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dad diabetic and health frail mom has dementia

Hello I  help my parents with medical info, cooking meals, cleaning house, and just visiting. My dad does everything the Dr's say but my mom acknowledges it then doesn't want to  follow  the  Dr's advice .  She was a hard woman before the dementia  so it is hard to help her. I love both my parents but am at a loss when she gets it into her head to decide we need something while at the store when we don't or if she doesn't get what she wants she literally  will throw something  like a child's  tantrum. My father has her at night when the are ready for bed and on the weekends and he totally  keeps the peace by giving in all the time. I just don't know which of us is doing more harm to her, me by treating her like a child with simple explanation  and firm enforcement if needed or my dad by babing  her and giving in. I see this taking a toll on him and his health is fragile so I want to relieve some of his stress. Sorry  to  just  ramble on but here is my question . ....is her behavior typical  of a vascular dementia patient ? She will go along and be with you in the moment then when she doesn't get her way she acts out. Is this normal? Any ideas on how to handle? I have tried patiently  explaining, showing her the correct thing, even trying to redirect her attention but no go. I don't want to make it worse but I  feel she is more cognizant  of what she is doing and where she is then she let's on...I  could  be  wrong  and I  am  afraid  of doing  more  harm. Anyone  have  this  happen  to them?I  would  appreciate  any information  or  advice  that may help me. Thanks for listening

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