OF BEING A CAREGIVER.  ‌👍‌‌👍‌👍

Please UPDATE when you can (anymore appointments?  🤔)

Thanks my friends,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[1] Cadee @Cadee2719 - NOVEMBER appointment.

[2] Jonibee @jonibee - SEPTEMBER appointment.

[3] My bloodwork is JULY 24th. My 6-month Dental Cleaning in AUGUST. My 1st Bone Density in NOVEMBER.

[mc6844]

I'm glad you're all taking care of yourselves. I'm still busy with decluttering clearing out a closet. Only got it half done. I'm busy all day with one thing or another. It takes longer to do things and get places now lol. It's good to be prepared. Except I think things happen when they are supposed to. So why should we worry so much. I do know the process itself is no picnic. Just slowing down and enjoy the nice weather, the day itself. Time takes care of many things. 

[DianeB887812]

Talking about self care @SpringIsHereVA @how are those toes?

[SpringIsHereVA]

ANY WEEKEND PLANS?

Weekends I stay in now that I am retired BUT working on some OPTIONS to be ELSEWHERE.

Maybe a Weekend Getaway while I work on moving to a QUIET location which is SAFE & has NATURE to enjoy.

Luv you guys,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I am GLAD that you are working on options to be elsewhere.  I want you to be in a place that is SAFE, QUIET and PEACEFUL.  I know it is hard with the price of rents increasing everywhere.  How long have you lived in Virginia?  Are there other sections of the state that you would like to live in?  Are there places in bordering states that you like?  My weekend will find me staying inside.  It is suppose to be 105 here!!!!!  July is suppose to be the hottest month.  One thing I am thankful of is that the homes are well insulated so the air conditioner does keep the house comfortable.  Being out in the sun makes me lightheaded and the medication I take prohibits me from being out in the sun. So I will either find a good book to read or find a movie to watch.  It will be nice to do NOTHING and relax.   Mr. Cat is simply "training" Nicole on his being there more and more and soon he will be an inside cat.  😂   I think the two of you are meant to be together.  He ❤️ you and you ❤️ him.  Have a Great Weekend.

[SpringIsHereVA]

Cadee @Cadee2719 I TOTALLY LUV my CUTE Studio Apt looking out at the mountains from my hill.

Wish I could MOVE it to a hill of my own.

Being on MEDICARE and NO family in Virginia, I am somewhat concerned. My 1st Medicare doctor is leaving October 18th BEFORE my NEXT appt (#3) in JANUARY 2025.

Yes  made it and as of now showing with her NP who I have NEVER met. They are searching for her REPLACEMENT.

Then my daughter in Florida still unemployed from being laid off 4/11 of this year wanting me CLOSER.

Way TOO MUCH going on/lol.

I MAY try to find a BARTER set up while I WAIT to see WHERE she ends up. She wants to stay in Florida, but....

By bartering I mean maybe trade off housesitting for a TEMPORARY place to stay in PARADISE. Alot of people here RUN to Florida AFTER Thanksgiving, return AFTER Easter. Yes, have TWO homes.

Maybe I can keep an eye on one HERE in the MOUNTAINS during the WINTER.  💃💃💃

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I can tell you are doing your homework.  😁  You are one SMART lady and I am certain you will come up with a solution that will work for you.  

[DianeB887812]

Options are:

1. go back to the dog park

2. go see a movie

3. go to the mall

4. take a boat ride to scatter ashes

I retired 10 years ago. But while I was caring for Stephen I was very busy taking him to lots of doctors, doing the shopping or on the phone resolving some problem with medications or appointments   Now I’m back to Everyday is a weekend day. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Diane @DianeB887812 , what type of MOVIES do you like?  🤔

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE wrote: Options are:

1. go back to the dog park

2. go see a movie

3. go to the mall

4. take a boat ride to scatter ashes

I retired 10 years ago. But while I was caring for Stephen I was very busy taking him to lots of doctors, doing the shopping or on the phone resolving some problem with medications or appointments   Now I’m back to Everyday is a weekend day. ***]

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[DianeB887812]

Fantasy like Lord of the Rings

Period pieces like movies about the English monarchy 

Action/Adventure Like Anything from the Avenger’s universe 

Who done it like Citizen X

Complex mysteries (surprise ending) like Knives Out 

Not into:

Horror

People  doing stupid stuff

people being mean to other people

[SpringIsHereVA]

WHAT'S YOUR WEATHER LIKE?  🤔

Here in Cave Spring, Virginia  ⛈  getting ready to STORM again.  😭😭😭

Time to dig out my PIG brand water absorbent mats for in front of my front door INSIDE.

Not sure what Mr.  🐈  will be doing, but I WILL be TRYING the huge plastic container for his food on my porch. I would put it UNDER my car during storm but the parking lot has guess what - NO DRAINAGE, so it floods.

Anyway, storms for several days and this OLD lady and the OTHER old lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra) is staying home and INSIDE. Lol, no need to go FLOATING down my hill or cannot come up hill.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

I got a little wet this morning at the dog park but the rest of the day was dry. I’m used to hot and humid and I’m getting plenty of that. But mornings are pretty nice. There is an ocean breeze that cools things in the morning and evenings. So it’s just nice typical Florida weather. August is when the real fun starts with the tropical storms. It is supposed to be a busy hurricane season this year. We will see. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

🐕  Diane @DianeB887812 I am totally looking forward to when you get another dog. Do you want male or female or does NOT matter. Puppy, teen or adult?

🐕  Jeremiah (Jack Russell) was my Walking Buddy and Best Pal. Still miss my boy.

I found this on Google, lol - you luv those feisty little dogs. They are SO CUTE and when the time comes, let me know IF you need me to post how to post pictures of him/her.

The Chihuahua is a small dog breed that originated in Mexico. They are known for being intelligent, loyal, and loving. They are also considered to be good companions and lap dogs.

Chihuahuas have a domed skull, large ears, and short muzzles. Their eyes are round and large, and they have a long tail that they carry over their back. Their coats can come in almost any color and pattern.

Chihuahuas can range in temperament from feisty and outgoing to shy and timid.

[DianeB887812]

I had two white chihuahuas up to December of last year. They loved going for walks with me. Everyone that met us along the way were very surprised at how well behaved they were. I got them from a breeder as babies. I had three previous dogs that were mixed breeds and came from the pound. Those dogs all had issues due to their poor experiences in their early lives. I have always loved all my dogs no matter what issues they had, but those two chihuahuas were special to Stephen and I. They were our babies. 
I will probably get a fur baby next year. I need to get myself in a good mind set so that I can raise my new puppy without any social issues. Dogs are very sensitive to their owners mental state and can be affected by an unbalanced owner. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 you know I am DYING to know about your acupuncture  🤔🤔🤔

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereVA ,

I had my third appointment with the acupuncturist on Tuesday. This morning I was awakened at 3:45 with pain that is typically indicative of a whopper migraine to come. I used the acupressure seeds that she placed on my ear, put my heatpack on my head and was able to grab a couple more hours of sleep before it happened again. Here is the great news...I got up, did the seeds again, had breakfast, hung out on the couch for about an hour AND the whopping headache did not materialize!! I am hopeful that this treatment might be working.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 So happy to hear that you may have found a solution to the migraines.  Take care.  ❤️

[DianeB887812]

That is wonderful news @MarcyW882921 !!!!!

[SpringIsHereVA]

I HOPE so dear Marcy @MarcyW882921  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Me too Nicole @SpringIsHereVA .❤️

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by  💃💃💃

Hmmm, a 3:53am ET post = you must have been like me, up when we should be sleeping.  🤔

I luv the dog park idea and SOON we will be hearing about your NEXT furbaby.  👍👍👍

Good luck with releasing his ashes and I seem to remember you mentioning some at the dog park too. Or am I having a Senior Moment?  🙄

Yes, you have to drive for yourself and the OTHER drivers. And I tell my daughter to LET them do their thing even IF she has the RIGHT OF WAY = not worth being shot at.  😱😱😱

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Burial at sea will be this next Tuesday July 23 at Sunset. I wanted him with me longer but he insisted that I perform this task as soon as I was able. He wanted me to move on. What a sweetheart he was. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

Dear Diane @DianeB887812 , will you have family and/or friends there with you?  🤔

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE wrote: Burial at sea will be this next Tuesday July 23 at Sunset. I wanted him with me longer but he insisted that I perform this task as soon as I was able. He wanted me to move on. What a sweetheart he was. ***]

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[DianeB887812]

Stephen did not want a memorial service. So I’m going on my own. I will use Uber to get there and back. He was a very private person. 

[DianeB887812]

My bladder does not let me sleep in sometimes. Once I’m up it’s for the whole day. BIG sigh. 

The good news is I got to the dog park. The bad news is it then started raining. So I’ll just have to try again this weekend. The one person I talked with let me know that a lot of familiar faces both two legged and four are waiting at the rainbow bridge. BIG sigh. 

In Florida you have to watch out for the Q-tips driving as if no one else is on the road. I think I may have joined their ranks. As time goes by my concentration will get better. Till then I’ll try to be on my best behavior.

And yes a dash of Stephen will go to the park. The grass can always use a bit of fertilizer. 😉

[SpringIsHereVA]

How are YOU?  🤔

Lol, I have been up all night!!! 😂🤣

And bet when my 2 alarms (yes, two  🙄) go off at 6am to FEED you know who is when I will be asleep.

It stormed last night and I hope he was under someone's vehicle.

It passed for now and maybe he will surface to sleep as usual on my porch.

Plan for TODAY, last of 4 Dollar Trees hoping this one will have my hair oil or it will be Sally's I guess.

Everyone FIND YOUR PEACE.

Luv you guys,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[DianeB887812]

Good morning speedy. I have now got my car paperwork in my name. That allows me to get a parking sticker for the dog park. Guess where I plan to go today. I just want to say hi to folks that knew Stephen and I and let them know he is gone. I’ll get to pet lots of dogs too. 

Next on my list is to take a boat ride off shore and release his ashes into the ocean

That is where Phil went and that is where I want to go. We will all be together. And no matter where friends or family live, they can find their way to a beach and visit us.

On the subject of poor driving habits, while I was driving back and forth to dyalisis treatments and then the hospital and finally the hospice, I ran stop signs and turned when I was not supposed to I can not tell you how many times. And I have never in my life ever been in an accident or gotten a ticket. I just did not have my mind on my driving. Dangerous. I still have to keep watch on myself. My mind wanders and sometimes I look around and have no idea where I am. So I’m staying home as much as possible. 

when I was grieving my first husband I had to go back to working after two weeks. I got totally lost on my way to work one morning   

So please everyone be carful driving. Sometimes you just have to, but try to concentrate on the driving extra hard. Or better yet get somone else to do the driving for now. 

STAY SAFE!!!!