@JeniferG363774 Jenifer it sounds like you are in a very very difficult situation. You must feel trapped, relying on the home you're living in which your brother owns, and yet living there requires that you care for your mother. It's a terrible conundrum.
First, I'm wondering if your mother qualifies for Medicaid, and if so, she should have a case manager who can help arrange in-home services. If she needs medication management, help bathing etc., Medicaid could pay for those in-home services. Have you talked with anyone about that? That would lift the burden from you a bit and take you out of the "medication-reinforcment" role. Then you could still be there for other things she needs, but someone else would be taking care of some of her care.
Another option is family mediation with your brother (and potentially your mother too) to discuss the situation with an objective third party and come up with workable solutions. You can go to mediate.com to find an eldercare or family focused mediator.
How is your child dealing with all of this? How old is he/she?
Let me know about the Medicaid issue and we'll go from there!
So glad you reached out - and so sorry you are dealing with this!
Take care,
Take care,
Amy Goyer, AARP Family & Caregiving Expert
Author, Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving and
Color Your Way Content When Caring for Loved Ones