🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Winter2024]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Winter2024]

‌‌‌🤔‌‌‌  Any TOPICS you would like the GROUP to discuss? Or questions? Or anything YOU feel may HELP another griever?

Thanks,

Nicole  ‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[Winter2024]

🙏  Guys please keep our Julie @JulieT507376 in YOUR THOUGHTS!!!

She has been SO STRONG with her 1st anniversary of losing Mark drawing NEAR (December 4th).  😭😭😭

NOW she is dealing with WORRY over dear sweet Sadie who hurt her paw while spending Thanksgiving with family.

Julie could NOT get any Medical Care for her YESTERDAY, but hoping TODAY before heading back home.

To some, Sadie is just a dog.

To Julie, this sweet girl was Mark's and STILL IS!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

Hope Julie's Sadie is feeling better. 

[Winter2024]

🤔  Group Discussion: Those DREAMS!!! Do you try to UNDERSTAND them? I know in the past Marcy @MarcyW882921 had mentioned her husband interpreting them. Anyone have a comment?

[MkK700720]

I think sometimes dreams can be telling, but mostly I think they're aftereffects of the day's events. Stress can get the dreams going too. However a dream can be trying to tell us something too.

[Winter2024]

Lol, for awhile it was like EVERY NIGHT I had one and WOKE UP SAD.

Then life gave me a BREAK of a few days.  🙄🙄🙄

So, LAST NIGHT (yes, had one) and although I got up SAD decided I would TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY it happened.

[1] Could a luv one is trying to communicate?

[2] Or life is TRYING to comfort and/or warn me.

*** Number 2 - comfort. While I was SAD an old and dear friend from High School back in Jamaica West, Indies (later ran into in Miami, Florida when I was married) was in it - what he did in the dream REMINDED ME someone did/does CARE. ***

Of late here in Virginia, it has been a CONSTANT AVOIDING DRAMA and it takes a beating on your SOUL.

So LIFE, I have NO idea IF Breeder (his pet name from school, lol) is STILL ALIVE but please THANK HIM wherever he is.  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

I'm sorry you're going through that Nicole. Seems people are under so much stress these days. Watching movies on TV is a good stress reliever. Lots of good series on Roku.

[Winter2024]

🍽  Group Discussion: Anyone else HEALTHY eating? Remember, this will HELP with feeling LESS SAD & keep the DOCTOR bills LOW!!!

[Winter2024]

This Tuesday at Walmart I bought FRESH produce for the 1st time in YEARS!!! And about had my 1st heart attack. The prices.  😱😱😱

But I NEED a NORMAL Medicare Lab for NEXT year 2025. This year's 2024 said I am PRE-DIABETIC.  🙁

RIGHT NOW, I am chopping up broccoli and green pepper to make a KIDNEY BEAN SOUP. Delicious!!!  👍👍👍

[MkK700720]

That is great Nicole. Ready made salads and soups are easy, varied and healthy. 

[jonibee]

Dealing with neighbors who are a hazard to ones serenity and health is toxic..So you do the best to circumvent the situation like you're doing..Ignore them like they not there..I have a neighbor who is obnoxious and crude..I deal with him like he's invisible..But if he crosses the line the law will deal with him..Everybody deserves their own space but have to be considerate of others which is not always the case..In order to save our sanity we have to act accordingly within the legal bounds...So ilive the best way that you can and ignore them ...

[Winter2024]

Thanks Jonibee @jonibee  🤗🤗🤗

The sad part is that SOME folks will RETALIATE. I had one back in FLORIDA (38 years ago) when I had just had my only child. Here I am TRYING to work FULL TIME with a NEWBORN. Female BELOW me would NOT let me or my newborn SLEEP OR NAP.

I had asked her NICELY to TURN DOWN her Zumba Music. My floors were VIBRATING.

Told me she was an INSTRUCTOR and nothing changed.

I try to work with NEW neighbors BEFORE going to OFFICE.

So I reported her to OFFICE.

NEXT DAY, she EGGED MY CAR.

Of course I could NOT PROVE THIS but I called police and the OFFICE let me BREAK the year-lease I had JUST SIGNED.

Then I rented a 2-bedroom house out in the COUNTRY. EMPTY lots on BOTH sides of me and across the street. I did have a lady that worked at my daughter's daycare BEHIND. Didnot know this. Her brat was a NIGHTMARE. No boundaries.

Lol, I am looking for a Small Cottage here in Virginia with PRIVACY & ELECTRIC FENCE.  🤣😂

[MkK700720]

I hope you find a good place Nicole. 

[Winter2024]

📸  Attachment. This is us!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

Oh, I'm sorry Nicole. Days like that are not easy. 

[Winter2024]

🦃  What are YOU GRATEFUL for today in the midst of YOUR GRIEF?   🤗🤗🤗

Me, that Mister (a stray cat) came into my life JUST IN TIME FOR TODAY. My boy!!!

📸  Attachment. Lol, having his too early Thanksgiving Dinner. RAINY day in Virginia. 😞

[MkK700720]

I'm grateful that those who love and care about me understand how I'm feeling these days. I can only do so much every day before I get

tired.

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2024 ,

I am grateful that I woke up this morning, the sun is shining, I have plenty of food, a kitchen to cook in, family, and friends. I am blessed to be able to share these things with others.

Marcy

[Winter2024]

🏡  Group Discussion: 2025 will be here SOON!!! During 2024, WE have discussed CHANGES we made in OUR HOMES. Any "last" minute updates?

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2024 ,

I had my tile floors restored last week and I am having the ceiling fan in my patio replaced on Monday. I went back and forth on the floors, but I am happy with my decision to go forward.

Marcy

[Winter2024]

🐈  I have RELOCATED Mister to another side of my Studio Apartment.

Lol, SMALLER accomodations but hey, I have NOT put him OUT.  🤣😂

This way I have RECLAIMED my space.

From May this year 2024 when I "inherited" him I have been CLIMBING over him while he eats/waters.

Stepped on his TAIL a few times and a LEG once. Needless to say he DEMANDED I LET HIM OUTSIDE IMMEDATELY while telling me off with tail swishing.

And NOT until I "begged" him to come back INSIDE, would he. Just GLARED at me.

My boy!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

That’s how our little friends are!  Totally in control of the food!  Sadie has her spot in the kitchen and will bang her dish with her paw if she thinks it’s time to eat before I think it’s time!  Usually she wins!!  I’m a total push over!  

[Winter2024]

🏥  NOSEY NICOLE wants to know - How was your Ultrasound YESTERDAY Cadee @Cadee2719 ?  🤗🤗🤗

☃️  Did it snow?

[Cadee2719]

  Happy Thanksgiving Nicole.  They took ultrasounds on both wrists and I should get the results in five days.  Funny how they are able to determine rheumatoid arthritis via your wrists.  NO IT DID NOT SNOW!!!!⛄❄️  They keep threatening us with snow and not one snowflake.  Guess I have to wait until Christmas.  My son will be here for dinner.  They put him on a stronger antibiotic and it seemed to help.  I even baked pumpkin pies for the first time!!!!  Glad that you are enjoying "your" cat.  Isn't it nice being OWNED by a cat.  🤣  Take care.

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

Congratulations on baking your first pumpkin pies! Mine is baked and ready to eat as well. Enjoy Thanksgiving with your son!

Marcy

[Winter2024]

🥧  Hmmm, Marcy @MarcyW882921 and Cadee @Cadee2719 , where is MY SLICE?/lol

Enjoy - I am SMELLING BOTH pies all the way here in Virginia from Florida and Idaho.  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

Sweet potato pie is very good too. I'm glad Cadee's son is feeling better. I haven't been able to get on the forum. But wanted to wish you all a peaceful day. Take care!

[Winter2024]

Don't think I have lost it, but I believe even in death, people are still married.

Now it gets sticky when folks decide to get married a 2nd time.  🤔

Just my 1/2 cent.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I agree.  I still wear my wedding ring and considered myself married.  NO PLANS on marrying again.  😁

[Winter2024]

GROUP DISCUSSION: Are you making MEMORIES?  🤔🤔🤔

As I sit here, suppose to be getting dressed to go to the DREADED Walmart - it suddenly occurred to me that 4 YEARS have passed since RETIRING.

Yes, EARLY retirement and thanks to COVID my "planned" return to "then" AFFORDABLE FLORIDA got cancelled.

Okay, I got that!!! Survived and so far have NOT caught COVID.  🙃🙃🙃

Then APRIL 11, 2024 rolls around and about 10am ET my only child, a daughter in FLORIDA, texts me that her and HUNDREDS just got LAID OFF.

No warning, just pack up, turn your equipment in (she was a Hybrid Engineer for Harris L3). Same company I worked for while pregnant with her. Lasted 9 years before my 2nd layoff left nowhere to transfer like lst one. Back then, you were GIVEN TIME to transfer.

TODAY - her severance pay and unemployment have RUN OUT.

So now while she does SEASONAL GIGS while Job Hunting for another Engineering job in FLORIDA (refuses to move back to Virginia where I am), her SAVINGS are dwindling. She has a mortgage and car payment. Mortgage Company has had her mortgaged PAUSED.

So either I BEGIN to figure out how I can RETURN to spending TIME in real life with her or risk the chance of dying before that happens. Yes, the tomorrow is not promised to us.

Yes, taking OUR LEMONS (her job loss, COVID) & making lemonade (memories).  🤗🤗🤗