🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Winter2024]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Cadee2719]

  I agree.  I still wear my wedding ring and considered myself married.  NO PLANS on marrying again.  😁

[Winter2024]

GROUP DISCUSSION: Are you making MEMORIES?  🤔🤔🤔

As I sit here, suppose to be getting dressed to go to the DREADED Walmart - it suddenly occurred to me that 4 YEARS have passed since RETIRING.

Yes, EARLY retirement and thanks to COVID my "planned" return to "then" AFFORDABLE FLORIDA got cancelled.

Okay, I got that!!! Survived and so far have NOT caught COVID.  🙃🙃🙃

Then APRIL 11, 2024 rolls around and about 10am ET my only child, a daughter in FLORIDA, texts me that her and HUNDREDS just got LAID OFF.

No warning, just pack up, turn your equipment in (she was a Hybrid Engineer for Harris L3). Same company I worked for while pregnant with her. Lasted 9 years before my 2nd layoff left nowhere to transfer like lst one. Back then, you were GIVEN TIME to transfer.

TODAY - her severance pay and unemployment have RUN OUT.

So now while she does SEASONAL GIGS while Job Hunting for another Engineering job in FLORIDA (refuses to move back to Virginia where I am), her SAVINGS are dwindling. She has a mortgage and car payment. Mortgage Company has had her mortgaged PAUSED.

So either I BEGIN to figure out how I can RETURN to spending TIME in real life with her or risk the chance of dying before that happens. Yes, the tomorrow is not promised to us.

Yes, taking OUR LEMONS (her job loss, COVID) & making lemonade (memories).  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  They keep telling us the economy is GREAT, there are loads of jobs available.   I pray each night that your daughter will find a job that she will love.  I am glad that you stay in touch with her and support her as you do.  

[Winter2024]

🦃  NOSEY NICOLE wants to know - Marcy @MarcyW882921 , have you started on your menu for Thursday?

Has your guest count increased from 1?

YES, I need to move "closer" to you and the OTHER GOURMET COOK Cadee @Cadee2719 !!! Lol, I HATE to cook.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  I would love to have you and Marcy for Thanksgiving dinner!  I love to cook.

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @Winter2024 , the menu is planned, shopping is done, and only 1 guest. I will however be taking food to a couple of neighbors who are unable to get out.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  Happy Thanksgiving Marcy.  

[Winter2024]

☃️  Hey Cadee @Cadee2719 , did the SNOW arrive? If YES, how was your 1st Snow Experience?  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Not yet.  It is suppose to rain in a few hours and they say it will turn into snow.  Hope we are home by then.    Yesterday would have been the 63 wedding anniversary for me and my husband.  

[Winter2024]

IF I "remember" correctly (NO Senior Moment  🙄),  BOTH Jonibee @jonibee & Cadee @Cadee2719 have MEDICAL appointments TOMORROW.

Please UPDATE us after these appointments when you can/feel up to it.  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

  Hi Nicole.  My son is going to drive me.  I will wear a mask.   I am STILL trying to get my medication.  Urgent Care would not fill it for me.  I called the new doctor I will see in December and they forwarded a prescription for one month.  Don't know why they refused the first time I asked?  They called it into Walgreens and they said it would cost me $145.00!! for one months supply.  Called my insurance company (I spend all my time on the phone) and after about 1/2 hr. said they would cancel the pharmacy order and send me one months supply for $48.00.  That is what I am waiting on now.  This appointment consists of taking ultrasounds on my wrists to confirm that I have rheumatoid arthritis.  I also asked my doctor in CA to send my bloodwork.  This is something he DID NOT do even though he took 44 vials of blood!  I appreciate the fact that my new doctor is verifying the condition before we talk about what I would need to do to deal with the problem.  I DO NOT think all this pain in my legs (which is getting worse) is connected to rheumatoid arthritis and I plan on getting answers from the doctor I will see December 17th.  I truly understand what Jonibee is going through and the frustration of getting the diagnosis.  I know I am old and my body is falling apart but it has been so hard dealing with the medical field here and it is wearing me out.   

[MarcyW882921]

@jonibee and @Cadee2719 

Thinking of both of you. Here's wishing that your medical appointments today are productive in meeting your needs.

Marcy

[jonibee]

I really didn't find out too much from todays appt which ran ove 45 min late ..A generalization that I probably have Arthritis and that an ultra sound will be ordered for abdominal problem..plus I am waiting for a gastroeintestinal appt to be set up..In the meantime take tylenol for any pain..I don't have pneumonia, blood clot, heart problems so that's the good news ..Otherwise I'm still up in the air for a diagnosis as to what the pain is from...I am trying to be possitve in my thinking and go along with the flow...Happy Thanksgiving to All...

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You Marcy    My son is driving me to my appointment.  It is raining and they say it will turn into snow!  So glad that I don't have to drive.

[Winter2024]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , it has been OVER 1 WEEK since your "last" post and NO response to my PM.

I hope you are okay my friend.

I am very concerned.  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

I did just reply to your PM. Hopefully it gets to you!

🤗

Marcy

[Winter2024]

OUR WELCOME MAT IS READY!!!

@jonibee Jonibee,

@mc6844 MC,

@Cadee2719 Cadee,

@JulieT507376 Julie,

@MarcyW882921 Marcy,

[jonibee]

Very nice indeed...May YOU All have a Thanksgiving that is meaningful with those near and dear to your hearts and those who are with us spiritually...

[Winter2024]

🤕  ANY DOCTOR APPOINTMENTS?

[1] Jonibee @jonibee , you probably have some for your Acid Reflux and so on.

[2] Cadee @Cadee2719 , I need to go find your post but my old brain seems to remember the 26th for you.

[3] Lisa @LisaJP6763 , I would think follow ups for your Back Surgery and the PT you mentioned.

*** MC @mc6844 , Julie @JulieT507376 and Marcy @MarcyW882921 ? ***

[4] Me, 1st MEDICARE Bone Dentisty Test on Wednesday.

[jonibee]

I had two xrays of chest and abdomen will find out results hopefully on Tuesday on visit to PM..The Cardiologist feels that a referral to Gastreologist is next...On scripts for indigestion and queasiness...It's still here with me and I don't have a gall bladder as that was removed years ago...Very uncomfortable especially at night as you just can't seem to get comfortable..Elevate head place pillow behind back as I'm a side sleeper..During the day it's isn't as noticeable as distracted by other things ..I feel over tired from lack of sleep due to constant wakening up at night..Hopefully this will demenish or a solution will eventually present itself once the cause is known. Thank You for inquiring as to my current health situation....

[Winter2024]

👋  GOOD Morning All!!!

A stay home day for me = NO driving.  🙃🙃🙃

SO GLAD to be able to look out at my old lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra) parked outside. Those two nights of her being away at her second home of late (mechanic  🙄),  was so depressing. Lol, need my wheels.

In the 30's here, so Mister  🐈  will have to WAIT for this old lady to feel like dealing with the COLD. Have tape on my Studio Apartment door on one side as it lets in COLD AIR, brrr. Got to remove it to let in my boss  🙄🙄🙄  for his breakfast.

He is very lucky I got my car back as it is time to do my Monthly Walmart Cat Food Aisle trip.

Looking forward to chatting with whomever happens to be also getting Cat Food. Never the same Cat Parent and always a funny story about their furbaby. And of course pictures.  👍

SURVIVE today in YOUR way.  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Nicole I'm glad you got your car from the mechanic. I know what that's like. 

[Winter2024]

🎂  MC @mc6844 , you have a birthday THIS SUNDAY - any plans?

🦃  Any Thanksgiving Day plans?

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

Yes Nicole plans and visits.  Plans aren't rigid due to how I'm navigating each day. Lol  That's the way it goes. How are you with the holidays Nicole? 

[Winter2024]

This cat is a trip!!!  🙄🙄🙄

I literally RAN TO AND FROM my mailbox just now (I was GONE about 2 minutes) after locking him INSIDE rather than WAKE his spolit a.s up. Yes, put him back OUTSIDE before I left.

As soon as I OPEN my door (back from mailbox), out FLIES Mister, tail SWISHING = how dare you!!!

Lol, my boy.  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Lol he sounds like a character 

[Winter2024]

🙏  Guys, please keep Lisa's @LisaJP6763 husband in your thoughts.

Unless he gets RESCHEDULED AGAIN  😤😤😤,  Shoulder Surgery should be TOMORROW.

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Winter2024]

🙏  Guys, please keep Cadee's @Cadee2719 son in your thoughts.

Our dear friend is already dealing with those old lady's health issues herself, now son has pneumonia.  😭😭😭

WE LUV YOU CADEE!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Oh no. Prayers for both 

[Winter2024]

📸  Attachment  📸  1:14pm ET I am home with my old lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra).

Faulty battery. NEW battery and NEW alternator for free.

Nicole  🙃🙃🙃