😱 Would YOU REPORT Child Abuse YOU KNOW About?

[Spring2023]

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I know in the 50's when I was born, this was around. BUT it seems of late I am reading more stories about it.

WE would luv to hear from you! 🙂

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[Spring2023]

(5 comments) I will IF I can do it ANONYMOUSLY and will NOT be "involved" in anyway. Lol, luv living and need to stay alive for my future grandkids.

I just had to do this last week using an email I use when I want to HIDE.

My main one I have my name on.

Now to hope they look into things before my "adopted" 6-year old granddaughter (next door) gets molested.

In fact, she just visited me earlier while her mother and DRUG DEALING boyfriend were out. She was left with her older brother, middle school who obviously was NOT watching her. 😪 Glad she came my way instead of wandering off like she is famous for. NO shoes, hair a hot mess and clothes. Poor baby....😤

Lol, kids will TELL your biz!!! 😂🤣 = I know my daughter did!

I NEVER "ask" this child anything, I just let her talk.

Told me today the NEW boyfriend's name and that he and her mother were running ERRANDS. And you know what those ERRANDS are....

I know I drove my "only" child crazy with being too PROTECTIVE, but I hope I was successful at keeping her SAFE until she left for college at age 18. Kids sometimes will NOT tell us everything....

Nicole 🙂

[EricC227821]

Fully understand your anonymity concerns @Spring2023 , but echoing every other post so far gotta say:

Put yourself in the child's shoes.  Do everything you can as soon as you can.

Your hesitancy is understandable in a culture that still accepts the antisocial notion of 'Snitches Get Stitches', but when children are part of the situation, courage must win out.  If the situation is somehow different from your perception that will be bourne out and no harm done, but if things are as they sound, inaction is loaded with at least as many  regrets as action.

[Spring2023]

(2 comments) Hi Eric @EricC227821 , I stated I have reported it anonymously = did my part. I mind my own biz and keep safe too.

Nicole 🙂

[EricC227821]

Wasn't trying to cast aspersions Nicole, just trying to echo support for your concerns.  I did read the whole thread and could have chosen my words better.

Here's the R.C.A.'d version for your review:

Fully understand your anonymity concerns @Spring2023  , and echoing every other post so far gotta say:

It is good of you to put yourself in the child's shoes and do everything you can as soon as you can.

Your concerns are understandable in a culture that still accepts the antisocial notion of 'Snitches Get Stitches', but when children are part of the situation, courage must win out. If the situation is somehow different from your perception that will be bourne out and no harm done, but if things are as they seem, inaction is loaded with at least as many regrets as action.

[KellytheBelly]

Just a quick question for you, is the little girl's mother the one you said you were having issue with several months ago? Is this the same neighbor you've openly stated you despise and have been watchful of, almost just by looking out a window, or someone you encounter by walking your dog? How well do you know this little girl's mother, other than what you've heard? Have you witnessed her doing, or her beau, doing drugs? Do they seem to be under the influence when you talk to them? Just curious, in order to understand, fully, how you are a part of the mother's intervention, or the children's safety from the mother, and her beau. You also mentioned something about preventing the little girl from being molested ('Now to hope they look into things before my "adopted" 6-year old granddaughter (next door) gets molested.')? When you reported this anonymously, what was your report about (not asking for all the details, but in general)? I do know that a child/preteen in middle school can be of age to watch over a younger sibling, although I'm sure the legal age may vary by state (I think, universally it's '13,' but I'm not 100%). I also know that a 6 year old can have a clean face one minute, and a dirty face the next. I know children walk barefoot, too. Yet, you also explained that the little girl is friendly. I don't think that is evidence of child neglect, per se, she seems like a normal 6 year old little girl to me.

Here's what happens when a report is filed, and then an investigation goes into action, the protective investigator goes to the residence (usually unannounced) and does a checklist, first. Does the child have toys, food, clothes, a bed to sleep in, etc... If the protective investigator finds the child has adequate care, this child will not be removed from the residence. However, when a mother or father are faced with allegations of drug use, or that law enforcement comes into the picture because the mother (or the beau) is on probation, that child or children may be removed from the residence, temporarily, and possibly taken to the maternal or paternal grandparents. If it's determined the child is not being abused, but that the custodial parent has a drug problem, they will require that parent to go to rehabilitative treatment, which is usually outpatient. Once they've met all the court-ordered requirements, the child/children can be returned to their residence. 

Also, if this little girl is your 'adopted' granddaughter, how can you file an anonymous report, and just wash your hands of it? Are you never going to interact with the little girl again? Is that what she deserves? If she does come around, and visits you again, please do not say anything bad about her mother or her mother's beau, okay? Children that age repeat what they hear, as well. K, well, good luck! Have a great Thursday. 🙂

[KellytheBelly]

I do not think child abuse is a laughing matter, at all. Not only am I a survivor (a survivor, yes, but there are the biting long-term effects) of child abuse, I worked with the State of Florida in Child Protective Services (HRS at the time). I was a clerk with the State for 2+ years, and typed up the Court docs, usually done by audio (dictation) or written interviews and case studies. I was horrified at what people were accused of 'allegedly' doing. The cases are either deemed founded or unfounded. I resigned my position when I had a child of my own.

Anyway, if you are serious about protecting a child, do it the right way, and do it right away! You will be interviewed, however, because you are a neighbor. The child, you speak of, will mention you. I was not entirely able to follow what you wrote, either. Children should be our most important concern. They rely on the adults to protect them. But, do not take my advice here, you don't need any advice. You just need to do the right thing. 

[HenryC881468]

Yes I would asap!