Hi @el302 , and thanks for your post. I completely agree with you that many of the resources I see (and how caregiving families are often portrayed in books or on film) are based on the idea that families have lots of money to take care of each other, hire help, and so on. In movies, they always have nice gardens and live in a home that has a dock. That is not the reality for most people, however. I can't shake the knowledge of the statistic that 63% of Americans do not have enough savings to pay for a $500 emergency. We do need to be talking about what we can do when caregiving emergencies happen for this 63%.
I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. You are doing a tremendous amount of work and medical tasks that you probably don't have the professional training to do. Like so many of us, you're winging it because that's the best we can do when there's no one else available to help. I have a few questions that may help myself and the people on this board brainstorm some ideas with you on how we can keep your mom safe and healthy and you sane. First, does your mom have any sort of diagnosis? If so, what is it? Also, to what extent have you discussed the need for her to reside in a facility where she will receive the proper level of care? Have you thought about or researched Medicaid in your state and facilities that accept Medicaid?
Okay, I don't want to bombard you with questions. Take care, and keep posting.
P.S. And, by the way, I think "Boy, Are We Not Prepared" would be a super title for a book about caregiving. At least, in my case, it would be appropriate!
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